We all have a story. And stories are one of the things we value greatly in our ministry. Why? Because it is through our stories that we connect and discover and learn.

Today’s guest is Neil Getzlow and he has quite a story to tell. He was raised in a Jewish home but eventually left his family tradition in preference of atheism. Along the way, he developed a porn and sex addiction, which made him miserable. Eventually, God chased him down and invited him to stop running and instead find rest and freedom in Christ. 

Neil shares his experience of needing to learn how to be alone as a kid, how he was introduced to porn, the effect of his parent’s divorce, and how he came to believe that love and sex were basically the same things. He also shares the radical way in which God broke him out of his secret addiction and led him to a place of truth, grace, and hope.

To learn more about Neil and get his book, visit NeilGetzlow.com.

More Resources:

• Unmasked (book)
• Unmasked Podcast with Neil
• Bebroken.org/men

Related Podcasts:

• Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors
• The Importance of Whole Man Recovery
• Becoming the Type of Man Who Doesn't Look at Porn

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For couples who want to pursue reconciliation and restoration after sexual betrayal, what does the process of recovery look like?

Today’s guest is Cat Etherington, Director of Recovery at Naked Truth Project. She helps us understand the key principles and practices that allow for the best possible results for couples wanting to heal and grow after betrayal.

There is hope for recovery in your marriage.

To learn more about Cat and her work and resources, visit http://NakedTruthProject.com.

Retreats by Naked Truth Project:

• US Grief retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-retreat-Texas
• US Couples retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/couples-retreat-texas
• Australia Grief Retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-grief-retreat-Australia

Previous episode (#872) with Cat: The Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma - https://youtu.be/WuUexC7Ucc8

More Resources:

• DisclosureHope.com
• Help for Husbands
• Help for Wives

Related Podcasts:

• Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
• Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal
• The Goal is Connecting

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A man recently shared, “I don’t want to live the next 20 years of my life the way I have lived the past 20 years.” This is a man who wants to get on a mission of growth and change.

In today’s episode, Stephen shares the journey of this man who wants to finish better than he started. We unpack many of the fundamental issues and principles that must be examined and worked on if long-term transformation is going to happen. 

If you are a man who wants to finish life better than you started it, this episode will give you encouragement and insights to help you experience deep contentment and freedom.

More Resources:

• 40 Days of Training for Your Soul
• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop
• Bebroken.org/men

Related Podcasts:

• 8 Comments from Men Struggling to Pursue Integrity
• How Long Does Change Take?
• Struggling to Come Clean and Find Rest

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This is our 900th episode! And it’s such a delight to release this milestone episode on my birthday. I hope it blesses you as much to listen as it did for me to record it. 

Today’s episode is getting back to the basics of living a life of sexual integrity. Stephen Cervantes and I have been working with men desiring greater integrity for over 20 years, and we know that a life of integrity is not static. You must be on a daily growth mission to mature. 

In our conversation, we share some of our personal growth tips and many other insights we have seen that help men get on a growth mission and discover their God-sized purpose in life.

A great next step in your pursuit of greater integrity is our Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. This Friday-Sunday event will help you get down to the roots of your unwanted sexual behaviors and provide practical, powerful direction for living each day with integrity and purpose. 

Learn more about Gateway to Freedom and how to register at Bebroken.org/gtf.

More Resources:

• FREE Integrity Webinar for Men
• 40 Days of Purity for Men
• The 4 Pillars of Purity

Related Podcasts:

• Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors
• 3 Levels of Sobriety
• Insights and Action Steps for Men

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Sexual betrayal in marriage is more common than most of us would like to admit. But this terrible fracture is not incurable for couples who choose to go on a journey of healing and restoration.

Our guest today is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed professional counselor, ordained minister, professor, and founder of Building Intimate Marriages. 

In our conversation, Michael answers questions about the “why” of affairs, the impact of past trauma, the myth of affairs only occurring in “bad” marriages, how to know if restoration is possible, what is required for restoration, and more. 

To learn more about Michael and Building Intimate Marriages, visit IntimateMarriage.org.

More Resources:

• Secrets of Sex and Marriage (book)
• Gateway to Freedom for Men
• Wives Care Groups

Related Podcasts:

• Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal
• Affair Recovery Through a Trauma Lens
• Helping Husbands and Wives Go All In

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Sex education isn’t what it used to be. But the need for good, godly sex education is at an all-time high. 

Our guest on today’s program is Kristen Miele. Kristen has been educating youth on the topic of sex for 12 years and is the founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, a training organization that specializes in God-honoring accessible sex ed for children 3 to 18 years old. 

In our conversation, Kristen answers questions around the importance of sex education, what needs to be taught in sex ed, how to teach it, and various obstacles that confront parents and kids alike when learning God’s good design for sex.

To learn more about Kristen and their curriculum, visit SexEdReclaimed.com.

More Resources:

• Critical Conversations Webinar for Parents
• 7 Tips for Parents (free download)
• Honest Talk by John Fort

Related Podcasts:

• Helping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and Sexuality
• Explaining God's Design for Sex to Your Kids
• Holy Sexuality with Dr. Juli Slattery

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Everyone has experienced various emotional and mental challenges over the last three years since the Covid-19 pandemic swept the globe. Many men have faced significant mental health struggles as a result. 

In today’s bonus episode, our guest is Steve Dulaney. He is a counselor in the Pacific Northwest and the director of Prodigals International, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on helping men, women and families find healing, hope, and redemption from the impact of sexual brokenness.

Our conversation is focusing on all the effects of these mental health challenges men are facing today and what hope there is for better health and relationships. 

To learn more about Prodigals and their resources, visit ProdigalsInternational.org.

More Resources:

• HigherGroundMen.com
• RestoringHeartsConference.org (for wives)
• Gateway to Freedom
• Bebroken.org/men

Related Podcasts:

• Understanding Your "Flipped-Out" Brain
• Do Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?
• Healing Your Brain

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Everyone has a core fear that gets woven into their soul from childhood. It tends to drive everything, from thoughts to behaviors. 

But God created us in His image, and He is love. His Word tells us that “perfect (mature) love drives out fear.” (1 John 4:18) So, how can we move from being fear-driven to being love-driven?

In this episode, we unpack this question and provide insights and tips to understand your fears and respond to them in healthy, redemptive ways that benefit you and your relationships.

More Resources:

• Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith
• Grace-Based Recovery
• Find a Counselor

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• Overcoming the Fear that Lives in My Head
• 50 Things to Do When Your Core Fear Gets Triggered
• Finding Rest by Speaking Out Your Deepest Fear

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What does our sexual sin cost us? Do we take time to evaluate the losses and how they are affecting our lives today?

In this episode, we share a story of a man who had a terrifying nightmare that vividly illustrates what it’s like to be confronted with how evil steals innocence and peace from our inner child. We then explore what this man discovered from this dream and how to respond to your own losses of innocence and peace, and what the journey back to protecting your innocence can look like.

For help with understanding how the inner child impacts sexual acting out, visit InnerChild-SexAddiction.com.

More Resources:

• Going Deeper by Dr. Eddie Capparucci
• 40 Days of Purity Online Course
• Find a Counselor

Related Podcasts:

• Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex Addiction
• Understanding Fear and Sadness
• Why Your Family of Origin Matters

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Why are boundaries necessary for marriage restoration after sexual betrayal? And how does a couple navigate establishing and enforcing such boundaries in a redemptive way?

Today we have back with us Karla Downing to help us answer these important questions. Karla is the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She offers Christian marriage help and Christian relationship help as a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible study teacher. As one who has walked her own path of relationship struggles, she can speak to these matters with both experience and empathy. 

In this conversation, Karla defines what boundaries are, why they are necessary to rebuild a broken marriage, how they are enforced, various pitfalls to boundary-setting and boundary-keeping, and what the real “goal” is of restoration. 

To learn more about Karla and her relationship resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.

More Resources:

• Help for Husbands
• Help for Wives
• God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Related Podcasts:

• Helping Wives "Detach with Love" in a Difficult Marriage
• Recovery Discovery 026: Boundaries
• Gaslighting and Deception

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