Be upfront about your cheating past. It may feel counterintuitive to open up about your history of cheating with your new partner to win over their trust, but it may actually be the absolute best thing you should do. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the best way to address your cheating history with your partner, when the best time to do it is, and how it will actually lead to a stronger, better relationship. They talk about how honesty is crucial, why you should set rules for your life, how being honest is actually a benefit to you, and why you shouldn’t be afraid to be brutally honest upfront.

SHOW NOTES:

Be Honest | Lisa and Tom discuss how to address your past cheating to your partner. [0:26]

Rules | Tom and Lisa share why it’s so important to set rules for your own life. [3:30]

Your Own Sake | Tom and Lisa discuss why being honest is actually for your benefit. [4:25]

Be Upfront | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should be honest early. [5:17]

QUOTES:

“I will never ever cheat on you. I can’t say I’ll never break up with you.” [3:38]

“The reason to be honest with somebody isn’t for them nearly as much as it’s for you.” [4:25]

“It’s about the lie, not even about the actual incident.” [6:28]

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Long distance dating can be difficult as there is certainly no substitute for close proximity. There’s no denying that. However, there are simple, yet powerful, practices that a couple can be mindful of that will ensure the relationship will go the distance while long distance dating. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly of long distance dating and what you can do to ensure you go the distance and still grow closer while living far apart. They speak about best practices for making the relationship work, what the endgame is, the importance of planning, how to maintain your connection and bond, the importance of maintaining sexual intimacy, and what it means to be giving the gift you know they want to receive.

SHOW NOTES:

Best Practices | Lisa and Tom discuss what is key for making long distance relationships work. [0:25]
The Endgame | Lisa and Tom discuss what long distance relationships should be moving towards. [3:19]
Power of Planning | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of a plan that seeks to maintain your connection and bond. [4:50] Intimacy | Tom and Lisa discuss sexual intimacy and sexting during a long distance relationship. [7:23]
Clear Communication | Lisa and Tom discuss communicating your desires and dislikes in a relationship. [14:11]
Giving | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of giving the gift you know they want. [15:20]

QUOTES:

“At the end of the day, there’s no substitute for proximity.” [2:05] “You need to communicate and find out if it is a gift that is desired.” [7:47]
“Encourage the behavior you want, and discourage the behavior you don’t want.” [14:11]

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Jealousy. How does it enter our minds, what feeds it, and is it perhaps just a reflection of our own insecurities? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the harsh reality of confronting your own jealousy in a relationship and why it may actually be a matter of your own insecurities and not their behavior. They discuss the time when Tom and Lisa went together to Tom’s ex-girlfriend’s birthday parties, how they dealt with it, where jealousy originates from, what feeds it, how it is an ugly look, and what to be aware of before jealousy spirals out of control.

SHOW NOTES:

Honesty | Lisa shares her experience when Tom took her to his ex-girlfriend’s birthday party. [0:21]

Establishing Feelings | Tom shares his side of taking Lisa to his ex-girlfriend’s birthday party. [3:11]

Jealousy | Tom and Lisa discuss how buried insecurities feed jealousy. [4:36]

Choose Confidence | Lisa shares why insecurities are a turn off. [8:38]

Harsh Reality | Tom and Lisa discusses why it’s not sexy to wallow in your insecurities. [11:23]

QUOTES:

“You never made me feel like it was a comparison, and you never tried to hide how you felt about them when you were talking about them.” [2:35]

“There are two things you should never worry about: things you can change, because go change em’, and things you can’t change, because you can’t change em’.” [7:37]

“No one looks at someone else’s insecurities and goes, “Yeah, that’s a turn on. That’s attractive.”” [8:38]

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