Podcasts – Caught in the Cogs

Episode 48: Courage, Integrity, and After-Care Respect (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

Many people just don’t know how to respond when someone comes out and says they’ve been assaulted. They fall into what culture has shown us, unfortunately for the victim, that culture is a rape culture.

Learn how to appropriately and compassionately respond to a victim of abuse and/or sexual assault. Learn what to say to them to help them feel safe and loved. Learn what to say to the accused.

It’s up to us.

Courage, Integrity, and After-Care Respect (Podcast)

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Episode 47: Responsible Community Response (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

Many people just don’t know how to respond when someone comes out and says they’ve been assaulted. They fall into what culture has shown us, unfortunately for the victim, that culture is a rape culture.

Learn how to appropriately and compassionately respond to a victim of abuse and/or sexual assault. Learn what to say to them to help them feel safe and loved. Learn what to say to the accused.

It’s up to us.

Responsible Community Response (Podcast)

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Episode 46: The Power of Responsibility (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

To take responsibility for one’s own actions, to be able to say “I fucked up, and I’m sorry,” is very healing and compassionate. It speaks to a loving person with great self-awareness and courage to do so, and the result is more respect from your community and more love in your life.

Stand up. Be a man. Accept responsibility for your actions and show your strength of character by apologizing. Remember, you don’t have to be “wrong” to apologize. You don’t have to be “wrong” to admit that another person has been deeply hurt or traumatized. Acknowledgement and apology. So powerful, indeed.

The Power of Responsibility (Podcast)

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Episode 45: A Fate Worse Than Death… (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

It is often described as a “fate worse than death,” and, it is. In many ways. This podcast mostly focuses on what is known as “the rape culture,” what that means, and how very prevalent it is.

Thank you for listening.

A Fate Worse Than Death… (Podcast)

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Episode 44: Exposing Predditors (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

Exposing perverts like Violentacrez (aka Michael Brutsch) and other Reddit users to post to such subreddits like CreepShots, RapingWomen, and Jailbait.

Name and shame, that’s the only way to effectively deal with predators and rapists until the laws catch up and protect citizens. It’s up to us and our communities.

Exposing Predditors (Podcast)

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Episode 43: Positively Sex-Positive (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault & rape.

Sex-Positive is a trendy term meaning, again, different things to different people, but it mostly means that sex isn’t something to be ashamed of or feel guilty about. It’s about enjoying sex. Seeing it as a beautiful, natural expression of love and desire.

Unfortunately, much like the “free love” movement in the 60s, this budding sex-positive culture is being taken over by the predators who use trendy terms and conscious-sounding phrases to prey, exploit, and discard others. Usually women. The term is being used to excuse predatory behavior and perversions, like bestiality, incest, and sexual assault.

Be truly sex-positive and openly discuss how to keep yourself and your loved ones safe. Discuss how to deal with predators in your community and how to deal with sexual assault. That’s sex-positive.

Positively Sex-Positive (Podcast)

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Episode 42: Poly vs. Amory (Podcast).

**Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape.

Welcome back, once again, to the Polyamory Podcast. It has been several months since I recorded a podcast, but I’m very happy to be back.

This installment talks about the word “polyamory” and how it is being used and misused, how some polyamorous communities perpetuate abuse and assaults by turning a blind-eye, and about the importance of investing in one relationship at a time.

Poly vs. Amory (Podcast)

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Episode 41: Building a Romantic Relationship (Podcast).

The best advice I can give you is the same advice I’ve been given again and again, and have promptly ignored because I was swept up in passion.

Take your time. Protect yourself. Open your heart to love, but keep your eyes open as well.

Building a Romantic Relationship (Podcast)

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Episode 40: The Joy of Sex (Podcast).

Welcome back to the Poly Podcast!

This week! The Joy of Sex, and what a joy it can be. Remember, it’s a gift you give yourself and your lover. It’s sacred. It’s beautiful. It can be utterly profound.

Treat it as such.

Never use sex to punish or control. It’s like spitting in the face of The Divine. Only monsters do such things.

The Joy of Sex (Podcast)

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Episode 39: Gaslighting (Podcast).

One of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse…

Named after the film Gaslight, it subtly and slowly makes the target question his/her reality, deferring to the abuser. After weeks, months, or years of this, the target no longer knows what’s real and has completely lost their sense of self, but the worst part of it is they rarely know it as they’ve been slowly brainwashed that entire time. They only realize it when they’re out of the toxic relationship and can gain some perspective and support. Please, be on the lookout for early signs of Gaslighting. It is insidious and traumatic.

Gaslighting (Podcast)

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