When we believe thoughts like "I have to go to work" or "I need to say yes to my partner" and we're resentful, this is really like living in slavery. You can find freedom by questioning your thinking. You don't even have to DO anything, the natural and loving way will be revealed. Who would you be without your story of "I have to"?

Acting as if....turning around an awful moment.

When we believe "I screwed up" it's not always the best approach to resolving or correcting a situation. Here's why.

Ten years ago, I thought I needed more money so badly...there would be terrible consequences if I didn't get more. The worst that could happen, i thought, was having to go live with my mother. I did The Work on that future, terrible imagined situation and found, maybe if it went that way, it would be the best that could ever happen. I felt lightness and joy about the future, after I did that work. And I never moved in with my mother.

Those people who say "no" well seem to be confident, sure of themselves, great leaders, clear! But maybe you can say no, in your own less-perfect way. Here are some sentences you can practice for saying "no" and getting more comfortable. You didn't know how before, and with rehearsing, you get better and better.

Byron Katie mentions when we believe our thoughts, we suffer, and when we question them, we don't. Who would you be without your story of making a mistake, or that other person making one? How strange (but interesting, and a relief) to find something good coming out of these so-called "mistakes" and the freedom from guilt. It's kinder.

Everyone has voices in their head, sometimes that oppose each other, or don't even feel natural. One of my favorite exercises while doing The Work is to feel and be with each question, very thoroughly, very physically. How would it feel, with this thought....and without it?

We are told and invited over and over again to do The Work on OTHER people, not ourselves. But here's a little confession about me. My first public worksheet? Yup. It was on myself. Something I felt horribly ashamed of, and guilty, and thought I'd never get over.

Everyone wants to do The Work of Byron Katie on themselves. Even though we're told not to. How can we imagine who we'd be without our stories? Here's how.

I work with many people, including myself, who think "self-inquiry, or The Work of Byron Katie doesn't work for me!" 

I love finding out why. Over time, working with others, the little bumps and barriers along the way fall apart, or dissolve (that's the good news). 

There is nothing and no one who can't benefit from inquiring to the truth about their mind, if they want to.