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June 30, 2016122 How to move beyond small talk
Whether in life or business, how you go deeper in conversation can be the difference between a satisfying relationship or one that is just tolerated. In this episode, we talk about how to move beyond small talk.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Ralph Waldo Emerson:
“It is not the length of life, but the depth.”
Depth of conversation is important. It builds rapport and shared experiences, and provides support during life transitions. In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about the two errors of conversational depth, the value of small talk, and why it’s hard to move beyond small talk. They offer strategies to help us connect with others by diving into deeper conversations.
Quotes from the show:
“[Small talk] is the basic way we make connection and we can’t dismiss that. We live in a culture and society that is predominately small talk. It being a form of connection is one thing, but it being the form of conversation is another thing—that’s what we do and we just stay there.” —Armin
“If you want to go deeper in relationship, vulnerability is a requirement of that, [as is] the ability to ask good questions.” —Leary
“We’re stuck in this mindset of canned replies. If someone asks a question, you already know the response to it before you th[ink] about it because you think that’s the way you’re supposed to respond. I think one of the greatest things we could ever do is take those canned responses out of our minds and think about something maybe completely weird to say in response—be bold.” —Armin
“Say something that opens up the conversation rather than ending it with an exclamation point.” —Armin
“When you have an open question given to you by somebody else, take that as an [opportunity] to step through the door, being a little bit vulnerable to see where it goes. If they take it up and they carry it further, then you know you have an active, engaged partner [who] wants to have a deeper conversation.” —Leary
“But if you’re on the asking questions side, the key here is to enter into it with a sense of trying to gain their opinion about something and to ask them a question that leads them along in an area of mutual interest or an area you know they have an interest in.” —Leary
“Rather than having it be right or wrong, or your opinion, or being understood, what if your goal—even if their opinion is offensive and completely different—what if your goal was to learn more?” —Armin
“What if your goal is to understand just their perspective? It moves you into relationship with somebody where the purpose is for you to demonstrate empathy. Even if you don’t agree with them, you’re at least willing to explore what they believe.” —Leary
“Questions are inviting. They create the opportunity to explore.” —Leary
This week’s Challenge Me:
The next time you find yourself tempted to respond with small talk, try taking the conversation deeper instead by asking good, creative questions (covering how they think and feel, and what they’re doing) and by being vulnerable.
Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
Mark Goulston’s book, Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone.
Episode 5, “How change affects identity.”
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June 23, 2016121 How to do the next right thing (with guest Roger Thompson)
When you’re confused and confounded, and unsure what to do, just do the next right thing. Start by joining us for this episode. We talk with Roger Thompson, author of the new book, Do the Next Right Thing.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from 2 Peter 1:3:
“His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness.”
For 23 years, Roger Thompson led a dynamic, growing, and complex church in the Twin Cities. Six years ago, he felt prompted to do the next right thing and transition out of that role as Senior Pastor to write the book, Do the Next Right Thing: Eight Strong Handholds for Every Man. In this episode of Reinventure Me, Leary talks with Roger Thompson about what exactly it means to just do the next right thing.
Quotes from the show:
“Let’s determine what the next right thing is. Because if you do the next right thing, and then the next right thing…. It’s amazing to me how the horizon opens up.” —Roger Thompson
“Is there a phone call you need to make today that you could go and do? Well, then go do that. Is there a person you need to meet with? Is there something you need to do at the bank? Is there a confession you need to make to somebody that you’ve hurt? Is there a conflict that’s alive in your life that you need to move toward restoration? Well, let’s do the next right thing and see how God opens up opportunity. Let’s not try to fix the whole snarled ball of twine all at once. We don’t have the wisdom for that.” —Roger Thompson
“A lot of people get stuck because they feel like they need the whole road map.” —Leary
“If I do the next right thing according to God’s prompting, His Word, and wisdom, and then tomorrow I do the next right thing after that, and the next right thing after that, I think it’s another way of saying, this is how you walk in the Spirit of God.” —Roger Thompson
“If you know that you have everything that you need, then you can make the decision that you need to make.” —Leary
“I define endurance as doing something very, very hard. It takes a lot of endurance and energy, but you know where the finish line is. I define perseverance as something that demands just as much energy, but you don’t know where the finish line is.” —Roger Thompson
“The key thing there isn’t so much about outcomes; it’s more about attitude.” —Roger Thompson
“Perseverance is a biblical virtue. We so often feel defective if we feel like, ‘Hey, I’ve prayed and God hasn’t gotten me out of this, what’s wrong with me? He hasn’t sent me the answer, what’s wrong with me?'” —Roger Thompson
“Many of us are looking for a some kind of magic pill when God is saying, ‘I haven’t answered yet, but you still have an option, and that is to persevere. Wake up every morning and do your preparations, take care of the things you need to do. But remember I’m with you and have given you all the things you need.'” —Roger Thompson
“The issue is more what are you becoming in the crisis more than how you get out of it.” —Roger Thompson
“Just take a small step, leaning into the challenges that you have. Do what you can. Trust God for the rest and see where that takes you.” —Leary
This week’s Challenge Me:
Think about something that you have in your life that is complex—it might be your health, employment, spouse, son or daughter, or extended family member. Ask, ‘What’s the next right thing I can do in that context?’ Is there a phone call that can be made? An environment you can help set? A principle you can teach? Tough love you need to give?
Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
Roger Thompson’s book, Do the Next Right Thing: Eight Strong Handholds for Every Man.
Episode 25, “When it’s your turn to move on as a leader (with guest Roger Thompson).”
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June 16, 2016120 Why being the best isn’t good enough
The race to the top of the heap will never do. We talk about why being the best isn’t good enough on this edition of Reinventure Me.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from a Garmin ad:
“Beat Yesterday.“
In this episode, Leary and Armin propose that trying to be the best isn’t good enough—that it’s actually detrimental. That’s because the idea of “best”:
Is subjective.
Is relative.
Builds resentment.
Is not sustainable.
They suggest a better alternative: be better. And they offer tips on how to do exactly that.
Quotes from the show:
“When we are looking to get recognized for our performance rather than living out of our mastery, we are living from a fixed mindset rather than a growth mindset.” —Leary
“When we focus on other people’s grade—and that’s often subjective—we’re gonna lose motivation because really all we’re doing is seeking validation. And when we don’t get validation, what we’re trying to get at is diminished.” —Leary
“Instead of winning the respect of other people, why not maintain your own self-respect and continue to relish the respect that you have with the family.” —Leary
“You can’t really truly be respected for who you are unless you love yourself first.” —Armin
“And you can’t even really love yourself without first understanding that God loves you.” —Leary
“There’s only one Best who has lived forever.” —Leary
“When you taste the possibility of being first and you’re not, you feel like you lost something that you rightfully should have had. And when you’re third, you don’t feel that way—[you’re just glad to be] on the platform!” —Leary
“Forget best. Be better.” —Leary
This week’s Challenge Me:
Reflect on whether there are areas in your life you’re looking for a grade from someone else. Whose validation is important to you? Why?
Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.’s book, Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals.
Leary’s review of Succeed.
Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset.
Leary Gates’ review of Mindset.
Episode 4, “How your mindset affects your next great beginning.”
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June 09, 2016119 How to have great expectations of ourselves
In our last episode, we talked about having great expectations of others. Now we turn the tables on ourselves. We talk about self-expectations in this episode of Reinventure Me.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Psalm 5:3:
“In the morning, O LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation.“
In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about self-expectation, how it affects us, and how to know if we have great self-expectations. They suggest that the best way to determine the health of our self-expectations is to ask the following core questions:
What things didn’t go as I had planned or hoped? What was I able to control? Am I able to look at this as a learner?
Does this failure cause me to increase my efforts to make up lost ground? Does the goal remain desirable independent of my self-identity or past performance?
How do I honestly judge my ability to achieve the goals I set for myself? What’s my internal dialogue like when I create a goal? What do I say to myself when I don’t achieve it?
The key question? What’s the right level of self-expectation to have? Leary and Armin offer that it’s just enough expectation to give us slightly more losses than wins. Too many losses and we don’t trust ourselves; too few and we become complacent or arrogant—and less grateful. Slightly more losses than wins keeps us humble and also motivated.
Quotes from the show:
“There’s no one in your life [who] breaks more of your expectations than you. So, on the scale, you should probably put your trust in others before yourself.” —Armin
“If we’re not careful with that ANT—that Automatic, Negative Thought—it’s gonna eat away at the wood fabric of our own building, as well, to use that metaphor, and will leave us unhappy.” —Leary
“Expectations are related to control or trust.” —Leary
“It’s the difference between saying ‘I’m no good at this’ vs. ‘I’m learning to get better at this.'” —Leary
“What ends up happening, when we set those expectations for ourselves, is that emotions get in the way—we color our view of ourselves based on our perceptions and our emotions about what has happened to us in the past.” —Leary
“If you want to achieve a goal, you have to actually write a plan—because when you write a plan it gets it out of this emotional area [so] you can see there’s a way of actually doing it.” —Leary
“The only day or time you become a failure is when you accept that you are [one].” —Armin
“The very best definition of success is: when those who know you the best respect you the most.” —Leary
This week’s Challenge Me:
Score yourself on a scale from 1-10: How happy are you with yourself? Then, consider: what would it take to be one point more satisfied?
Comments? Questions? Stories of how you’ve pursued having great self-expectations? Share them in the comments section below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
Episode 114, “How to regain trust.”
Episode 118, “How to have great expectations of others.”
Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset.
Leary Gates’ review of Mindset.
Episode 113, “How to grow your abundance mindset.”
Episode 4, “How your mindset affects your next great beginning.”
Episode 112, “Can drive and contentment coexist?“
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June 02, 2016118 How to have great expectations of others
Anything worth pursuing will involve others. And, when we do involve them, we form expectations—some of them not so great. This episode discusses how to have great expectations of others.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Leo Tolstoy:
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.“
In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about expectations, conflict, and empathy. They share that what we expect of others is shaped by several things, including:
Our circumstances.
Assumed values.
Assumed skills.
Our inner narrative.
They suggest that the best way to determine the health of our expectations is to look at the relationships that disappoint us most and ask the following core questions:
In what way am I disappointed? What did he/she do or fail to do that created the disappointment?
How has that disappointment affected the way I deal with that person? Is it different than how I would treat a stranger?
What would it take to earn back my trust? If I were in there shoes, what would I have to do to restore the relationship?
Have I communicated that to the person? If not, why not? Would I want to know if the tables were turned?
Quotes from the show:
“We don’t often ask ourselves, ‘What is the proper degree of expectation that I should have with another party?’ and ‘How do we adjust that?'” —Leary
“The key to having healthy expectations of others is this concept that we’ve talked about called grace.” —Leary
“Grace fills the gap between the expectations we have of someone and their performance.” —Leary
“When we can trust in something, we should have high expectations of it.” —Leary
“We assume that other people have the same skills [as us] or that they should.” —Leary
“The proper expectation to set with someone is in keeping with what you have observed of their skills and accounting for the level of emotional maturity, relational maturity, [and] vocational maturity in the area you’re expecting them to be strong in.” —Leary
“What we’re trying to do through gossip is crowdsource our anger.” —Leary
“We set ourselves up as the hero of our own narrative and then we evaluate others in that light—’How important are they in allowing us to achieve our herodom?’ If they aren’t important to us achieving our herodom, then we might just be dismissive of them and not spend time with them. But if they are important to us and they let us down, it really does affect how we then deal with the expectations we have with them.” —Leary
“What says to each of us that we’re valued and important is when other people confirm for us the thing we want them to confirm without us having to tell them.” —Leary
This week’s Challenge Me:
Great Expectations challenge: Ask the core questions about the relationships that have disappointed you and decide what action you will take.
Comments? Questions? Stories of how you’ve pursued having great expectations of others? Share them in the comments section below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
Episode 114, “How to regain trust.”
David S. Rose’s book, The Startup Checklist: 25 Steps to a Scalable, High-Growth Business.
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May 26, 2016117 The busy guy’s guide to being a better dad (with guest Jay Payleitner)
Well, Father’s Day is coming up and we’ve got the busy guy’s guide to being a better dad. In this episode, we talk with best-selling author and fatherhood advocate Jay Payleitner.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Psalm 127:3–4:
“Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them!”
In this episode, Leary and Armin talk with Jay Payleitner about his life, his reinventions, his journey to becoming a father advocate, and some of the challenges he frequently hears from other dads.
Jay is one of the top freelance producers for Christian radio, having produced shows like Josh McDowell Radio, Today’s Father, Jesus Freaks Radio, and Project Angel Tree with Chuck Colson. He is the author of more than 20 books, including bestselling 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad, What If God Wrote Your Bucket List? and 52 Ways to Connect as a Couple. Jay is a nationally-known speaker for Iron Sharpens Iron and the National Center for Fathering. Jay and his wife Rita have five kids and four grandkids and have loved on 10 foster babies.
One of Jay’s suggestions for being a better dad? Make small, intentional memories with your kids—turn what would otherwise be ordinary and mundane moments into a magical ones. He shares a vivid example and several other valuable suggestions and reminders.
Quotes from the show:
“Throw yourself into [fathering].” —Jay
“If you try to balance work and family—impossible. But if you give yourself 100% to all of those, looking for the small moments, it’s the great verse from Psalm 127: ‘Children are a burden from the Lord.’ No! ‘Children are a gift from the Lord’—they are a reward from Him.” —Jay
“Are your kids—when they first see you and say goodbye to you—are they drawn to you or walking away from you?” —Jay
“The best you can do there is to say, ‘What am I doing to maintain the bridge and maintain the positive conversation [with my teenagers]?'” —Leary
“Your best resource is hanging out with your wife and asking, ‘Hey, how am I doing as a dad?'” —Jay
“Our job as dads is to open doors for our kids—let them try stuff—[…]they’ll discover things about themselves. […]And don’t stress out if they don’t try stuff.” —Jay
“Follow your instincts. What do you want to do? That kid is crying? […] You pick up the crying baby. If that baby is crying, [he/she] is crying for a reason.” —Jay
“If lack of skin-to-skin contact leads to Failure to Thrive [Syndrome], then […] lots of skin-to-skin contact leads to thriving.” —Jay
“[Like an archer shooting an arrow,] pull them close to your heart, then you let them go.” —Jay
This week’s Challenge Me:
Kiss your wife in the kitchen. Say something good about your children’s mom in front of your child(ren).
Comments or questions for Jay, Leary, or Armin? Be sure to share them in the comments section below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
Jay Payleitner’s website.
Jay Payleitner’s book, 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad.
Jay Payleitner’s book, What If God Wrote Your Bucket List?
Jay Payleitner’s book, 52 Ways to Connect as a Couple.
Jay Payleitner’s book, The Dad Book.
Walter Trobisch’s book, The Misunderstood Man: Why Men Suffer & What Can Be Done About It.
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May 19, 2016116 Is the best part of your life behind you? (with guest Wes Yoder)
Is the best part of your life behind you? In this episode, we talk with someone who works with a lot of people who ask themselves that question: Wes Yoder.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from George MacDonald:
“Where a man would make a machine, or a picture, or a book, God makes the man that makes the book, or the picture, or the machine. Would God give us a drama? He makes a Shakespeare.“
In this episode, Leary and Armin talk with Wes Yoder, about his life and the challenges his clients—speakers and authors—often face. Wes is the CEO and Founder of Ambassador Agency Inc., a Christian-based literary agency and speakers bureau, and the author of the book, Bond of Brothers. They talk about life, successes, and what we should remember about the present moment and the future.
Quotes from the show:
“I started waking up to the reality that what God was choosing for me was far better than anything I ever chose for myself.” —Wes Yoder
“We’re afraid of discomfort, afraid of pain, afraid of suffering, afraid of losing.” —Wes Yoder
“There’s a slow life transformation that happens every time you go through a testing time or a suffering time. Something in you changes, either for better or for worse.” —Wes Yoder
“Or you can learn to forgive those who have hurt you. You can learn to say, ‘In my suffering and in my sorrow, I met the Man of Sorrow who is acquainted with my grief, who—oh by the way—promises to make my joy complete.’ I can live in that space or I can live in a place of bitterness.” —Wes Yoder
“As long as my life is not over here, there’s still more to come, […] the best part of life is ahead of me.” —Wes Yoder
“I don’t care where you are in life, as long as you are alive, […] this is the spring time of [y]our life—not only because there is eternity ahead, but because the years we have left are meant to be important because we still have them being given to us year after year as gifts from God.” —Wes Yoder
“Tomorrow can be incredible.” —Wes Yoder
“The question I have for myself literally on a day-[to]-day basis—and for anyone who will actually listen—[… is], ‘God, put into my hands whatever you want there. And take out of my hands anything that is not good for me, isn’t pleasing to you, is just getting in the way. And I don’t care what the results are.'” —Wes Yoder
“Ultimately, contentment is connected somehow to knowing that you’ve not missed the purpose of your life.” —Wes Yoder
“When you’re really alive, you can look, with a cheshire grin on your face, and say, ‘The best part of my life is this moment here with you.'” —Wes Yoder
This week’s Challenge Me:
Get a 3×5 card and write down the greatest sorrow of your life and your greatest fear right now. What are three things you would do if you had no fear? Look at what you write down and talk with God about it.
Comments or questions for Wes Yoder, Leary, or Armin? Be sure to share them in the comments section below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
Wes Yoder’s book, Bond of Brothers.
Wes Yoder’s website.
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May 12, 2016115 Your burnout recovery plan
Burning out? About to? No worries. This episode is your burnout recovery plan.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Dallas Willard:
“Understanding is the basis of care. What you would take care of you must first understand, whether it be a petunia or a nation.“
In this energy-packed episode, Leary and Armin talk about burnout, what it is, its symptoms, questions to ask to learn if you have it, and the difference between burnout and fatigue. They also give us hope that we can recover from the cul-de-sac of burnout. Here’s how:
Recognize it. Admit your condition.
Accept a long recovery. Burnout doesn’t happen instantly—it won’t fix quickly.
Don’t make immediate life decisions. Things feel more charged than they are.
Schedule self-care time. Take control of your schedule—set boundaries.
Limit the number of changes you make. Any change can absorb mental energy and add stress.
Ask for support from a friend. It gives you motivation, provides encouragement, and invites vulnerability.
Evaluate the cause of burnout. Really understand what’s causing burnout so you can adapt to avoid it from happening again.
Quotes from the show:
“The earliest warning sign for me that I’m approaching exhaustion and burnout [is…] when I feel like the people I love the most are encroaching upon me and what I’m trying to do.” —Leary
“Burnout is extended, chronic fatigue that gets to this point where you feel like there’s nothing you can do. Your options are limited, you have no real controls over your life.” —Leary
“If you are in denial about all of the broken promises you’ve made, then it’s time to admit that, hey, ‘I probably am in burnout right now.’ It’s not like you’re a failure if you’re in burnout. It’s better for you to admit it and work on a proactive recovery plan than for you to take it further and do significant damage to yourself and your life.” —Leary
“You don’t make good decisions when you’re fatigued.” —Leary
“People who burnout are really good at scheduling their burnouts [by] making sure [their] schedule[s] [are] full. The opposite of that is to schedule self-care time.” —Armin
“Occupation—it’s the thing that occupies us. If we don’t set boundaries to it, that thing becomes like a camel in a tent and it takes over. Pretty soon, we have to vacate because our occupation has killed us.” —Leary
This week’s Challenge Me:
If you’re in burnout or the early stages of burnout, what one change will you make to your schedule to create a boundary for self-care? Make it specific and actionable so you can apply it today.
Comments? Questions? Stories of how you’ve overcome burnout? Share them in the comments section below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
The Mayo Clinic’s burnout question list, as published in their article, “Job burnout: How to spot it and take action.”
Episode 73, “How to set personal boundaries.”
Episode 112, “Can drive and contentment coexist?“
Episode 24, “Why now is the best time to start journaling.”
Toolbox episode 1, “How to journal more consistently.”
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May 05, 2016114 How to regain trust
Gaining someone’s trust can be hard. Losing it is easy. Regaining it is seemingly impossible. In this episode, we talk about how to regain trust.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from David Horsager:
“The single uniqueness of the greatest leaders and organizations of all time is trust.”
In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about why trust is important, what it is made of, how it gets broken, and how we can regain it when it is. Here are the steps they suggest to regain trust:
Identify how you broke trust.
Acknowledge the damage done and how the other may have felt.
Apologize for breaking the trust.
Create a plan to regain their trust.
Solicit feedback and check in along the way.
Deliver and ask for the other’s thoughts on what you delivered.
They also caution that regaining trust takes time and cannot happen until the other overcomes three doubts: the doubt of sincerity, the doubt of ability, and the doubt of durability. One plan and deliverable will not usually restore trust to where it was, so be prepared to repeat steps 4–6 as many times as needed. Remember, too, that, unfortunately, there are times when it will be impossible to regain someone’s trust.
Quotes from the show:
“The trusted leader is the leader [who’s] actually followed. A lack of trust is your biggest expense.” —Armin
“If you want a high-performance relationship, it’s gotta be built on trust, too.” —Leary
“There’s a fundamental, psychological need for trust and trusted relationships.” —Leary
“Trust is comprised of clarity.” —Leary
“If you commit, deliver. If you can’t deliver, don’t commit.” —Armin
“Trust is one of those things that gets strengthened only through testing. Trust is not a static thing. It’s either growing or eroding. The way it grows is by showing that it’s stable. You almost have to test it in some ways to know that you got the trust there because trust holds up under the test.” —Leary
“Trust is broken when someone’s expectation is not met.” —Leary
“When we don’t take what we say seriously, we don’t take what we do seriously, and we don’t consider the impact of what we say or do on other people, it’s a recipe for distrust or for broken trust.” —Leary
“Until you get through those three doubts, […] the other party will not respond with renewed trust.” —Leary
“I don’t think you should apologize until you understand, first of all, what you are clearly apologizing for and how it affected them. If you don’t know those two things, then you can’t form an adequate apology.” —Leary
“If you’re creating a plan, the most important question is not ‘Why?,’ […] it’s ‘How?’ You can’t ask that question once, you can’t ask that question twice, you need to ask that question three times.” —Armin
This week’s Challenge Me:
Identify someone whose trust you broke. Identify how you broke trust with him or her, then follow the simple plan suggested in this episode and let us know how it works for you.
If you’ve been on the other end as someone hurt by another person not proving trustworthy, do us a favor and, in the comments below, tell us about any stories and principles you think our listeners would find helpful.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
David Horsager’s book, The Trust Edge: How Top Leaders Gain Faster Results, Deeper Relationships, and a Stronger Bottom Line
Earl D. Wilson’s book, Restoring the Fallen: A Team Approach to Caring, Confronting & Reconciling
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April 28, 2016113 How to grow your abundance mindset
Are you threatened by challenges or invigorated by them? Your answer may determine whether you have an abundance or a poverty mindset. In this episode, we talk about how to cultivate a mindset of abundance.
This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Winston Churchill:
“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty.”
In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about what an abundance mindset is, how to know if you have one or not, and its benefits. They offer several suggestions on how to grow an abundance mindset:
Affirm that what you have is enough.
Get with others who will inspire you in your vision and the value of it.
Be a cheerleader or a spotlight for someone else.
Quotes from the show:
“An abundance mindset is a bias, or a choice you might have, to see an opportunity and growth rather than scarcity and loss—especially when confronting challenges.” —Leary
“An abundance mindset… is more about seeing yourself as someone who has something valuable to offer to the world.” —Leary
“We don’t have an abundant mindset that comes from us. It comes from another source—the source where True Abundance comes from. That’s really what God does: He provides all that we need in order to do the next act of obedience.” —Leary
“I have all that I need to do the next thing.” —Leary
“An abundance mindset helps us have less stress and anxiety. When we are able to see the world as someplace that has more than enough for [us], we have a way of just letting go of the anxiety of needing to get more.” —Leary
“In an abundance mindset, you see competitors as having value. They can validate a market.” —Leary
“The risk is always worth it.” —Armin
“How often do we shut down other people and relationship with them because we feel threatened by them? All that does—that threat—is just creating stress of us. Get rid of that stress!” —Leary
“It’s this win-lose kind of thinking that’s evidence of a poverty mindset.” —Leary
“You can’t afford not to [invest in others].” —Armin
This week’s Challenge Me:
Take on one of the steps Leary and Armin suggest or leave one of your own in the comments below.
What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below.
Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode:
Reinventure Me’s Poverty/Abundance Mindset Assessment.
Episode 4, “How your mindset affects your next great beginning.”
Episode 112, “Can drive and contentment coexist?“
Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset.
Leary Gates’ review of Mindset.
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