Do you ever tire of fighting life? Have you realized yet that YOU are in the driver’s seat, crashing into the wall? Life doesn’t work very well when we force it, and it certainly doesn’t lead to fulfillment. That’s because when you crowd the space with strategies to resist and control what is, you don’t give life the chance to deliver the good stuff. When you’re so focused on what you think you want, barreling ahead without a crack open for something you haven’t orchestrated, you arrive to find something missing.

When in a state of resistance, we push against the natural flow of life, taking actions that further enmesh us in resistance. Instead of releasing us, these actions tie us up even further, frustrating us because we aren’t getting what we “want.” Why should life, which has been going on for billions of years without your input, suddenly need to be set up perfectly for it to be successful? Can’t you be fine no matter what life chooses to do? Yes, you can, but your rigid rules about how life is supposed to be keep you stuck in resistance. Those rules say your happiness is dependent on the external, which you have no control over. And if you DO end up getting what you want, it’s often anti-climactic.

Instead of feeling the heaviness and tension that comes from resisting, try surrendering to what is. Accept what’s in front of you. Even though it’s uncomfortable to deal with your emotions, disappointment and stubborn ideas of how you want your life to be, it actually makes life easier. Little miracles start to happen when you let go and accept. I know because I’ve tried it and I’m hooked! When you stop pushing against life and allow its mysteries to unfold, things start to change… and some pretty amazing opportunities show up.