What if the “peace” you’re protecting in your marriage… is actually costing you real connection?

In this episode, we’re unpacking how passivity can disguise itself as love—especially in Christian marriages. We’ve seen it in our own relationship: moments when silence looked like patience, but it was actually fear. Times when we avoided conflict, convinced we were being kind or godly, but bitterness was the fruit.

We explore:

• Why passivity is not the same as peacekeeping
• How we can accidentally mislabel people-pleasing & call it love 
• Why stuffing your voice for the sake of love can slowly erode intimacy

3  self-reflection questions :

💭 Is there a situation where I told myself I was “loving” or “being patient”… but now I feel resentful, bitter, or shut down?

💭 Where am I avoiding action, conversation, or boundaries because I’m afraid of how someone will react?

💭 Am I hoping someone else will just “get it” or change, while I silently keep score or build a case in my head?

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