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Do you struggle with procrastination? Are you unsure about the difference between procrastination and rest? Join the RAFT team as we answer these questions and more with clinical psychologist and Procrastination Coach, Dr. Christine Li.

00:00 Intro
00:30 Jeremie & Indrani introduce the topic and the guest, Dr. Christine Li
02:30 Dr.Christine Li introduces herself as Procrastination Coach
05:20 Key Lesson: Difficult things, like procrastination, can be made easy. Perception is key.
07:30 Q&A: What language can our advocates use to avoid blocking or negative framing of their struggles with procrastination?
10:50 Q&A: On prioritizing, how do advocates do it when overwhelmed with life and work?
16:55 Key Lesson: Don’t bring the previous hour into the new hour.
20:30 Q&A: How does one know the difference between resting and procrastinating?
36:15 Q&A: Can you talk about the impact procrastination has on our energy?
42:40 Q&A: How do I realize, especially as a leader, that what I am procrastinating on is actually not a priority?
45:10 Q&A: How can our listeners get started with preventing procrastination in their lives? How can our listeners find out more about your work?
45:40 S.M.A.C.K.: Smack procrastination away through simplicity, mindfulness, anxiety reduction, communication, and kindness.
50:50 Outro

In this episode, Jeremie and Indrani discuss their own challenges with reflection and share some of their personal reflection practices.

00:00 Intro
00:20 Jeremie introduces the topic and the team.
01:19 Jeremie asks, “Why do you find it difficult to reflect on things that have happened?”
01:36 Indrani shares how her attitude toward reflection has changed.
02:36 Søren Kierkegaard: “Life can only be understood backwards, but must be lived forward.”
02:51 Jeremie and Indrani discuss uncertainty and failing fast and forward.
04:07 The difference between reflecting on the behavior of others and yourself.
06:49 Why Jeremie finds it difficult to reflect.
08:32 Schedule time to reflect.
08:58 Reflection and connection to work and leadership.
10:04 The book Jeremie can’t wait to read in 2022, “Flourishing Enterprise.”
10:49 Indrani shares why it’s important to reflect.
12:57 Reframing experiences as part of a reflection practice.
17:32 Visual and physical methods for reframing.
21:25 Reflection Practice: Gratitude Journal.
23:27 Indrani’s Gratitude Practice.
30:14 Reflection Practice: Consolidate notes into a journal and review on a consistent basis.
31:42 Reflection tool from Charlie Gilkey of Productive Flourishing: The Quarterly Review.
36:58 Reflection tool from Charlie Gilkey of Productive Flourishing: The 10/15 Split.
45:04 Indrani’s closing thoughts on reflection.
47:11 Indrani wraps up with Søren Kierkegaard quote
47:29 Outro

In episode two of the annual RAFT holiday podcast, the RAFT team continues their discussion on tips and tools for thriving, not surviving, the holidays.

00:00 Intro
00:18 Jeremie introduces the topic and the team.
03:52 Jeremie’s Tip #1: Create a holiday budget and stick to it.
06:20 Jeremie’s Tip #2: Start saving for the holidays at the start of the year.
07:20 Jeremie’s Tip #3: Celebrate the holiday the week after it. Usually cheaper.
08:49 Team Discussion on other ways to alleviate financial stress.
17:33 Indrani’s Tip #1: Do not shame others by imposing expectations (old or new) about food.
19:49 Indrani’s Tip #2: Make a holiday list of activities (small or big) and ask the word “Why” repeatedly. Gives clarity about your wants, priorities and decisions.
22:00 Indrani’s Tip #3: Think Again Practice: Ask WHY for everything to slowly undo harmful patterns, expectations, and behaviors.
24:12 Team Discussion on convictions and beliefs
33:25 Nicole’s Tip #1: Create a festive and bright environment to combat seasonal depression
34:55 Nicole’s Tip #2: Cook only your favorite foods
37:05 Nicole’s Tip #3: Stay connected to family/friends
38:55 Team Discussion
45:23 Jeremie wraps up Episode 2
46:18 Outro

In episode one of the annual RAFT holiday podcast, the RAFT team discusses tips and tools for thriving, not surviving, the holidays.

00:00 Intro
00:19 Jeremie introduces the topic and the team welcomes readers.
02:40 Anneka’s Tip #1: It is okay to say “no” to social invitations.
03:55 Anneka’s Tip #2: Give to yourself in addition to others.
04:55 Anneka’s Tip #3: Practice empathy and gratitude during the holiday
06:00 Team Discussion on prioritizing family relationships/gatherings
11:11 Esteniolla’s Tip #1: Do not engage in family gossip. Redirect it.
13:42 Esteniolla’s tip #2: Protect sensitive information you don’t want to share.
16:00 Team Discussion on navigating family dynamics across/within cultures and in different stages of life.
33:51 Jeremie wraps up Episode 1
34:04 Outro

In this episode, Jamie (@bad_mmama), a professional MMA fighter, shares her journey from survivor to advocate. Learn how she leverages her training in physical and non-contact defense to empower other survivors.

Listeners, please note that there is discussion of domestic violence in the podcast and specific discussion about rape at 35:55.

00:00 Intro
00:26 Listeners are welcomed and RAFT team members, Indrani and Esteniolla, introduce themselves
01:34 Jamie introduces herself
02:15 Question: What was the switch that you flipped that gave you the courage to leave the abusive relationship?
04:30 Question: How did you finally realize—this is not love?
07:35 Discussion on inter-generational trauma and the “normalcy” of abuse
11:58 Question: What tips or guidance do you have for those listening who are currently experiencing abuse or have loved ones who are?
14:28 Discussion on available domestic abuse prevention resources
15:38 Question: How did you make the shift from survivor to advocate?
22:33 Question: How do you take care of yourself and manage your time as a single mom who is an advocate?
24:30 Question: What do your powerHER defense classes/workshops look like?
28:00 Discussion
30:00 Question: How can our listeners learn more about your defense classes?
31:20 Components of powerHER model: Boundaries, Awareness, Threat Recognition, Avoidance, & Self-Care
33:57 Question: What made you turn to MMA fighting and connect it to your advocacy work?
35:55 TRIGGER WARNING: Discussion on recent public incident of sexual assault in the news + situational awareness for bystanders
39:15 Question: So back to our question, what made you decide that MMA fighting was the route to take?
44:20 Discussion
46:23 Closing remarks
47:30 Outro

In this episode, join the entire RAFT team as they discuss how to ask for help and the various things one must consider as they hone this practice. Tips range from the timing of how to ask for help to determining the right people to ask for help.

00:00 Intro
00:29 Listeners are welcomed and the RAFT team is introduced
00:55 Introduction of topic: How to Ask for Help
01:26 Recap of How to Ask for Help, Part I
02:25 Mariam Tip #2: Think about timing when asking for help
03:30 Team Discussion
12:54 Anneka’s Tip #1: Identify specifically and communicate clearly what you need help with to manage expectations
15:13 Team Discussion
19:30 Indrani’s Tip #1: Take the time to determine who is the right and safe person to ask for help
26:00 Team Discussion
33:00 Outro

In this episode, join the entire RAFT team as they discuss how to ask for help and the various things one must consider as they hone this practice. Tips range from how to be specific in your ask to the right mindset needed when asking for help.

00:00 Intro
00:30 Listeners are welcomed and the RAFT team is introduced.
01:19 Introduction of topic: How to Ask for Help
02:44 Jeremie’s Tip #1: Leaders in the SV/DV field, realize that you are not alone and your team is looking to support you!
05:50 Jeremie’s Tip #2: Leaders in the SV/DV field, be transparent with your team about big picture items so they know where to support.
07:53 Team Discussion
11:36 Esteniolla’s Tip #1: You have no chance of help, unless you ask
13:33 Esteniolla’s Tip #2: Remember how rewarding it is when you help others
14:40 Esteniolla’s Tip #3: Let go of the feeling that you will owe someone for helping you
21:28 Mariam’s Tip #1: Be upfront and specific with your ask for help
23:48 Team Discussion
30:19 Hear from Anneka, Indrani and more tips from Mariam in How to Ask for Help, Part II.
30:36 Outro

In this episode, Heather Slutzky from Anchor & Flame shares how she anchors caregivers in their resilience without compromising the flame that ignites their passion for the work.

00:00 Intro
00:28 Jeremie welcomes listeners and Introduces Heather Slutzsky, Principal Celebrant of Anchor & Flame
01:45 Heather introduces herself and how her healthcare career led to being Principal Celebrant of Anchor & Flame
08:55 Q+A: Tell us more about what it means to anchor in rituals?
13:23 Discussion
20:02 Q+A: Say more about the difference between gratitude and celebration?
24:00 Discussion
30:16 Q+A: Can you speak to the role of meaning-making in resilience?
32:30 Discussion
43:34 Q+A: Your “go-bag” Anchor & Flame podcast episodes, say more about these?
47:15 Q+A: What are you up to right now? How can people connect with you?
49:50 Outro

In this episode, Sherry Hamby, Director of the Life Paths Research Center and Founder of ResilienceCon, discusses universal and cumulative trauma and resilience.

00:00 Intro
00:30 Jeremie Welcomes listeners and introduces Dr. Sherry Hamby.
00:50 Dr. Hamby introduces herself.
02:27 Q+A: You talk about trauma as a universal experience and more common than people think, how does compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma experienced by SV/DV advocates fit into this overall experience?
05:30 Q+A: Do you have suggestions on how people can talk to friends/family that don’t buy into the concept of vicarious trauma?
11:45 Q+A: You also talk about resilience being more common than people think. How does resilience fit in with the helping professions experiencing compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma?
18:16 Q+A: Based on your research, what is a resiliency portfolio?
24:40 Q+A: You talk about strengths-based approaches to resilience. Can you share a little bit about that and give examples?
30:00 Q+A: How does resilience relate to growth? And what is the potential for growth after experiencing trauma?
32:20 Q+A: Do you have ideas on how organizations and leaders can support their advocates in building resilience?
37:22 Q+A: We know that advocates experience vicarious trauma and the work can bleed into their family life. Do you have suggestions on what advocates can do to help their families understand vicarious trauma and build resilience?
39:50 Q+A: Do you have 1-2 resiliency tools that advocates can start using immediately?
41:15 Conclusion & How to get in touch with Dr. Hamby
42:17 Outro

In this episode, learn how social journaling can be used to make powerful, meaningful connections with the self, the we, and the us.

00:00 Intro
00:39 Jeremie Welcomes listeners and introduces Alex and Nikolay from Oh-lay, a workplace culture design company.
01:37 Nikolay and Alex introduce themselves and their mission.
03:01 Tool Overview: Social Journaling
05:58 Q+A: Where did social journaling come from? How did it start?
08:05 Q+A: Can you share your experience using social journaling with advocates?
10:45 Jeremie reflects on the RAFT tool, PERMA, and how it connects to social journaling, especially M for Meaning.
11:55 Q+A: What are the benefits of social journaling?
15:46 Discussion on Critical Awareness by Brene Brown, and how it connects to the benefits of social journaling.
19:32 Q+A: On resilience, how are people growing through the experience of social journaling?
25:16 Q+A: What does it look like for Ohlay to come into an organization and work with them? What questions are explored?
29:53 Social journaling as a support to and medium for pre-existing curriculum for advocates
30:52 Q+A: How can advocates engage in social journaling with Ohlay?
33:33 Summary of social journaling purpose and process
34:55 Outro