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Abandoned & Shattered: these are the two words we hear most from those who’ve learned their spouse has been unfaithful. Vows that were spoken in front of friends and family are now shattered. And the shrapnel, the disorientation is hitting everyone you love. 

Where are you in the story? 

Are you feeling abandoned? Or Are you the one who did the shattering? We are here for you now. 

Join Regeneration Ministries Team Members - Josh, Kit, and Anne - for a wider look at infidelity and how to recover.

The ground beneath you has been cracked open. Learning your marriage isn’t what you thought it was, is catastrophic. But, your marriage isn’t necessarily over. It will take work on both sides to rebuild from the trauma.  

We hope this conversation equips and encourages you with two more words as you heal- Empathy and Hope.

Highlights:

there’s a greater recognition that what has happened here literally is a trauma because reality has been shaken

Empathy, as we’ve learned, is almost a game-changer in relationships. Empathy is like a window into somebody’s pain

It’s hard to talk about with other people because it can compound that shame. Are they going to think that about me too?

Homework:

Use good eye contact, tone, body language - hold your spouse's pain.

Would you tell me what it was like for you when you found out what I did? I want to hear because I want to understand. I’m sure I can’t understand but I want to hear from you, if you’ll let me when you’re ready.

Don’t run away from the pain. Lean into the pain with God. Experience the pain and grief and hang onto the hope. Grieve what was while looking forward to what’s coming next.

Hope Practice: How is our marriage going to look different?

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Original music by Shannon Smith. Audio engineering by Gabriel @ DelMar Sound Recording.

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