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For men, our development is stunted by the modern world and most of us are stuck in "man-child mode" in many areas of our lives. In the last episode, I shared a technique you can use to form deep connections with people (like a mature man) instead of only shallow connections (like a child).

In this episode, we're looking at the flip side of this communication coin: how to establish and defend healthy boundaries.

This might sound simple, but the truth is that A) most likely no one has ever taught you how to do this and B) if you do this correctly, it's absolutely life changing.

If you:

You absolutely NEED the tool of healthy boundaries in your toolkit.

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What does it take to transform your life completely? Is it even possible to go from dead-end existence, complete lack of direction, low energy, no motivation... to living an awesome life, feeling driven, feeling motivated every day?

As you'll discover in this episode, the answer is most definitely YES. But there are also clear reasons why most people never make such a dramatic transformation. Once you understand what's holding you back, you're one step closer to making it happen.

00:00 Intro

The 30 day Spartan Mode challenge: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA

Folks, this is a big one. We decided to once and for all, completely and comprehensively answer the question: "what should I do when I get the urge to relapse?"

This is the complete answer. Not only are we laying out 60+ options for what to do instead of relapsing, but we're exploring exactly why these things work and how it all fits together.

Find the full write up and visual mind-map here: https://quitbyhealing.com/urges/

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Topics covered in this episode:

00:00 The best way to deal with urges

01:21 The Two Categories

03:28 Exercise, Movement & Burpees

05:20 Don't just resist

07:21 Sport

08:50 Movement Skills

13:53 Movement is Brain Healthy

15:18 Cooking Skills

17:02 Emotional Skills

18:15 Introspective Writing

20:12 Meditation

21:39 Push a little further

23:35 Mental Skills (Reading)

29:40 Active learning & Mental Models

30:18 Social Skills

32:13 Communication Skills

35:38 Social Courage

38:08 Financial skills - Income, Save, Invest

38:39 Too many options

40:58 Rest

41:42 Nervous System - Breathwork

43:26 Addiction Replacement

48:56 Move Through the Urge

49:21 Sitting in the Fire, Embodiment & Boredom

53:00 Active Engagement: Shadow Work

54:00 Amplify the Feeling (Advanced)

57:47 How does this serve me?

01:00:02 Conversation with Addict Self (IFS)

01:03:25 Writing: Emo Dump

01:05:55 Self-Awareness is a Skill

01:07:08 Energy Transmutation Practices

01:11:42 Eureka Moments & Pointing Out the Obvious

01:12:41 What is the best thing to do?

01:18:10 Build your own Version

01:19:24 Where to start? (Self Responsibility)

01:23:18 Don't do it alone
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In this episode, Shane and Abhi take a deep dive into how pornography addiction (and other dopamine traps) can become the main obstacles preventing you from achieving your life's goals.

Through a community survey, we've identified the profound desires people have in life, with healthy relationships and personal growth emerging as top priorities. Of course, when an addiction to porn comes into play, your chances of success are significantly hindered, cutting you off at the knees.

Join us for a candid conversation about breaking free from these dopamine traps and regaining control of your life. Gain valuable insights and actionable advice on overcoming the allure of instant gratification and pursuing a brighter future.

The SPARTAN MODE Approach to Overcoming Addiction: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA

Chapters in this podcast

00:00 - Intro: Is porn a roadblock to your best self?

02:24 - Community Survey: You Want to be a Better Man

06:36 - Sexual Energy is your Life Force

14:04 - A distorted view of Success

18:31 - The Impossible Standard

25:10 - IRL Feels Good

29:07 - Dopamine traps are keeping you stuck

34:08 - The Comfort Trap: Abundance

40:20 - Self Control is the Key

43:12 - Don't wait for rock bottom

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A lot of folks in the self-development community often find themselves sifting through advice that may not be relevant to their situation. They encounter elite optimization plans, intense bootcamps, and claims of "the fastest and best" methods to achieve their goals, typically offered by high-achievers and coaches.

In this podcast episode, we're introducing a model that breaks down self-development into four levels. This model will assist you in assessing your current level and provide practical tips to help you progress up the ranks.

The Levels of Self Development:

Level Zero - No Lifer

Level 1 - GYST

Level 2 - The Top 1%

Level 3 - Mastery & Paying it Forward

The 5 Pillars of GYST (Get your Sh*t Together):

1 - Physical (Fitness, Strength, Mobility & Nutrition)

2 - Emotional (Awareness & Resilience)

3 - Metal (Knowledge & Development)

4 - Social (Communication & Relationships)

5 - Financial (Literacy & Career Capital)

To get the full episodes on how to practically improve these domains in your life see ikario podcast.

Physical https://youtu.be/gfYaJ9TTqzE

Emotional https://youtu.be/mTGLM0bKOOs

Metal https://youtu.be/f6LiWVBZwGY

Social https://youtu.be/IVuOh1llq64

Financial https://youtu.be/goZ9EzldSko

Chapters in this podcast

00:00 - Intro: What advice is right for me?

03:31 - The 4 Levels of Personal Development

04:23 - Level Zero: No-Lifer

07:42 - Addiction Keeps You Stuck

11:02 - Unconsciously Seeking Escape

15:16 - You Cannot Consume a Solution

16:03 - Level 1: GYST (Get Your Shit Together)

19:26 - Level 2: Top 1%

22:56 - Level 3: Mastery & Paying it Forward

25:23 - Motivated by Making a Difference

29:10 - Role Modelling to Make a Change

32:44 - Level Zero Advice: Stacking Small Wins

38:45 - Start Where You're At

40:16 - High-Functioning Level Zero

42:43 - Deliberate Action

44:24 - Tracking Small Wins

45:06 - Level 1 Advice: Kill Internal Suffering

48:01 - Level 1 Advice: Consistency & Remove Friction

56:31 - What is a Skill I Need?

59:16 - The Basics Are Underestimated

1:03:52 - Level 2 Advice: Prioritize & Optimize

1:08:49 - Level 3 Advice: Be open to the Transition

1:10:01 - Summary of the Levels

1:12:21 - Outro

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The SPARTAN MODE Approach to Overcoming Addiction: https://youtu.be/XIJs36sHZo0?si=V7DOhfNtFNRCxbeQ

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Porn addiction is a serious issue. It affects mental health, mood, motivation and many other aspects of life. Not least, it affects everything related to love, dating, romance and sex.

As I've discovered through my work with addicts, the addiction creates a complicated, tangled mess that construes all the guilt and shame associated with pornography overuse with healthy desire, romantic feelings and acts of self pleasure.

In this podcast episode, I attempt to untangle this mess so that you can move towards a healthy, happy relationship with desire, sex and romance in your own life.

In this episode:

00:00 - Intro

01:09 - What is and isn’t harmful

03:50 - A much needed definition of terms

05:12 - Why the untangling is important

06:32 - Religion and shame

07:33 - What it means for quitting

10:08 - Unhealthy self pleasure?

12:49 - Healthy self pleasure habits

14:34 - How porn addiction affects partnered sex

17:04 - Sex and human connection

18:50 - A period of abstinence

20:23 - Beware of simple stories

The most effective way to beat p*rn addiction and rapidly rewire your brain: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA?si=jkYHWMHeEONt8DZ5

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My 30 day challenge summary - see what SPARTAN MODE actually looks like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sbPSY9ktLIA

I followed the Spartan Mode protocol for 30 days. The protocol is designed to completely obliterate all bad habits, addictions and all the ways in which we keep ourselves from really living to our full potential.

In this episode, I share in detail what the experience was like and what lessons I took from it.

What we cover:

- The most surprising and unexpected positive effects of cutting out ALL media consumption.

- Why doing an extreme challenge is easier than doing a moderate challenge.

- How Spartan Mode is designed to unhook you from addictive behaviors AND rewire your brain as quickly as possible.

- How to transition back into "real life" after such an extreme challenge.

- What the hardest thing about the challenge was, which almost made me give up.

- The most important lessons I took from the challenge and how you can use them to your advantage.

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Since starting QuitByHealing, I have received thousands of comments on my videos, TikToks and in the QbH community. In all of these comments, I am seeing clear patterns and one of them is this:

There are 3 limiting beliefs that are very common... and that make you fail because they create a self fulfilling prophecy. So in today's podcast episode, we examine these 3 limiting beliefs, look at how they are part of your self sabotaging behavior and discover what you can do to fix them.

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00:00 - Intro

01:15 - Limiting Belief Nr. 1

02:30 - Fun With Cognitive Biases

05:03 - Cognitive Biases in Action

05:43 - Self Fulfilling Prophecy

06:53 - How to Fix Limiting Belief Nr. 1

09:49 - Limiting Belief Nr. 2

12:53 - How to Fix Limiting Belief Nr. 2

15:42 - A Tool for Awareness

16:30 - Limiting Belief Nr. 3

18:15 - How to Fix Limiting Belief Nr. 3

19:03 - The 4 Pillars of QuitByHealing

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In today's episode of the podcast, meet Jeremy Lipkowitz. He is a guy who seemingly had it all: academic and athletic success, friends, good health and hopeful prospects for the future... and yet, he was plagued with an addiction to pornography that stole all his joy.

He got fed up with this state of being and chose a radical solution: he left his life behind, traveled to India and studied meditation and other contemplative practices. He was determined to get to the bottom of why his mind kept him stuck in compulsive behaviors and why he was unable to be happy despite things seemingly going so well in his life.

The lessons he brought back from this journey not only helped him overcome his addiction but also changed his life in countless other ways. And today, he shares some of his most valuable insights with us.

Chapters:

00:00 Intro

01:32 Jeremy's Turning Point

04:32 How to Gain Awareness

07:43 Hungry Ghost Behavior

12:15 Addiction Despite Living the Dream Life?

17:25 How to Untangle Yourself from Addiction

21:00 Expert Doom Scrollers

22:38 What is the Default State of Your Mind?

24:27 How to Transform Your Mind

27:27 Why You're Suffering

31:03 Rat Park Experiment

34:52 Where to Start the Healing Process

38:04 What to Do When You Relapse

39:37 Unwinding Your Feelings of Shame

44:17 A Uniquely Difficult Challenge

48:49 A Goal Worth Striving For