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There are many events, challenges, and problems causing unsettled feelings these days. Whether you are feeling unsettled at work or at home, listen to this meditation and visualization from Indrani to help you balance these unsettled feelings.

You put a lot of passion, love, and effort into supporting your clients at work, and your family at home. It can be challenging (and very emotional) when the people you are helping don’t say “thank you” or show any gratitude for the support and energy you give them. In this episode Indrani, Amy, and Jeremie share three more tools (in addition to the tools shared in Episode #5) you can use to change your perspective when someone doesn’t show you appreciation.

Episode Time Codes

01:08 Introduction02:33 Scenario03:15 Indrani - Bring self-compassion into the formula06:36 Discussion about self-compassion14:55 Amy - Practice Critical Awareness20:46 Discussion about using Critical Awareness25:48 Jeremie - Find an "Appreciation Buddy"28:13 Jeremie - Think about a "Future State"30:24 Conclusion

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

LINK: Episode #5 Dealing with a lack of Appreciation and Gratitude Part OneLINK: Episode #6 A Meditation on Self-KindnessLINK: Kristen Neff's Self-Compassion Test LINK: Affirmation Checklist

In the Episode #6 meditation Indrani mentions "The Anyway Poem". Listen to this episode #6 bonus audio to hear Indrani read the poem.

In this episode Indrani shares a special meditation to remind you to be kind to yourself when working in, what is often, a thankless job at your shelter. Links and Resources mentioned in this episode The Anyway Poem Audio

You put a lot of passion, love, and effort into supporting your clients at work, and your family at home. It can be challenging (and very emotional) when the people you are helping don't say "thank you" or show any gratitude for the support and energy you give them. In this episode learn three tools you can use to change your perspective when someone doesn't show you appreciation.

Episode Time Codes

00:58 Introduction02:42 Scenario03:32 Indrani - Use the "Going to the Movies Tool" to reflect on your actions and reactions when someone shows no gratitude.08:08 Discussion of the "Going to the Movies Tool"12:00 Amy - Use the "How do you want to be perceived" exercise to identify your triggers in this situation.16:46 Discussion of the "How do you want to be perceived" exercise.21:54 Jeremie - Use PERMA to focus on your side of the relationship and don't depend on the other person showing gratitude.27:30 Discussion of the PERMA tool31:00 Conclusion and summary of the three tools

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

LINK: Find your strengths using the VIA Strengths SurveyBOOK: Flourish by Martin Seligman

In this episode Indrani shares a special meditation to remind you to be kind to yourself when working in, what is often, a thankless job at your shelter.

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

The Anyway Poem Audio

In this meditation Indrani shares a meditation to support you when you are not feeling appreciated by a friend or family member, colleague, or your boss.

As a Caregiver in a domestic violence shelter you are faced with the challenge of supporting all of your clients at work, then having to return home and take care of your family. In this episode Indrani, Amy, and Jeremie share the importance of taking care of yourself FIRST by setting boundaries and learning to tell your family a "positive NO".

Episode Time Codes

01:03 Introduction of this episode's scenario02:56 Jeremie shares a self-awareness exercise called "Going to the movies"06:35 Amy discusses the four types of boundaries14:10 Indrani explains how to deliver a Positive No20:40 Discussion: you are always setting and breaking boundaries.25:55 Discussion: supporting others in your life with setting boundaries29:15 Summary of the three tools

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

BOOK: Coping with infuriating, mean, critical people: The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern - Nina Brown