A raw meditation on divorce, identity, and learning to meet life without anesthesia. Felicia traces the mapless terrain of choosing herself—moving from control to consent, from dissociation to the honeyed present, and from inherited scripts to a voice that won’t whisper anymore.

Listen for

“The journey home does not have a map”—why control promises safety but charges anxiety

Body-led navigation: letting sensation guide when sight can’t

Radical sobriety as telling the truth without numbing

Thich Nhat Hanh’s sink-and-tea teaching made practical in motherhood

Timestamps

00:00 Intro + HMT ethos

00:21 “Radical Sobriety” begins

01:27 The gut-wrench / dissociation / choosing trust

03:25 Off-grid decision: divorce and walking without GPS

05:27 Clean pain vs. control; consent as freedom

06:08 Thich Nhat Hanh on dishes & presence

07:21 The vow: choosing the next honest inch

07:52 Sign-off

A taste...

“It is the state of radical sobriety to meet life without anesthesia… letting truth turn down the volume on pain.”

“Control says, ‘If I can predict it, I can survive it.’ Consent says, ‘If I can feel it, I can be free.’”

“If home is anywhere, it’s here—in the unguarded now.”

Mentioned

Thich Nhat Hanh on mindful dishwashing (from The Miracle of Mindfulness)

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