Podcasts – Caught in the Cogs

Episode 18: Breaking the Betrayal Bond.

Sometimes called Stockholm Syndrome, a betrayal bond is an inexplicable bond one makes with his/her abuser. Until that bond is recognized and broken, the victim of abuse cannot heal or move forward. Often times, we see the periods between abuse as kindness, and we start to empathize with our abuser. It is very important to recognize this pattern and break it. For links to helpful books and the quotes from the sources spoken about in this podcast, please visit the original blog post.

Breaking the Betrayal Bond (Podcast)

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Episode 17: For Better or For Worse.

As in the traditional marriage vows, we promise to stay together for better or for worse. And yes, in rough times like through financial difficulty or illness, we must honor our commitment to each other and work through it, but what if the “worse” is losing love and respect for each other. What if the “worse” is emotional or physical abuse? There are things far things “worse” than ending a relationship that is not serving either of you.

For Better or For Worse (Podcast)

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Episode 16: You Don’t Turn Me On.

In every relationship, as time progresses and the real world settles in, sexual and passion often fall to the side. Instead of looking elsewhere for that euphoric fix, try reconnecting with your spouse/SO first, opening communication, and talking about your options together.

You Don’t Turn Me On (Podcast)

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Episode 15: Breakup > Suffering Abuse.

Although breakups can be extremely painful and difficult, sometimes takes months or years to get over, it is always better than staying in an abusive or unhealthy relationship.

Breakup > Suffering Abuse (Podcast)

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Episode 14: Sex as a Gift.

Too many people in our society devalue sex, and it’s unfortunate because, ultimately, sex is a beautiful gift. Get a woman’s perspective as to why.

Sex as a Gift (Podcast)

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Episode 13: The Strength of Inara.

An exploration of the Firefly character Inara Serra and her inherent strength in the face of impossible love.

The Strength of Inara (Podcast)

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Episode 12: Rebuilding Your Sense of Self.

It is very important, as you work through the stage of grief after a failed (and especially an abusive) relationship to rebuild your self-esteem, even though we may feel shattered at the loss of a love or a betrayal.

Rebuilding Your Sense of Self (Podcast)

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Episode 11: Love at First Sight.

Do you believe in Love at First Sight?

Love at First Sight (Podcast)

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Episode 10: Pathological Passion.

The root word for passion is the greek pathos, meaning “to suffer.” Same as the root word for pathological. I talk a bit about how passion might cloud our judgement and how to tell if someone is really into you or if they’re likely lying.

Pathological Passion (Podcast)

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Episode 9: Ethical Responsibility.

If we know about a deception that could destroy a marriage or relationship, do we have an ethical responsibility to tell the wronged party? Would you want to be told? What if you found out your best friend knew and said nothing? In this podcast, I explore the ethical questions surrounding infidelity.

Ethical Responsibility (Podcast)

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