In this episode of the RAFT Podcast Indrani, Alyce, and Jeremie discuss a common occurrence for sexual and domestic violence advocates: going over the allotted time with a client, especially at the end of the workday. How can you set a boundary to end a meeting with a client without feeling guilty or like you betrayed them?

00:00 Intro
00:39 Welcome and scenario
02:24 Indrani – Breaking habits with Going to the movies to find a tweak. Find the “why” of saying no.
11:02 Discussion
13:39 Jeremie – Using your core values to make decisions
19:39 Discussion
24:18 Alyce – Reasons for not setting a boundary
27:10 Discussion
33:00 Alyce – what happens when we have healthy boundaries
34:39 Discussion
39:00 Conclusion
41:04 Outro

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In this episode of the RAFT Podcast Indrani, Alyce, and Jeremie discuss a common occurrence for sexual and domestic violence advocates: going over the allotted time with a client, especially at the end of the workday. How can you set …

Indrani’s Light has gone through some big changes in the past year, and is starting 2020 with a fresh new look, new team members, and a brand new name: RAFT – Resilience for Advocates through Foundational Training. In this episode Indrani, Alyce, and Jeremie discuss the rebrand and what lessons they have learned through the renaming process.

00:00 Intro
00:30 Welcome and Update on Indrani’s Light Foundation and RAFT
03:15 Alyce Jurgenson introduces herself
06:40 Indrani discusses how to deal with a life change by remembering a time when you thrived
14:10 Discussion
17:14 Alyce explains the meaning of RAFT – Resilience for Advocates through Foundational Training
21:34 Discussion
25:27 Jeremie discusses how changing the name to RAFT taught him a lesson in communication
29:38 Discussion
34:25 Conclusion
36:37 Outro

Have you struggled with responding with compassion and love when an individual challenges your boundaries or your truth? Listen to this episode of the Caring for the Caregivers podcast as Indrani and special guest, Mark Silver, share their wisdom and experience with addressing challenging responses and staying in your power when faced with challenge.

00:00 Intro
01:30 Indrani- Scenario and Introduction of Guest Speaker, Mark Silver
08:02 Mark- How to use training and practice for challenging responses
10:20 Discussion
14:16 Mark- saying No from a place of strength
18:25 Spiritual Power Discussion
25:20 Honoring the Physical Vessel
32:03 Summary and conclusion

LINK: Mark Silver- Heart of Business

Does this sound familiar: you are rushing to leave for work, helping your partner find their keys, packing lunches into backpacks, trying to put dinner in the crockpot, trying to remember your keys, then finally making it out the door. Once you arrive at work you have a meeting with your supervisor, are asked to get something from the supply room (which leads to three more people wanting something), then one of the residents asks you to talk about a big challenge they are facing.

How are you going to do all of this at once, and make everyone happy?

The short answer: you can’t.

The long answer: listen to this episode of the Caring for the Caregivers podcast and learn some important tools you can use to control the overwhelm of trying to help everyone at once.

00:00 Intro
01:16 Scenario
02:36 Indrani – Make a list, and learn to grow your self-empathy bucket
13:52 Discussion
17:42 Amy – using your values to say a positive “No”
28:13 Jeremie – applying these lessons to your organization (and to puppies!)
35:26 Discussion
38:05 Summary and conclusion

LINK: Kristen Neff’s Self-compassion test

LINK: Dan Siegel’s Hand Model of the Brain

BOOK: The Power of a Positive No – William Ury

In this episode Indrani and Dr. Anita Sands share their experiences and the tools they’ve used to manage fear with the adversities they’ve faced. Anita also shares her story of coping with changes in her professional life after becoming a mother.

00:09 Introduction
02:00 Welcome and Introduction of Dr. Sands
5:15 Article Discussion
14:45 Asking for Help
21:15 Advice on Priorities
23:30 How Fear Shows Up
34:00  From Scarcity to Abundance
37:00 Curiosity trumps Comparison
43:38  Wrap Up
46:09 Outtro

Link to Dr. Sands Article 

Often, in life, you will find yourself stuck between two versions of yourself: the “you” that wants peace and to be satisfied doing the best you can, and the “you” that is crazily trying to do everything for everyone. In this episode Indrani will lead you through a short meditation to help you become a compassionate witness to your own self and your own energy.

00:00 Introduction
00:53 Self-Empathy Meditation
04:21 Outro

When you are feeling sad, do you forget about your whole self, focusing only on the sadness? In this episode Indrani will guide you through a meditation to connect with, and embrace, the positive you. It isn’t about changing the sadness, it is about honoring all parts of yourself, and living a whole, and healthy, life.

00:00 Introduction
00:57 Guided Meditation
08:04 Outro

Making a decision between your family and your work is never an easy task, especially when, which is more important changes with the circumstances. How can you determine when being with your family is most important? When going to work and supporting your clients is most important? In this episode Indrani, Amy, and Jeremie discuss tools you can use to make important decisions between your family and your work.

00:00 Introduction
01:20 Scenario
02:12 Jeremie – Accommodate, Avoid, Attack – How we say NO without saying NO
09:25 Discussion
17:00 Indrani – Your unreasonable “perfect should list”
23:10 Discussion
25:50 Amy – Contradictions between your different roles leading to shame
30:38 Discussion
39:00 Conclusion
40:36 Outro

You may want to get your journal out and take some notes as Indrani asks some important questions in this episode. Are you thinking about making a change in your life? What feelings come up for you during the change process? What does change mean to you?

00:00 Introduction
01:49 What do you feel when undergoing change? What is change necessary?
03:35 When change needs to be birthed
05:26 Using your energy to fight back against change
07:59 Ask others about the change they see in you
10:25 Understand that change is a constant
13:00 Writing exercise – Change means…
15:20 Outro