If you aren't setting clear boundaries, and communicating your expectations, you are going to find yourself in conflict. Indrani shares a personal coaching message about setting and dealing with expectations at work and at home.

Holidays can be stressful. Family, friends, extra expenses, and finding time to get everything done, while trying to enjoy yourself, can push you to the edge.

A coworker at the shelter asking you to switch shifts, or give up your holiday time, only adds to this holiday-madness and stress.

In today's episode Indrani, Amy, and Jeremie discuss three tools you can use to have a conversation with your coworker, stick to your boundaries, and still protect the relationship.

Episode Time Codes

00:00 Introduction.00:43 Scenario.02:05 Amy - Guilt and shame triggers.07:28 Discussion about Guilt and shame triggers.13:16 Indrani - Working from your strengths.19:50 Discussion about Working from your strengths.24:40 Jeremie - What happens when you don't set boundaries.29:30 Discussion about What happens when you don't set boundaries.34:05 Conclusion

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

VIA Strength Survey - FreeGoing to the Movies - Episode #3Going to the Movies - Episode #5

In the last episode you learned some tools you can use for having a tough conversation with your supervisor. After having that tough conversation your brain is going to be full and your emotions running high.

Use this meditation to get to a place where you can properly review the meeting and make decisions on your next steps.

When you want to make an impact on people's lives, it can be hard to say "no" when asked to help. But what if providing that help will end up hurting you? In this episode Indrani, Amy, and Jeremie share three tools you can use to say "no" to your supervisor, without feeling guilty, when asked to do something you don't feel comfortable doing.

Episode Time Codes

00:00 Introduction01:02 Scenario01:50 Amy - "I want to be perceived as..."06:04 Discussion about the "I want to be perceived as..." tool.08:06 Jeremie - Delivering a "Yes. No. Yes?"12:41 Discussion of the "Yes. No. Yes?" tool.16:50 Indrani - Self-care: Press pause and think about your answer.20:50 Discussion of the "Press pause and think about your answer" tool.28:10 Conclusion

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

The Power of a Positive No: Save the deal. Save the relationship - and still say no

There are many events, challenges, and problems causing unsettled feelings these days. Whether you are feeling unsettled at work or at home, listen to this meditation and visualization from Indrani to help you balance these unsettled feelings.

You put a lot of passion, love, and effort into supporting your clients at work, and your family at home. It can be challenging (and very emotional) when the people you are helping don’t say “thank you” or show any gratitude for the support and energy you give them. In this episode Indrani, Amy, and Jeremie share three more tools (in addition to the tools shared in Episode #5) you can use to change your perspective when someone doesn’t show you appreciation.

Episode Time Codes

01:08 Introduction02:33 Scenario03:15 Indrani - Bring self-compassion into the formula06:36 Discussion about self-compassion14:55 Amy - Practice Critical Awareness20:46 Discussion about using Critical Awareness25:48 Jeremie - Find an "Appreciation Buddy"28:13 Jeremie - Think about a "Future State"30:24 Conclusion

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

LINK: Episode #5 Dealing with a lack of Appreciation and Gratitude Part OneLINK: Episode #6 A Meditation on Self-KindnessLINK: Kristen Neff's Self-Compassion Test LINK: Affirmation Checklist

In the Episode #6 meditation Indrani mentions "The Anyway Poem". Listen to this episode #6 bonus audio to hear Indrani read the poem.

In this episode Indrani shares a special meditation to remind you to be kind to yourself when working in, what is often, a thankless job at your shelter. Links and Resources mentioned in this episode The Anyway Poem Audio

You put a lot of passion, love, and effort into supporting your clients at work, and your family at home. It can be challenging (and very emotional) when the people you are helping don't say "thank you" or show any gratitude for the support and energy you give them. In this episode learn three tools you can use to change your perspective when someone doesn't show you appreciation.

Episode Time Codes

00:58 Introduction02:42 Scenario03:32 Indrani - Use the "Going to the Movies Tool" to reflect on your actions and reactions when someone shows no gratitude.08:08 Discussion of the "Going to the Movies Tool"12:00 Amy - Use the "How do you want to be perceived" exercise to identify your triggers in this situation.16:46 Discussion of the "How do you want to be perceived" exercise.21:54 Jeremie - Use PERMA to focus on your side of the relationship and don't depend on the other person showing gratitude.27:30 Discussion of the PERMA tool31:00 Conclusion and summary of the three tools

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

LINK: Find your strengths using the VIA Strengths SurveyBOOK: Flourish by Martin Seligman