In this week’s raw and honest episode, we’re going deep. Deeper than porn. Deeper than behavior. This is about the heart and the eternal battle between comfort and calling.

You’ll hear a powerful story about Alexander the Great and how his army’s success became their greatest hindrance. And how that same pattern plays out in the lives of Christian men today. Spoils become shackles. Comfort becomes compromise. And sin, both obvious and subtle, keeps us from the race we were meant to run.

But we’re not left without an example. Jesus, the greater King, burned every worldly treasure to obey the will of the Father—and then called us to follow Him. Not to simply “go,” but to follow.

You’ll discover:

Why the call to follow Jesus means radical surrender

How to throw off the “weighted vest” of comfort and sin

A practical challenge to fix your eyes on Christ...not other Christians, not your Instagram feed, not your bank account

And a live invite to join a free workshop on biblical meditation (inside the Man of Valor community)

This is not about white-knuckling your way out of pornography. It’s about magnifying Christ and living for something that will never fade.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Alexander the Great story and spiritual parallel

Hebrews 12:1–4 | Philippians 2 | 1 Peter 2 | 2 Corinthians 8:9

Quotes from Charles Spurgeon

The “Murph Workout” analogy to carrying spiritual weight

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“You don’t need another strategy. You need surrender.”

In this episode, Spencer unpacks what the Word of God reveals about overcoming sin, walking by the Spirit, and living with power in a world designed to defeat you.

We start with a battle scene—one king, 580,000 soldiers… facing an army of over 1 million. And what unfolds becomes a divine blueprint for anyone locked in a fight they’re losing—especially the fight against porn, shame, guilt, and the flesh.

But this isn’t a sin-management strategy.

The 5 biblical steps to spiritual victory drawn from King Asa’s story

Why most men live powerless, defeated lives—and don’t even realize it

The subtle trap of chasing relief over relationship with Christ

Why “half-hearted” Christianity guarantees defeat

What it really means to “walk by the Spirit” in 2025

How success in God’s eyes has nothing to do with streaks, stats, or milestones

The most honest prayer you can pray as a man today

“Unless you are helpless before God, you will have no victory.”

“You can’t drag your flesh behind you and expect to walk by the Spirit.”

“Men will do anything—buy anything—except the one thing Scripture commands: surrender.”

“If you’re not giving God your whole heart… just be okay with defeat.”

Men battling porn or any other stronghold

Anyone who’s tired of temporary victory and longs for deep change

Believers who feel spiritually dry, weak, or stuck

Those who want to move from “flesh-driven” to Spirit-led living

2 Chronicles 14 & 15 (King Asa’s battle and covenant)

1 Corinthians 3 (Carnal vs. spiritual Christians)

Romans 8 (Life in the Spirit)

Luke 9 & Matthew 16 (Radical discipleship)

In this soul-stirring episode of Porn and the Gospel, Spencer dives deep into one of the boldest prayers ever recorded in Scripture—the moment Moses stood between God and a rebellious people and said, “Blot me out of your book.”

What gives a man such courage? What kind of intimacy with God allows you to pray not just for yourself—but with fire and urgency for others?

You’ll discover:

Why your freedom from sin is about God’s glory, not just your relief.

The missing link in most men’s prayer lives—and how to restore it.

Why habitual sin kills your concern for others—and how intercessory prayer breaks that cycle.

What Paul and Moses shared in common when they prayed.

A powerful, practical prayer from Ephesians 3 you can start praying today—for your wife, your brother, or even someone far from God.

Spencer brings Scripture, vulnerability, and a call to arms for every man who wants to go deeper in his walk with God and learn how to intercede with boldness.

Exodus 32:30–32, 33:13–18

Ephesians 3:14–21

Galatians 6:1–2

Who are you praying for with boldness?

Is God’s glory your deepest motivation—or are you just asking for relief?

What would happen in your life if you began praying like Moses and Paul?

You’re tired of surface-level prayers.

You’re ready to be used by God to bring restoration and revival.

You know someone drifting away from the faith and want to fight for them in prayer.

In this episode, we'll discusses the struggles many men face in breaking free from destructive habits like pornography and masturbation. Based on scripture, we'll outline three key conditions for achieving spiritual fulfillment and joy: recognizing one's deep thirst and desires, believing in the truth and promises of the word of God, and asking the Holy Spirit to dwell in one's life. 

In this raw and timely episode, Spencer speaks straight to the soul of every man walking the path toward purity. He shares how sexual sin doesn’t start in the bedroom, but in the heart. Drawing from Proverbs 4:23, he explains why guarding your heart is not optional—it’s spiritual life support.

You’ll hear the story of a brother facing deep relational brokenness because of compromise. You’ll hear how the slow drift into isolation and secrecy is Satan’s favorite trap. But most of all, you’ll be reminded of God’s promises, the power of confession, and the battle plan every man needs.

This episode is loaded with real talk, biblical truth, and powerful encouragement to:

Fight before the fall, not just after

Replace entitlement with worship

Trade secrecy for accountability

Pursue Christ as your true satisfaction

Spurgeon said, “If you want pure power in prayer, you must have purity in life.” You’re not just after freedom from porn, you’re after power for God’s purpose.

Key Verse: Proverbs 4:23 – "Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life."

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Recently, I was attending a mastermind in Dallas and I wanted to share some thoughts I had about a successful investor with significant material wealth and zero debt. What can we learn, if we are payin attention, to those with tremendous worldly success in this life?

00:00 Introduction and Host Welcome

00:14 Real Estate Journey and Mastermind Experience

01:40 Insights from Successful Investors

04:02 The True Meaning of Success

05:45 Biblical Perspective on Wealth and Joy

11:24 Reflection and Encouragement

12:56 Closing Prayer and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'Porn and the Gospel,' we look at John 15:9-10 and explore how the principles of Robert Sternberg's Triangulation of Love theory can illuminate a deeper, more fulfilling relationship with God. I want to challenge you to evaluate your own relationships with God. Is willpower enough? Or does it require something more? Does it require deep emotional intimacy and passionate desire? This episode encourages reflection on how best to cultivate a rich, holistic love for God to combat temptations and grow in faith.

The Morning Hours - Prayer, Power, and Purity

Psalm 5:3 ~ O LORD, in the morning you hear my voice; in the morning I prepare a sacrifice for you and watch.

Let me begin this by saying, I understand that some men believe that they work and think and get energy mostly in the evening. And in doing so, they don’t give much thought to how they spend their mornings. If this is you, I want to challenge your assumptions. I want you to consider that prayer and preparation in the morning is far more valuable than evening productivity.

The man who is at war with lust must not sleep in. This war starts before your feet hit the floor. David says, “O Lord, in the morning you hear my voice.” And Spurgeon said it like this: “Prayer should be the key of the day and the lock of the night.”

Because your enemy doesn’t sleep, rest, or care about your excuses, it is imperative that we wake early and begin with careful and precise prayers to our Lord and God. 

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In this episode, I'll be speaking specifically to a message from a brother who was looking for help and encouragement. This is what he said:

In this episode, we'll explore the three characteristics of a man who experiences the presence of God. We'll be diving into Psalms 15:1-2 for much needed encouragement because, as men of God, there should be nothing more we desire than to live with integrity before the Lord in our daily lives.