Post Traumatic Parenting

Post-Traumatic due to divorce? You’ll want to hear what Dr. Ann Buscho has to say. She’s a psychologist and an expert in “Nesting,” a form of divorce where the kids stay home and parents rotate in and out.  Her book, The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting, is a roadmap to the only truly child-centered divorce possible. You can find her and her book  at https://drannbuscho.com/ Here’s my review of her book: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/targeted-parenting/202012/book-review-the-parents-guide-birdnesting

Nir Eyal is the bestselling author of Indistractable. Distraction is familiar to us Post-Traumatic Survivors and Thrivers, right? It’s part of our recovery. As PTPs, we struggle with time management and distraction.  Reading Indistractable changed my life – and my conversation with Nir – even more so! His insights on attention and the post-traumatic brain are fascinating. He makes a crucial distinction that will blow your mind. You will never think about attention the same way again after hearing this.

Part II of my interview with Dr. Kelly Odenweller, a professor of communication at Iowa State University.

To read my Psychology Today blogpost about Dr. Odenweller’s research on Mommy Wars, click here:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/targeted-parenting/201910/have-we-weaponized-parenting

Here’s what we talked about – as two working moms who research this:

As long as we’ve been momming, we’ve been mom-shaming. The Internet just lets us do it on a grand scale. In this installment, I talk with Dr. Kelly Odenweller, a professor of communication at Iowa State University. Turns out, mom-shaming is predictable and quantifiable. Specific types of moms are shamed for specific types of behaviors, and some moms are more universally shamed than others. Post-Traumatic Parents are super-vulnerable to mom-shaming. Let’s discuss why we mom-shame, and what to do about it.

Are you passionate about doing parenting right, and desperately afraid you’ll mess up? Parenting Perfectionism is common for us Post-Traumatic Parents. Problem is – the burning desire to parent perfectly can mean…. burning out. In this episode, we talk to groundbreaking researcher Dr. Moïra Mikolajczak, who discovered parental burnout is a thing. This episode explores the implications of her research for Post-Traumatic Parenting.  Turns out – parental burnout is real, and it can be fixed. Let’s learn how.

Welcome to the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast, where we explore the intersection between having a traumatic childhood and how that impacts our parenting today. In this episode, Dr. Koslowitz introduces herself and the backstory of the Post-Traumatic Parenting community. If you’ve ever had the thought: “How can I parent? My childhood was so messed up?” or “I don’t even know what’s normal to expect of myself as a parent, or my kids as kids,” then this podcast is for you. If you’ve ever been sure that your own past will interfere with your children’s present, or been afraid of your parenting instincts – we get it. We’re Post-Traumatic Parents too. Let’s explore how trauma creates hidden fault lines in our sense of self, and how parenting can create the stress that breaks those fault lines open. Dr. Koslowitz gets deeply personal about her own post-traumatic journey, how she went from survivor to thriver, and how the concept of Post-Traumatic Parenting was born.

Want to join our community? We’re active on Instagram. Follow @dr.koslowitzpsychology on Instagram for daily Post-Traumatic growth and parenting tips, DM her to request future episodes, and find out about the weekly Dr. K’s Story Club for Post-Traumatic Parents and their Little Humans to enjoy together.