REAL LIFE TALK WITH BLESSING

Gratitude is contentment

We all are aware of how cosmetic surgery has taken over the industry especially Nollywood… in 2015 I posted on Facebook and said very soon women will lose themselves to cosmetic surgery because of inferiority complex. But really, all these surgery and ways of being artificially beautiful is really getting out of hand with girls. I blame all this their celebrities pictures …showing ass, showing boobies. Some girls feel inferior if they don' have those

assets, so they go all out to get them Even at the risk of their lives. Let me educate a lot of you, especially

young girls, fat transfer is one of the

most dangerous procedures…

Why will you put your life on the line just because you want big yansh and

breast..? A lot of these girls have inferiority complex, they go on social media and see their celebrities and want to be like that.

As a person you need to love YOU!!

You need to appreciate the body you

were created in. Now this young girl, whose mother sells fufu here in port harcourt, took 3m naira to do

plastic surgery, you mean that was

priority to her? Instead of taking her

family out of trenches. Unfortunately

she lost her life in the process. And you know the funny part? Most of

all this is because a lot of them wants to catch rich married men.

It's so unfortunate I hope some other

girls will learn from this.. but if they still

go ahead with it, anything they see they

should take it like that. Now listen to khloe of bbnaija tell you her experience when she had plastic surgery, and she said even if she is given 100m she will never do it again….

Johnny Depp and Amber divorce

I always say this , going through divorce is a lot of stress , I guess that is why my African people just pack their bags quietly and leave..

Are you guys following on the divorce case between Johnny Depp and his wife. Johnny Depp acted pirates of the Caribbean in case you are not familiar with the name.

The woman is saying he was abusive to her both emotionally and physically and the man is saying she was abusive to him …

So here we have two people who were so in love with each other, who slept on the same bed, who made sweet love and today they are at each other’s throats ..

What happened? Meeting Amber heard he thought he has found true love and a friend. He never thought he would be in an abusive marriage. Amber abused him Physically, Emotionally, and Mentally. So this is for my single men and women who are planning to get married, please don’t ignore the RED FLAGS..

A lot of people make the same mistake I made, of starting a business without getting the proper knowledge and coaching in business.. so a young man met with me and said he needed funds and will appreciate the support to start his business. So I asked him what’s the returns monthly on the business, with the capital he is asking for was about over 5m .. and he told me he will ask his friend, his friend gave him. Business ideas and he wants funds to start a business someone told him about.. and I shared my experience with him about how I failed in a business a friend suggested, and without proper knowledge and research, I started a business I didn’t know anything about. And I lost the money and the business collapsed like a business.. that’s what happens when you bypass the process.. so as you listen to this podcast I hope you learn from this.. see you again on real life talk with Blessing..

In a world filled with jealousy and envy, a world where people betray their friends for money and fame. So guys let me share this short story that happened to me Salome years ago. You see being too open minded is also not a good attribute. Listen to this podcast and I hope you learnt something very important

Ghost husband (The best revenge is success) Wahala be like jingle bell ooo.

Oh boy I saw a post on Facebook of a lady who called of her wedding on the morning of her wedding, because she found out her supposed groom was a married man with children , who had lied to her all the years of their courtship

Seriously it’s so painful, all the years she has wasted on a relationship that was full of lies

Seriously port harcourt men you guys can do better and stop all this lies, this has become so rampant, that was how a close friend told me a married man asked her to marry him and they will move to another city, as in why will you ghost your wife, the babe was like sorry I can’t be a part of such evil, she was telling me and in my head I was like this is one of so many men out there who is planning to run away with another woman, when they kept one with children .

I find it quite despicable that a man won’t be bold enough to divorce one before going with another, A lot of men are ghosting their wives and children! Why is that becoming a norm ,

Today I will share a story of a dear friend who I would rather keep anonymous even though she called her name in the interview.

Hello sir before you ghost your family, I will like to let you know that it is traumatic when such things happen, you do not only leave them physically you also rip their hearts because it makes your family feel like you died..

This lady attempted suicide 2 times, she became a shadow of herself, she became a mental, emotional reck.

Please as you listen to her learn something because thee is a lot happening out there

This interview is quite a long one so it’s gonna be in two episodes.

You will hear ‘The husband vanish’ and then he goes to another place and gets married it’s becoming a trend which is absolutely ridiculous because for me it is a weakling that will do something like that.

And to every woman or man who has being ghosted by their partner, I want to say be strong, for the sake of yourself and your children.

And soon I will talk about ghosting especially in the single folks , I will talk about the signs and what to do ..

I love you all so much for taking out time to listen to this show, talk to you soon on real life talk with Blessing.

Don’t force a child

Guess who went to an event at the Catholic Church

So I got invited for an event called confirmation at the Catholic Churches, a friend said her child was getting confirmed and she will love me to come .

So I went and it was a different experience on its own , you know the Catholics have their own doctrine which is amazing by the way

So it was time for the events and parents were getting their wards ready , and while this was going on a woman was shouting at her child and I quote “are you stupid? What do you mean by that? You must be crazy “ she lost sight of where she was and the child was crying , I couldn’t take it I had to stand up and go meet her .. madam what is the problem, and she said can you imagine this stupid child said she doesn’t want to get confirmed.. I turned to the child who was crying seriously and I said hello sweetie why did you change your mind, you know your mother has being planing for this day, then I realizes she was only confused and needed explanation which the parent didn’t give

I said to her , my darling what you are doing here today isn’t for your mother or your father you are doing it as an acknowledgment to God your creator, I told her she was only doing what has being a catholic doctrine so she shouldn’t feel forced.

Now she cleaned her eyes , I asked her do you like being a catholic she said yes Aunty and I said then this act here today is you confirming you are proud of being a catholic.

She said Aunty can you walk with me to the front , I turned to the mother and she said pls help me madam , I told her to smile and be happy because it’s a special day for her , you need to see this child she became so excited and smiling (lol) I felt so good solving that problem.

But now to the real gist , parents and guardians don’t always feel because you are the parent then the child has no say in the decisions you make in their lives . Please always carry the child along, talk to them about the cause for the things you are about to do which I voles them. If not a child will feel you are forcing them to do what they don’t understand and it doesn’t end well cos eventually it will lead to resentment..

It all starts from you telling your son to beat his sister if he annoys him

It all starts from you saying to your daughter after the brother beats her up WHAT DID YOU DO.. this should stop, we are talking about grooming the male child to understand love differently,

You hear some mothers say , if your sister disrespect you beat her let her shut her mouth and today we have full blown monsters

Who don’t only beat but murder their wives and husbands

The mentality has to change, parenting patter. Has to stop. Some of grand parents got it wrong

Some of our parents got it wrong

We don’t have to make the same mistakes. A message from pastor paul eneche on the death of the popular ekueme singer that died over the week. This is a big blow on alot of us

It is a big blow most especially on her family. I saw a video of the mother crying bitterly. My pain is all this could have been avoided if she left that marriage . Pls stop stigmatizing women who come out of abusive relationships, a friend of mine told me BLESSING I have lost all my friends because to them I am single, so that I wont snatxh their husband, they dont even allow me visit unlike when I was with my husband.. imagine the mentally of some people..

This particular lady had to leave the marriage when this man almost took her life by throwing her from upstairs.

She kept praying and saying maybe he will change .

Instead it got worst.

But today she is single and happy, in her own words

Blessing I dont wake up with fear anymore. If you are an abusive husband I need to let you know you failed as a person, how can't you see you are doing alot of damage to a human being

Get help get help, Madam please tou dont have to die in an abusive marriage to show you are a virtuous woman, I know alot of women are held ransom because the man knows he holds the money the funds so where can she go, when she cant even pay for her a bowl of food in a restaurant. That is why we have come up with a team to get support for women who are in abusive relationships. We have free accommodations until the lady settles down. We are a team of builders who are building.g a better world to live in. Alot of these men have mental issues, bipolar, narcissism and lots more

But because those mental disorders doesn't show on faces , you see a cute looking guy smiling, but when u end up with him he will drive you to a point of suicide or depression. Alot of abused women feel weak, vulnerable, not only their body is abused their mind is also abused , listen to this ways a person can be abused mentally, because some women sent messages and said they dont know if they are being abused, I am glad I saw some pastors condemning this wicked act. The worst part is this domestic violence does not stop with the wife , it extends to the children because alot grow to be like their fathers , some dont but it's more of the majority. Alot of people has lunacy tendencies, if you check their family history you see they had mad people and all that. Mothers protect your children from future damage, if you need help you can reach out to me on my Instagram, Facebook, tiktok even on my website www.purposefulvoice.com . Please don't die in silence.

Loyalty can be beautiful and even an example of sacrificial love.

But don’t allow stupidity to creep in, so a lady and her friends are being charged in court for the murder of a lady they beat to death

in some past episodes, I talked about a young man who ended up in prison because of 50 nairas, so today I am sharing the story of a lady who brought her friends to fight with her neighbor she had a disagreement. 

I guess out of loyalty these ladies actually followed her to go fight someone else, or should we call it stupidity. 

the eventually killed the lady and today they are going to face the wrath of the law, and you know they could have advised their friend instead of agreeing to the fight (lack of wisdom) please don't be that one who lacks wisdom, don't let anger control you be in control of your emotion. I hope we all learned from that story, 

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Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social

well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps

determine how we handle . It’s important to take care of yourself and get the most from life. Talk about your feelings

Talking about your feelings can help you stay in good mental health and deal with times when you feel troubled. Keep active

Regular exercise can boost your self-esteem and can help you concentrate, sleep, and feel better. Eat well

Your brain needs a mix of nutrients in order to stay healthy and function well. Ask for help

None of us are superhuman. We all sometimes get tired or overwhelmed by how we feel or when things don’t go to plan. Take a break

A change of scene or a change of pace is good for your mental health. Do something you’re good at

What do you love doing? What activities can you lose yourself in? Accept who you are

We’re all different. It’s much healthier to accept that you’re unique