Relationships Inside Out

Therapy: a potentially scary or overwhelming concept for many people. Did you know that each therapist offers their own unique style and set of skills, providing a wide variety of types of therapy? Further, did you know that some types of therapy can create significant lasting change, with hardly any talking or deep diving into the past at all? That is where neurofeedback comes in! 

Join us as we welcome our next guest, Tanja Gorenc, MA, LMFT, BCN, the owner of NeuroBloom Counseling and Neurofeedback, PLLC! Tanja shares her extensive insights into neurofeedback, an evidence based and cutting-edge therapy technique. She shares about how neurofeedback can help just about anyone, ages 6 and up, facing mental health challenges to create lasting positive change! We cannot wait for you to listen in!

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In two weeks, we will deep dive into helicopter parenting. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Resources related to this episode:

• What Is Neurofeedback Therapy?
• International Society for Neuroregulation & Research
• The Evidence-Base for Neurofeedback...
• Neurobloom Counseling and Neurofeedback, LLC
• Finding a Biofeedback Certification International Alliance certified practitioner

We all engage in many relationships, whether it is with friends, family, coworkers or our children. While each relationship is unique, each has the potential for conflict or discord because, let’s face it, we are all fallible and all make mistakes. So, the question is not about if ruptures will happen, but rather once they do happen, how do we repair? 

Join us as we give step by step guidance, including what to say, to create repair after a rupture in any relationship, even with our kids! Repairing is an essential skill in any healthy relationship, preventing resentment, cutoffs, and future pain. Join us as we walk you through the repair process, including what to do and what not to do, appropriate timing, accountability, and exactly what to say! We all can use these skills in every relationship we have! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we will deep dive into neurofeedback with our next special guest, Tanja Gorenc! Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Resources related to this episode:

• Family Conflict Is Normal; It's the Repair That Matters
• Repair is the Secret Weapon of Emotionally Connected Couples
• Relationship Conflict: The Art of Repair
• How to Repair a Relationship: 6 Solutions for Change
• A Surefire Way to Repair a Damaged Relationship
• When Is It Worth Repairing a Relationship?

New Year resolution time is upon us! As we approach the end of the year, we often feel motivation to set fresh goals for ourselves in the new year, becoming a version of ourselves we have dreamed of becoming. We may set lofty goals with aggressive timelines or shoot to achieve a change in ourselves incongruent with our current lives, leading us to “fail” year after year. This year does not have to be the same! 

Join us as we dive into new year resolutions, including the common types, do’s and don’ts, and tips for success! Let us help you finally stick to that new mindset, health plan, intention, or financial goal you are eager to achieve. Let’s ring in 2024 with high hopes followed by consistent, well-deserved growth and accomplishment!

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we deep dive into neurofeedback with our next special guest, including what it is and how it can help! Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow up on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• Make New Year's Resolutions That Last with SMART Goals
• 10 Great Tips to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions
• For a Happier New Year, Consider the Way You Think
• New Year's Resolutions That Actually Help You

Do you ever wish you had a checklist of things to do, to ask, to explore before moving in with, committing to, or marrying a partner? Are there times you say to yourself, “I wish I knew back then what I know now about my partner/relationship. Maybe I would have done things differently.” We are here to help guide any relationship, even those that are years deep, in discussing all of the important topics that can make or break a relationship!

Join us as we provide tangible tips and topics to consider when entering a relationship, deepening a relationship, or maintaining a relationship for the long haul. It is easy to get swept away in the infatuation and attraction, but we are here to encourage you to pause and dig deep. We hope to help you and your current, or future partner, build a strong base to build a lasting relationship upon! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we dive into New Year resolutions and how to actually make them stick this year! Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• Dating Tips If You Want a Relationship
• 7 Tips for Building a Happy Relationship
• 2 Ways to Succeed in a New Relationship
• Destigmatizing Premarital Counseling
• Premarital Counseling: Is It Right for You?

Someone wise once said: “We repeat what we don’t repair.”

We all have parts of us that originate from our families, caregivers, or growing up experiences. We experience modeling from those who raise us, guiding us as adults in the way we communicate, argue, cope, love, connect, and grow. Some of these traits can be good, while others may be toxic and unhealthy. Now think about yourself. What are some of the traits that you are grateful for that your loved ones bestowed upon you? What about the unhealthy ones? Do you even know what the unhealthy ones are? Or how to overcome them? That is where we can help!

Join us as we guide you through identifying, correcting, and avoiding future unhealthy behaviors and traits given to us by our families. Let us help you begin your journey of repairing, so you do not repeat the unhealthy family patterns that lurk within you. Let’s break the generational patterns and choose healthy connection, conflict, love, and coping together!

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we will offer guidance to premarital couples to have long-term relationship health and success. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more helpful resources and updates, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• Why Do We Repeat the Same Dysfunctional Relationship Patterns Over and Over?
• How Your Childhood Can Affect Your Marriage
• Are You Repeating Your Childhood Dynamics in Romance?

Holidays have the potential to bring great joy and celebration, but they also can bring family tension, loneliness, anxiety, debt, loss of self-care, pressure, and much more. What if this holiday season, you only did the things you wanted to? What if you made choices based on your needs and desires, not the hopes and pressures of others? What if you really lived out the holiday season you have hoped for all of these years? Imagine the joy, relaxation, and connection you could experience! 

Join us as we shatter the expectations and pressures of the holiday season, offering tangible tips to experience the holidays as you truly want them to be. We help you set a goal for your holiday season, walk you through setting boundaries, offer tips to protecting your self-care and mental health, and help you make intentional choices to really enjoy the magic of the holidays! We cannot wait for you to check this episode out and bring yourself peace and confidence in your holiday plans! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we will offer insight to help you avoid repeating toxic family patterns. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:
1. 5 Ways to Manage Your Mental Health During the Holidays, According to a Therapist
2. Managing the Seemingly Inevitable Holiday Season Stress
3. What Are the Holiday Blues?
4. Tips for Managing the Holiday Blues - National Alliance on Mental Illness

What is the single most impactful event on a marriage, creating the largest decline in marital satisfaction and quality? Answer: the birth of our first child. Pregnancy gives us a runway for this transition, ideally giving us time to plan and prepare for this daunting relational challenge. Join us as we give tips to tackle the challenges and reduce the potential negative impact on our relationship. 

Join us as we discuss pregnancy, including ways to set our relationship set up for success when our child is born. Pregnancy can be an incredibly beautiful, yet deeply challenging, journey for many mothers and their partners. The journey of pregnancy is unique to each mother and partnership, requiring equally unique support. We are eager to share our insights into this complex journey and ways to strengthen your relationship along the way! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we will give tips and tricks to protect your mental health this holiday season. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more! 

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• The Baby Effect: Are You Ready?
• Mentally Preparing for Pregnancy
• Partners in Pregnancy: Preparing for a Baby Together
• Research Shows That These Two Things Keep New Parents Happy
• Couples Communication Skills and Anxiety of Pregnancy: A Narrative Review
• When Couples Become Parents: The Impact on Your Relationship (Part I)
• Communication and Intimacy Tools for New Parents (Part II)
• Having a Baby: When You Don't Agree
• Postpartum Support International

Enabling: allowing or encouraging someone to continue potentially unhealthy behaviors or thought patterns in an effort to show love and support. When we hear the word “enabling,” we most often tend to think about addiction, but this relationship pattern shows up in many more contexts and relationship types. In any case, this pattern derived from love and support can be toxic and unhealthy for all involved. 

Join us as we unpack enabling. Enabling goes beyond just parents and children facing addiction, to include giving into children during a temper tantrum, accommodating another person’s desire for complete control at the expense of our own needs or advocacy, accommodating behavioral patterns that worsen mental health, and much more. It can be incredibly difficult to identify, especially when we are a part of the cycle, making it even more difficult to overcome. Join us for tangible ways to notice this pattern and nip it in the bud before destruction sets in! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we dive into the journey of pregnancy and its impact on partnerships. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• How to Recognize (and Correct) Enabling Behavior
• Are You a Helper or an Enabler? 
• How To Tell If You Are Enabling Your Adult Child
• Supporting vs Enabling

Many of us have great hopes of becoming a parent one day, often with the hopes of having our own biological child. But for about 20% of us, this journey is difficult, or even impossible. Infertility can be unimaginably painful for both partners and their families. The journey of infertility is complex, fraught with hope and disappointment, bravery and fear, trust and isolation. We are here to offer support to those who may be facing infertility, as well as those witnessing the journey of someone else. 

Join us as we welcome another guest, Dr. Randi Smith, to discuss infertility. Dr. Smith is a Licensed Psychologist, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Professor at Metropolitan State University of Denver. She specializes in supporting women and couples facing the deep challenges of infertility, assisting them in navigating the emotional, mental, and physical aspects of this excruciating journey.  She guides us through the ins and outs of infertility and shares her wisdom in supporting those facing this journey.

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we define enabling, signs enabling is taking over, and ways to overcome it. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more helpful resources and updates, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• What is Infertility?
• Infertility and Couples
• 8 Ways Infertility Impacts Your Relationship and Ways to Cope
• Infertility and Fertility Resources
• 10 Great Online Resources for Fertility
• American Society for Reproductive Medicine

Our Guest

• Dr. Randi Smith 

Think about the last time you went to a restaurant or sat with your partner on the couch. What do these two have in common? Phones! Phubbing, or phone snubbing, is a growing phenomenon where we spend more time on our phones or electronic devices than we do actually connecting with those around us. Eye contact, verbal communication, attunement to emotions, and physical contact are essential for true, deep connection. Phubbing can leave the other person feeling alone, disconnected, devalued, and unimportant, including with our partner. 

Join us as we explore phubbing. In our desire to stay ever connected with the outside world or “check out” for a bit, we lose depth and quality in our relationships nearest to us. By staring at our phones constantly, even while eating or having a conversation, we are communicating to the other person that we do not prioritize them or value what they have to say. In this episode, we offer insights into the true impact phones are having on our relationships, as well as tips to notice and correct our phubbing behaviors. You and your partner deserve better! 

Please head on over and check out episode 63, Phubbing Your Partner. If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we will discuss infertility with Dr. Randi Smith. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

 For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• Introducing 'Phubbing'
• 'Phubbing' Is Hurting Your Relationships. Here's What It Is
• Phubbing - The #1 Phone Habit to Drop for Better Relationships
• Why the Phenomenon of "Phubbing Is Like Relationship Mold
• Why Too Much Cell Phone Usage Can Hurt Your Family Relationships
• Smartphones, Social Media Use and Youth Mental Health