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The one thing you need to build your self worth. That's promises. Believe it or not self worth and self confidence are two different pieces of the same family. They're not built in the same way. Confidence is bred externally by putting yourself in situations that make you uncomfortable and working through them. Worth is bred internally by constantly making promises to yourself and keeping them.

However there's a danger here that needs addressing. If you tell yourself you're going to do something, and you don't do it, this is a form of self betrayal. Self betrayal leads to less trust in yourself. You therefore lower your belief in yourself in handling situations that are uncertain. If you have no control in the situation, you start to feel anxious. This is where anxiety breeds from. This frequent confirmation in not being able to handle uncertainty by not following through with tasks you give yourself.

Following the tips in this episode, I teach you the step by step process of how you will start on your journey of overcoming anxiety, building trust in yourself to handle uncertainty, and eventually establishing a high level of self worth.

This isn't an overnight process. However, if you keep at it, it's inevitable that you will heal.

Pain. We all go through it. It's unavoidable. At the same time it's always curable. Mental Health, Mental Illness or whatever you label it as, it's something you can be freed from with your own self healing.

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You need to take action and dedicate yourself to this 12 step process. It's not easy to convince yourself that healing it possible when you've been "diagnosed" with depression or been told you're going to live with anxiety for your entire life. I was medically diagnosed with depression and suggested medication for it. I said no.

Over the years I have worked my butt off daily to help heal my pains to not overcome them, but to make them my ally. It's a blessing in disguise, something that I will touch on during this episode.

The 12 step process talked on during this episode is taken from the traditional 12 steps used since 1935 to heal people from addiction be it alcohol or drugs. Tony Robbins a world class psychologist talks about our problems being the biggest addiction of all. Thus this process is the perfect tool to free us from our problems.

The variation I have personally utilized is Russel Brand's 12 step process he uses in his book "Recovery". I then dive deep into the science based methods of each step to be actioned in order for you to heal yourself from your own pains.

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Nicole LePera also known as The Holistic Psychologist is a deeply experienced and renowned player in the mental health scene. She's recently exploded on Instagram because of her scientific and truthful approach to what was quotes mental illness, now shown to be curable subconscious issues created from old wounds.

We discuss how issues such as depression and anxiety can be temporarily freed from the horrible symptoms we experience through medication such as SSRI's (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors). However in the frequent consumption of these, our body becomes adaptive, and then requires excess stimulation or consumption in order to produce these feel good hormones. This does not solve the underlying issue of the true mental health issues we face as humans. Our mind needs to undergo a a lifelong phase of self healing, an expression Nicole has come up with to embody the idea that we are responsible for the healing of our own issues, and that it's possible no matter how big the scars.

Some great practical tips for overcoming these issues on your own are also discussed, as well as why we as humans are addicted to our problems, and our most common fears that we face in today's society.

You can find Nicole LePera at https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/ and via Instagram @the.holistic.psychologist

I highly recommend reaching out to her if you're in need of therapy, as I myself have done with her in the past. Pay attention to her Instagram posts, as there is so much untold truths being showcased on her page that today's society still doesn't talk on enough.

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What insecurities do you face? Do you even know what they are specifically and where they came from?

Marnie being an amateur-professional Bikini Athlete at the most recent 2018 Olympia says it all. Here female perspective is refreshing for all of us. We see these "painting" like pictures of these athletes on Instagram, on magazines and even on TV. This becomes our reality of what expectation becomes, an unsustainable approach to looking like someone pulled out a drawing board and sketched the muscles on the person we look up to.

She willingly displays vulnerability for us to see the true struggle behind starting in the fitness industry, the floors in the competing mindset, and how to become stronger mentally so that you no longer shift focus to comparing yourself to others.

Lastly, she touches on why she temporarily deleted Instagram, a very interesting approach to clearing focus.

Apologies for the poor sound quality on Marnie's end, it was my first time recording via Skype. I promise future recordings will be more clear!

Follow Marnie Al-Saraf

Instagram: @marniefit

Podcast: Healths Kitchen Podcast

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It's now 2019, and we're all coming in strong with some crazy life changing resolutions. Now this is a good thing because it shows a desire for change. A desire to produce a better version of ourselves. However, will you action it this year, or will it turn out like 99% of all of your other resolutions. Dead by January the 21st.

We all have our own giants, so start there. Start by facing the giants you have deep down trying to protect you from yourself. Whether that's low self worth, jealousy, anger, depression, anxiety, discouragement, low motivation - they're all giants we have to face at some point. Even if you fall into your subconscious to protect yourself from your own struggles, they all surface eventually. Action on these, and make your giants conquerable through the methods described in this episode.

While listening, I want you to ask yourself this one question consistently, and notice how throughout the podcast it changes considerably. The question is "who are you really?". Is this something you can answer in depth without hesitation? I guarantee your answer to that now will change after listening, and you will have a whole new power in personal development through a new self awareness.

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