Post Traumatic Parenting

Are you ready to confront the invisible bruises that linger from your past? In today's episode, we'll talk about breaking the cycle of family trauma with my guest, Dr. Kaytee Gillis, a psychotherapist and author with a passion for working with survivors of relationship and family trauma. As a fellow advocate for trauma survivors, Kaytee will share her journey and expertise in helping individuals heal from the scars of psychological abuse.

We'll discuss the importance of acknowledging the trauma of absence, such as neglect and abandonment, and how these invisible wounds can impact our lives. Kaytee and I share our passion for a complex trauma-informed approach, emphasizing that healing is a journey, not a destination. We'll also touch on the societal perceptions of trauma and how they have evolved over time.

Join us as we’ll navigate the path to self-awareness and healing, offering a candid conversation about the realities of breaking free from harmful patterns. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of resilience and the power of understanding our past to create a better future for ourselves and our children.

1. What is one of the often-overlooked traumas?
2. How have societal perceptions of trauma evolved in the last years?
3. What is Kaytee's book "Invisible Bruises" about?
4. What does it mean to break the cycle of family trauma?
5. How can you avoid repeating harmful patterns with your children?
6. How do we navigate the complexities of post-traumatic parenting?
7. What are the challenges of understanding trauma beyond physical abuse?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/02/05/invisible-bruise…th-kaytee-gillis

Welcome back to another episode of the Post Traumatic Podcast! For today's episode, I invited another special guest, Sarah Hoover—the author of the book Motherload, who will share her raw and honest birth trauma story and how it redefined her motherhood journey.

We'll talk about the unspoken challenges of postpartum depression and the societal pressures that often leave new mothers feeling isolated. Sarah will open up about her personal struggles, revealing the vulnerability and courage it took to confront her own truths. We'll discuss the importance of empathy and trauma-informed care in transforming the childbirth experience, and why sharing these stories is crucial for breaking the cycle of shame and silence.

This conversation is not just about motherhood; it's about understanding the profound impact of birth trauma on our lives and the power of speaking our truths. Tune in to hear Sarah's story and gain a deeper understanding of the complexities of motherhood in today's world.

1. Sarah's birth trauma story and the hidden challenges of motherhood that she revealed in her book.
2. How does trauma influence maternal instincts and the parenting journey?
3. Why is the myth of instant maternal love a disservice to new mothers?
4. How can empathy and trauma-informed care transform the childbirth experience?
5. What role does societal pressure play in shaping a mother's mental health?
6. The long-term effects of postpartum depression on both mothers and their families.
7. How can mothers advocate for themselves in a medical system that often overlooks trauma?
8. Why is it crucial for healthcare providers to understand and address trauma in their practice?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/01/22/the-motherload-sarah-hoovers-birth-trauma-story

Are you ready to discover the secrets to building resilience in children? For today's episode, I invited Dr. Tovah Klein, a renowned psychologist and author, who shares her expertise on nurturing resilience in kids. 

We will explore the five foundational pillars that support resilience and discuss how parents can help their children navigate life's uncertainties. Dr. Klein offers thoughtful perspectives on managing emotions, understanding the impact of our own trauma on parenting, and finding the balance between support and independence. We will also address common parenting challenges, such as dealing with selective mutism and the importance of accepting children for who they are. Tune in to learn how to create a safe and supportive environment that encourages your child's growth and adaptability. 

This episode will provide you with a fresh perspective on parenting and resilience, leaving you with plenty to think about and apply in your own family life!

1. How to build resilience in children during uncertain times?
2. What are the five pillars of building resilience in children, and how do they help kids thrive?
3. Why is it crucial to allow children to experience all emotions?
4. What strategies can help parents avoid over-involvement in their child's life?
5. The importance of accepting your children for who they are, and how it affects their development.
6. How can parents manage their own triggers while supporting their children?
7. How can you support your kids in developing independence and self-agency?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/01/08/building-resilie…tegies-that-work

How can the Hand in Hand Parenting approach transform your relationship with your child? In today's episode, we explore this question with Emily Murray, a certified Hand in Hand Parenting instructor. You'll discover how this approach emphasizes building strong connections through five essential tools that can reshape how you interact with your children. Emily shares her personal experiences and insights into how understanding emotional triggers can lead to more meaningful parenting moments.

We'll dive into the practical aspects of listening partnerships and special time, offering a fresh perspective on how these techniques can help you reconnect with your child. Emily's journey from struggling with parenting challenges to becoming an advocate for this approach provides relatable and inspiring stories that every parent can learn from.

Join us as we discuss the nuances of setting boundaries while maintaining a nurturing environment, and how humor and empathy can enhance your parenting style. Tune in to explore how the Hand in Hand Parenting approach can make a difference in your everyday interactions.

1. What is the Hand in Hand parenting approach, and how can it transform your relationship with your child?
2. How can understanding your emotional triggers improve your parenting?
3. Why is being truly listened to so powerful for both parents and children?
4. How can humor and empathy play a crucial role in effective parenting?
5. What are stealth special time and play listening, and how can they help reconnect you with your child?
6. How can you provide a supportive environment for your child to express emotions while maintaining consistent boundaries?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/12/18/the-hand-in-hand…s-with-your-kids/

Are you curious about developing friendship skills in kids? Join me in today's episode as I explore this vital topic with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, a renowned psychologist and author. We'll dive into the common myths surrounding children's self-esteem and why these misconceptions might be holding them back. You'll discover how focusing on connection, competence, and choice can help your child develop a healthy sense of self and navigate social challenges with confidence.

We'll also tackle the crucial distinction between bullying and ordinary meanness, offering strategies for parents to address each situation appropriately. For post-traumatic parents, Dr. Kennedy-Moore shares insights on managing personal triggers and fostering empathy in your parenting approach. Additionally, we'll discuss the impact of social media on children's friendships and how to guide them in building genuine connections.

This episode is full of thoughtful discussions and practical strategies to support your child's social development. Whether you're dealing with friendship struggles or simply want to enhance your child's social skills, this conversation offers valuable perspectives and tools to help you along the way. Tune in now!

1. What are the common myths about children's self-esteem, and why are they misleading?
2. How can post-traumatic parents help their children focus on connection, competence, and choice to build a healthy sense of self?
3. Why is it important to distinguish between bullying and ordinary meanness, and how can parents address each?
4. How can post-traumatic parents manage their triggers when their children's social struggles arise?
5. What strategies can parents use to encourage empathy and effective communication in their children?
6. How does the concept of a "quiet ego" contribute to a child's development, and why is it beneficial?
7. In what ways can parents support their children in navigating social feedback and building resilience?
8. What are the implications of labeling every negative interaction as bullying, and how can this affect children?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/12/04/developing-friendship-skills-in-kids-a-guide-for-post-traumatic-parents/

Are you curious about art therapy and how it could help you and your children process trauma? In today's episode, I sit down with Leah Guzman, an art therapist, artist, and author, to explore the profound impact of art therapy on emotional healing. 

We'll dive into how art can serve as a powerful tool for expressing emotions that words often fail to capture. Leah shares her unique techniques, like using colors to convey feelings and creating art journals, which can be particularly beneficial for both children and parents navigating the complexities of trauma. We'll also discuss the importance of self-care for parents and how balancing formal art training with personal creativity can enhance the therapeutic process.

Whether you're a parent looking to support your child's emotional well-being or someone interested in the healing potential of art, this episode offers valuable perspectives and resources. Tune in to discover how art therapy can become a meaningful part of your journey toward healing and connection with your loved ones.

1. How can art therapy help children and adults process trauma?
2. What role does creativity play in post-traumatic parenting?
3. How can parents use art to connect with their children?
4. What are some effective art therapy techniques for emotional expression?
5. Why is it important for parents to engage in creative activities with their children?
6. How can art journals serve as a therapeutic tool for kids?
7. How can art therapy be a soft entry point for children in counseling?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/11/21/healing-connecti…with-leah-guzman/

Are you ready to transform your parenting approach with conscious communication? In today's episode, we're diving into the world of conscious communication with our children in a way that fosters respect, understanding, and emotional growth. Joined by Lori Petro, founder of Teach Through Love, we explore the profound impact of our words and how they shape our children's lives. You'll discover the power of shifting from punitive to empathetic language and learn practical strategies to connect with your kids on a deeper level.

We'll discuss the challenges of breaking free from the communication patterns we inherited and how to create a nurturing environment that supports both parents and children. Whether you're dealing with a messy room or a child who struggles with homework, this episode offers insights into addressing these everyday issues with compassion and clarity. Tune in to learn how to regulate your own emotions, repair relationships, and build a foundation of trust and love with your children. Don't miss out on this opportunity to enhance your parenting skills and create lasting positive change in your family's dynamic.

1. What is conscious communication and how can it transform your parenting approach?
2. Why is shifting your perspective crucial in parenting, especially for post-traumatic parents?
3. What are Conscious Communication Cards?
4. How can Conscious Communication Cards change the way you communicate with your children?
5. How can emotional regulation techniques improve your interactions with your children?
6. What are effective strategies for repairing and strengthening relationships with your children, even if mistakes have been made?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/11/06/conscious-communication-how-to-effectively-communicate-with-your-children/

Are you navigating the rollercoaster of matrescence and feeling overwhelmed? You're not alone! Dive into today's conversation with Dr. Nikki Pensack, author of "Rattled," where we peel back the layers of becoming a new parent, discussing why this transformation is a normative trauma, regardless of your background or education.

You'll discover how your brain's incredible ability for self-directed neuroplasticity during motherhood can be your ally in achieving post-traumatic growth. Plus, you'll learn to embrace the 'mommy brain' as a badge of honor, showcasing your newfound emotional intelligence and multitasking prowess. This episode is a treasure trove of insights that will empower you to own your journey through parenthood with confidence.

Join us as we normalize the struggles, celebrate the strengths, and provide practical tips for thriving during one of life's most intense transitions. Tune in now and become part of a community that understands the unique challenges and joys of post-traumatic parenting. Your adventure through matrescence awaits!

1. What is matrescence?
2. How can the intense challenges of new motherhood lead to personal growth and transformation?
3. Why is no one immune to the struggles of matrescence?
4. Insights from Dr. Nikki Pensack's book "Rattled" for mothers navigating the tumultuous period of matrescence.
5. How can the skills honed during matrescence be valuable assets in the professional world?
6. Why is it important to normalize the difficulties of motherhood instead of perpetuating the myth of perfection?
7. Reframing the concept of "mommy brain" from a negative stereotype to a recognition of a mother's cognitive strengths.
8. What strategies can mothers use to navigate the return to work after maternity leave with confidence and strength?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/04/25/embracing-matres…dr-nicole-pensak/

Are you a post-traumatic parent struggling to navigate the complexities of relational aggression and bullying? Tune in to today's episode where we'll dive into the world of relational aggression with Rosalind Wiseman, the author behind "Queen Bees and Wannabes" – the book that sparked the hit movie "Mean Girls." 

You'll discover how to empower your children and yourself to rise above bullying, maintain dignity, and foster respect in the face of life's challenges. We'll explore the invisible rules of social dynamics that can leave us feeling lost and the importance of understanding the difference between respect and dignity. Rosalind will share lots of practical examples on how to deal with passive-aggressive behavior within families and how to support your kids through discomfort without overprotecting them. 

This episode is a must-listen for any post-traumatic parent seeking to navigate these difficult social challenges so they can provide a healthy childhood for their children.

1. What is relational aggression bullying, and how does it affect children, especially those with traumatic backgrounds?
2. How did the book "Queen Bees and Wannabes" inspire the movie "Mean Girls," and why is it a must-read for understanding girl dynamics?
3. Why are dignity and respect crucial in post-traumatic parenting, and how can parents ensure their children feel their inherent worth?
4. How can post-traumatic parents help their kids navigate social challenges effectively?
5. Practical examples of how to deal with passive-aggressive behavior without losing authenticity or self-respect.
6. How to ask the right questions that lead to self-reflection and better management of difficult conversations.
7. What strategies can post-traumatic parents use to manage their bandwidth and still connect authentically with their kids during tough times?

Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.

For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/04/11/navigating-relat…rosalind-wiseman/

Healing from childhood trauma is at the heart of today's podcast episode, where I sit down with Brandi Cox, author of "In Better Hands: An Appalachian Memoir of Healing and Grace." Brandi's raw and inspiring narrative, released just this year, offers a beacon of hope to anyone navigating the aftermath of a turbulent past. 

As a debut author, she shares her compelling desire to use her story as a catalyst for change, providing insight into the possibility of breaking free from the chains of generational curses. Join us as we dive into the essence of Brandi's journey, exploring the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of sharing one's truth. 

This episode is filled with candid conversations that will not only enlighten but also embolden you to believe in the dawn that follows the darkest of nights. So, if you're seeking a sign of hope or a reminder that healing is within reach, this conversation with Brandi Cox is an essential listen.

1. Brandi Cox's memoir about overcoming and healing from childhood trauma.
2. How did Brandi navigate knowing her birth father but being raised by her grandparents?
3. What challenges did Brandi face when transitioning into motherhood given her past?
4. How has Brandi's approach to parenting been shaped by her own experiences?
5. What drove Brandi to seek counseling, and how did it help her heal from childhood trauma?
6. How did cultural and regional attitudes shape Brandi's experience with mental health
7. What revelations or unexpected memories surfaced while writing her memoir?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/02/15/from-trauma-to-hope-brandi-coxs-story-of-healing-from-childhood-trauma