Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane Xuereb

It’s really hard for me to choose which points to highlight because once again it’s filled with so many beautiful insights and wisdom.

Here are some of them:

*Sensuality and integrating it more into our lives

*Women and the many roles they play in society, easy to forget who they are

*How people can come back to themselves through movement

*Do you express your sensuality, if so how do you do that?

*Are you stepping fully into your feminine power?

*In how far are you expressing yourself fully?

*Where do you need a boundary in your life?

*Who is stepping over your boundaries?

*Where do you need to be more like ‘this’ in your life?

*Where do you need to be less like ‘this’? This being whatever it may be.

*Are you open to receiving?

*Are you more of a giver?

This and so much more, I invite you to listen and if you feel that someone could benefit from these conversations please feel free to share them.

I always have a vision of what an episode should sound like, (crying is not included), for it to be able to have some sort of impact on whoever listens. I guess I have absolutely no control over that, every single conversation has a different story and takes a life of its own. Albeit with a similar message and those who need to hear it will do so.

I cannot really express what this conversation did for me because words would not do it justice.  It was a very moving and emotional experience and impacted me.

I’ll do my best to highlight a few of the things that struck me but really and truly all of it is bursting with wisdom and experience.

Jenny never gave up on her dreams. It is never too late to start something, to study, to find a new job or to write a book for that matter.

Jenny: “I always knew, as a knowing, that there was something more, always but I kept it to myself because I knew it was sacred".

Find out how old Jenny was the first time she found a job,  when she wrote her book and how it came into being.

Is there a book you want to write but talk yourself out of writing it??

How often have you put yourself last instead of first???

Do you allow yourself to feel joy?

Do you spend more time doing or being?

Are you giving yourself permission to be who you are?

Take a listen, I would love to hear from you.

If you would love to be a guest, or if you know someone who would be a great guest, please get in touch via email,  or send me a personal message.

In this Episode

Do you know what is at stake when you stop yourself from doing anything your heart calls you to do??

Anke’s perspective about what is at stake, after she left East Germany changed the way I look at taking a risk.

Listen to how leaving her home town forever changed the way she looked at doing things that were calling her to take action!!

She asked herself this question: If I could have anything, what would I wanna do?

When did you ask yourself that question, dear listeners??

Think about it, do we really take risks, does it involve courage or are we gearing up to fight a paper tiger??

How many times have you said yes when you meant no?

Saying yes when we mean NO can cost us soooo much.

Have you got any idea, ANY IDEA how POWERFUL it is to be you without having to apologise about it??

In this Episode

Do you know what is at stake when you stop yourself from doing anything your heart calls you to do??

Anke’s perspective about what is at stake, after she left East Germany changed the way I look at taking a risk.  

Listen to how leaving her home town forever changed the way she looked at doing things that were calling her to take action!!

She asked herself this question: If I could have anything, what would I wanna do?

When did you ask yourself that question, dear listeners??

Think about it, do we really take risks, does it involve courage or are we gearing up to fight a paper tiger??

How many times have you said yes when you meant no?

Saying yes when we mean NO can cost us soooo much.

Have you got any idea, ANY IDEA how POWERFUL it is to be you without having to apologise about it??

As I listened to the recording the following statement really struck me.

Emma, " It almost looked as if, if I told myself and bullied myself, it somehow protected me from others doing it!!"

Is there anything you punish yourself for, it could be unconscious or conscious??

Stop and think about it if you will, it really is worth inquiring.

Nothing you have done in the past deserves punishment.

Listen to why Emma was punishing herself and it was only until she forgave herself that she saw that what she was doing to herself was not really about what was happening.  “I thought I was an evil person and I thought I should be punished”

Emma, 'I am weird'.

Diane, 'What is your definition of weird Emma? Tell me three things about yourself that you think is weird?'  Listen to what she had to say about it.

What I think: To me, it's simple, weird is a label that we give to others or ourselves because it does not fit with our ideal version of self or others.

In truth no one is weird, everyone is unique in the way they show up in the world, just because it doesn’t fit with how you think one should behave or be in the world does not make it weird.

All the above and more.

As I listened to the recording the following statement really struck me.

Emma, " It almost looked as if, if I told myself and bullied myself, it somehow protected me from others doing it!!"

Is there anything you punish yourself for, it could be unconscious or conscious??

Stop and think about it if you will, it really is worth inquiring.

Nothing you have done in the past deserves punishment.

Listen to why Emma was punishing herself and it was only until she forgave herself that she saw that what she was doing to herself was not really about what was happening.  “I thought I was an evil person and I thought I should be punished”

Emma, 'I am weird'.  

Diane, 'What is your definition of weird Emma? Tell me three things about yourself that you think is weird?'  Listen to what she had to say about it.

What I think: To me, it's simple, weird is a label that we give to others or ourselves because it does not fit with our ideal version of self or others.

In truth no one is weird, everyone is unique in the way they show up in the world, just because it doesn’t fit with how you think one should behave or be in the world does not make it weird.

All the above and more. 

In this episode, Leanne talks about how being herself helped deepen her relationships and made some of the friendships more meaningful.  She found that she either attracted people or repelled them.  She made a lot of new friends and she did not lose that many friends,    " a lot less than I would have expected". She also managed to let go of many of the perceptions she had about what other people would think about her and she realised that many of the negative vibes that she was picking up were not from her friends but herself. 

 Expand by Leanne Webber

You stay small for far too long. Bound. Contracted. Waiting for someone to hear your song. They can't  You're muted.  Yes, you are moving along.  But slowly. You're stunted. Always worried you're doing it wrong. Self-conscious. Inhibited.  Scared of showing your true colours. Not seen. Invisible. It's safer to blend into the crowd. Be the same. Predictable.  Stop wondering what others think. Who cares? It's your journey. For fuck sake stop judging yourself. We all make mistakes. It's learning.  Now is the time to take a risk. If it doesn't work out You'll get over it. Rest when you need to but then give it your all. It's your time and energy. Use it.  You're much better than you think. Believe. Accept it. Uniquely you. With your special kink. Show it to the world. Own it.  It's time to stop hiding yourself.  Show up. Step out. Find your voice. Express yourself. Scream. Shout.  Drink in every moment selflessly. Taste it. Enjoy it. Give others the freedom to do the same. Encourage. Allow it.  Give yourself permission to live your dreams. Take up space. Be. Inspire others to be who they are. Love. See.  Give all that you have and take what you need. Serve. Demand. Let your petals  Slowly unfurl. Bloom. Expand.

In this episode, Christine shares something that she had never talked about publicly before.  She also talks about how her gifts could have been misunderstood in the past so she hid them until she realised that she was given these gifts to help others heal.  

"I love helping people to find their pattern of possibilities, to get away from vicious cycles as they get stuck and that can be anything from, pain, depression to finances and work or just love and relationships."

This was a great conversation with some lovely nuggets about the power of being ourselves.  

I hope you enjoy it as much as Christine and I did recording it. 

A discussion about how being ourselves is the most powerful thing we can do for ourselves and ultimately for others.