Podcasts – Caught in the Cogs

Episode 38: Jealousy vs. Compersion (Podcast).

Compersion is a word coined for the polyamorous lifestyle meaning to find happiness when your partner is happy or experiencing joy rather than feeling jealous about it. It is indeed a choice. Jealousy does not just go away on its own, as it was taught to us in society, but we can make a choice to deal with the roots of our jealousy and choose compersion instead.

Jealousy vs. Compersion (Podcast)

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Episode 37: Insidious Lies (Podcast).

The most insidious lies are the ones we want to hear…or sometimes the ones we tell ourselves. Learn some of the lies predators tell to get your trust, and please learn to recognize the signs early and protect yourself from heartbreak and betrayal.

Insidious Lies (Podcast)

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He’s Scared, She’s Scared. Highly Recommended Book on Commitmentphobes.

Episode 36: Lucky, Lucky Poly People (Podcast).

Luck has nothing to do with it. So many people look at those in open or non-monogamous relationships and think we are so lucky to have fallen into such a fulfilling lifestyle! Sex! Lots of hot sex! Or so they think. Let’s address these misconceptions, shall we?

Lucky, Lucky Poly People (Podcast)

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Episode 35: Yes Means Yes (Podcast).

Enthusiastic Consent. Wait for it. There is nothing sexier than your partner meeting you enthusiastically as you proceed through the sexual dance. If they’re not enthusiastic, STOP. Slow down. Check in. Something. Sex is a gift you give to each other. It is not something you take for yourself. Ensure your partner is right there with you every step of the way.

Yes Means Yes (Podcast)

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Episode 34: Emotional & Sexual Predators (Podcast).

Please, please, please check out this list of warning signs to see if you’ve encountered an emotional or sexual predator. They usually seem charming and sweet, especially at first, so protect your heart against these parasites. All too often, they themselves have no idea they are predators, so it’s up to you to protect yourself. As a therapist once told me, someone can pretend quite well for at least three months and sometimes up to a year or more, depending on the amount of time you see them. If you live together or see each other daily, it shouldn’t take longer than three months. Take your time and learn about each other slowly. Don’t invest more than you’re able to lose.

Emotional & Sexual Predators (Podcast)

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Episode 33: Emotional Vampires (Podcast).

Emotional Vampires are sometimes hard to spot, but we discuss some warning signs that you  might have encountered an emotional vampire. If you’re in an intimate relationship with one, it can be extremely exhausting and damaging. Beware.

Emotional Vampires (Podcast)

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Episode 32: Please Release Me (Podcast).

Sexual release through masturbation, starting with treatment for “Hysteria” in the Victorian Era. From misogyny to sexual freedom among women…

Also, I’ll answer a reader’s concern on the podcast. Please call in with your relationship issue to 512.943.2271 to record your question or write to me with your concerns.

Please Release Me (Podcast)

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Episode 31: Everybody Lies (Podcast).

Everybody lies…or do they? Unfortunately, too many people lie or deceive out of fear or laziness. Sometimes just because they have no integrity. If you’re a good, honest person, approach new relationships with a healthy dose of skepticism, but don’t let them turn you into a liar. Keep honest and let them build trust. Words + Supporting Action + Reliability Over Time = Trust.

Everybody Lies (Podcast)

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Episode 30: Human Touch (Podcast).

The touch of another human being can be a powerful source of healing, not only for what’s going on inside your own heart and mind, but for your relationship as a whole. The gesture of a loving touch given freely and frequently throughout your days can transform your relationship from one that feels empty and distant to one that is full of love and affection. So please, just reach out and touch your spouse. Often. It only takes a fraction of a second, and it can change your entire life.

Human Touch (Podcast)

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Episode 29: Sharing Your Lifestyle (Podcast).

If your sexual preference or lifestyle is “controversial” by society’s terms, you might find yourself questioning whether or not to share it with your family and friends. For those who are GLBT, the answer is increasingly yes, and I couldn’t be more pleased. Society is *slowly* moving past tolerance into acceptance around GLBT. Finally.

Alternative lifestyles are a different story. They are not understood or accepted by society, although I see that *slowly* changing as well. More and more people I meet not only know the term polyamory, but they often know someone who is living an open lifestyle. But the question remains…do you share this with your more conservative friends/family?

Sharing Your Lifestyle (Podcast)

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