This guy probably scammed me for beer money. He said he worked for the temple — and insisted that I ring a large gong — but my “donation” of 5-ish dollars turned into beer, not Buddhism. 

I liked him. We talked:

• The easeful acceptance of transwomen in Thailand (Ladyboys)
• How women were bought from poor families in the recent past
• Why men still pay a fee for their bride — even if she earns

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Featuring Melissa Belongea, a relationship coach and person who insists on truth, healing, and depth in her personal connections.

Hear more about:

• Man/woman differences in what we disclose to our lovers and how/when
• The ways an anxiously attached partner "overperforms" and might overwhelms their lover
• Self-worth issues at the core of relational distress
• And borrow someone else's nervous system

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A discussion of traditions, limitations, and the folklore of Hội An with a Vietnamese mother of two.

• “Kidnap Marriage” and why it persists today
• How everything has two faces (ask the dead)
• Why men are “always right”
• How the war echoes in Vietnam

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In this episode, my guest and I look at the felt-experience of our lives without the lens of our social constructions. (Or at least we try to see without that lens.)

• Kicking the tires of the feminist movement (they hold air, but might need to be rotated).
• Feeling "beyond gender" in relationships. Watching energies shift depending on our partner.
• Handling BS in the workplace as a young female-bodied person
• Why the Barbie movie ends in seamless patriarchy

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Coffee with a woman in Vietnam.

• Why more Vietnamese women than men speak English
• How life chooses our social roles for us
• The responsibilities of children

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Recorded on a motor boat up the Amazon, this episode features a European woman living and loving in Peru, along with:

• Personal thoughts (from her journal) about what she desires in a partner
• Latin sexual harassment vs. European sexual harassment
• Why women enforce patriarchal norms on other women
• How to respond to street hecklers

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If you'd like your (anonymous) story of gender and relationships featured on this podcast, email me:

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We think of intimacy as sexual. But it starts with quiet moments of self, says intimacy coach Madelina Ecclesia.

I agree.

Also:

• The animal appeal of relationships that verge on pathology
• Why guys on motorcycles win hearts — even if they're crying
• And a discussion of the new expectations placed on men

To connect with Madelina online… mad-life.com

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Travel makes people soft and strong, responsible and complete.

Evidence:

This Russian woman (interviewed in Vietnam) found herself in travel and is embodying her power in relationships.

This means:

• Giving space to a partner
• Overcoming fears of abandonment
• Ditching romantic impositions from the movies and songs
• The bizarre, tragic practice of ghosting our former lover

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If you'd like your (anonymous) story of gender and relationships featured on this podcast, message me:

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A conversation with a German man during breakfast while overlooking the Amazon in Peru.

We talk about his experiences living with Indigenous peoples along with his perceptions of whether women or men wield more power in those communities.

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If you'd like your (anonymous) story of gender and relationships featured on this podcast, message me:

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An interview with two shamanic practitioners in Peru.

If you're living in the West and confused about whether people can be gloriously kind, forgiving, humble, or committed to truth and fairness, this is the episode for you.

I'm going to go ahead and put these two on a pedestal for a minute and embarass them. They're great people.

Also:

• The horrors of machismo
• The gender of various plant medicines
• How feminism and a return to old ways have affected Peru

If you're interested in contacting Jeanette and Walter (via Peru Shamans), I encourage you to do so: https://perushamans.com/

In general, Westerners should not pursue plant medicine in Latin America due to concerns of theft, sexual violence, spiritual violence, and fraud.

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If you'd like your (anonymous) story of gender and relationships featured on this podcast, message me:

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Website: polarityunscripted.com

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