Relationships Inside Out

Friendships: an incredibly important but perhaps rather difficult facet of our lives, especially as adults. Friendships are crucial for giving and receiving support, boosting our mood and overall well-being, offloading our partner from needing to be our everything, and keeping our heads above water in the hardest of moments. 

But you may be asking yourself: How do I find new friends? How do I pick the right ones for me, rather than just settling for any friendship? How to I build friendships that can stand the test of time? What really matters when it comes to healthy, enduring friendships? We are here to answer all of these questions and more! 

Join us as we explore friendship! The meaning of friendship and how friendship evolves changes drastically from childhood/adolescence into adulthood. It can feel tricky, or even impossible, to find new and quality friendships. We are here to offer some suggestions to not only find friends, but also a gameplan to confidently identify who is the best fit for your inner circle and ways to fortify your friendships for long term. We all deserve supportive, loving friends, including you!

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In two weeks, we dive into defensiveness. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

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Some resources related to this episode:

• Friends
• 6 Friendship Benefits: Why It's Important to Stay Close to Your Friends
• 6 Ways to Set Boundaries Without Guilt
• Fitting in Versus Belonging
• 9 Signs It's Time to End a Friendship

Tit for tat: keeping score in a relationship. Tit for tat can be engrained in our mind and our interactions with our partner. Tit for tat holds the risk of building resentment, fostering defensiveness, and harboring anger for our partner. It does not allow for the natural ebb and flow of the give and take in relationships, stifling growth in relationships and preventing compassion and validation for one another. 

Join us as we illuminate how tit for tat can show up in our relationship, as well as why it is an important pattern to eliminate and how to do this. When we can eradicate tit for tat in our relationships, we learn how to work as a team and lead with compassion and emotional attunement over judgment, criticism, and contempt. You don’t want to miss this one!    

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In two weeks, we explore the world of friendships and what makes some better for us than others. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

 
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Some resources related to this episode

• Tit for Tat!
• Why Your Relationship May Be Stuck in a Frustrating Tit-for-Tat Pattern
• Beware the Tit for Tat Trap

We have all had moments in which we worried about our performance, fearing that we would make a mistake, face repercussions for falling short, or be perceived as incompetent. Performance anxiety can show up in many parts of our lives, including: parenting, friendships, hosting people in our home, our relationship, presentations, work, sports, school, sex, child birth, and the list goes on. The question is, how much is your performance anxiety impacting you? If you find that it is holding you back or dampening your joy in life’s moments, it may be time to make a shift!

Join us as we discuss performance anxiety, a normal but potentially life altering experience. Performance anxiety can be a double-edge sword, pushing us to prepare and practice to do our best, while also carrying the risk of preventing us from taking risks or enjoying the process. In this episode, we dive deeper into how performance anxiety can show up for each of us and simple tools to take charge of it for the long haul. Join us so you can regain power over your anxiety and live with confidence while saying good-bye to self-doubt!

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 In two weeks, we dive into tit for tat in relationships, including why it might show up and how to conquer it. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

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Some resources related to this topic:

• What Is Performance Anxiety? 
• What is Sexual Performance Anxiety?
• How to Overcome the Cycle of Performance Anxiety
• Performance Anxiety in Children's Sports
• One Surprising Cause for Male Performance Anxiety

“You did great kiddo!”

“I can see you are hurting. Can I give you a hug?”

“It’s okay! We all make mistakes.”

“I can see you are disappointed. How can I support you right now?"

All of these statements have one thing in common: compassion. We, as parents, teach our children their inner voice, whether it is one of self-criticism or one of self-compassion. Not only do we do this in the way we speak to our children, but also in the ways in which we speak to or about ourselves in front of our children. Imagine if everyone was given kindness, compassion, and care from infancy on in each moment of their lives, including their biggest of mistakes and most painful of emotions? How might the world look different today?

Join my colleague, Dr. Greg Seibert, LMFT, and I as we welcome another guest, Wendy O'Leary, M.Ed. to discuss self-compassion in children! Wendy is a certified mindfulness meditation teacher, public speaker, and author with expertise in emotional resilience, mindfulness, and self-compassion for children and adults. Her most recent children's book, It's OK: Being Kind To Yourself When Things Feel Hard, is being released on March 28 and supports the cultivation of self-compassion for children. In this podcast, Wendy guides us through a deep dive into the cultivation of self-compassion in children and why this crucial for their well-being throughout their lives. Her insights have the potential to significantly change your child’s life, as well as your own! We all deserve care, compassion, and kindness; join us to find out how we do this effectively and significantly shape our children’s internal voices for the long haul! 

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In two weeks, we unpack performance anxiety and how this can dramatically impact our lives. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

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Some resources related to this episode:

• Website - Wendy O'Leary, M. ED.
• Book - The Monster Parade: A Book About Feeling All Your Feelings and Then Watching Them Go
• Book- Breathing Makes it Better: A Book for Sad Days, Mad Days, Glad Days, and All the Feelings In-Between
• Book - It's OK: Being Kind to Yourself When Things Feel Hard
• Event- It's OK launch - Growing self-compassion for children
• Workshop-

Forgiveness can be incredibly challenging and almost feel impossible. As humans, we go through many moments of pain, deceit, and being let down. As humans, we also have the choice to carry those moments with us forever or work to let them go. This is where forgiveness comes in. Do you have the tools to wholeheartedly forgive someone else, or even yourself? If not or if it is difficult for you to lean into forgiveness, let us help guide you to a calm heart and a healed soul.

Join us as we unpack forgiveness, including what it means, steps to move forward into forgiveness, and the risks of holding onto the past. Forgiveness can carry a connotation of giving up, losing control, or letting the other person off the hook. It does not have to look this way; let us tell you why and help you reshape this thinking. You deserve to drop the weight of the past and reclaim your mental peace!  

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we welcome another guest, Wendy O'Leary M. Ed, to discuss self-compassion in children.  Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc

Some resources related to this episode:

• Forgiveness
• How to Practice Forgiveness in a Relationships
• Forgiveness: The Secret to a Healthy Relationship
• 3 Key Principles of Forgiveness
• Forgiveness, Family Relationships and Health
• Gratitude and Forgiveness in Relationships

Take a moment and ask yourself: what are my priorities? Now ask yourself: does my life and the way I live each day actually align with my priorities as I desire to have them?  Our hope is that if you are in a relationship, it is near or at the top of your priorities either way. If not, it may be time to reevaluate your priorities and shift your daily living. Join us as we discuss how to prioritize your relationship and why it is crucial for long-term relationship success and your well-being!

Join us as we discuss prioritizing our most important relationships and how to do it successfully! Life can bring many unexpected challenges, but your relationship can always remain a top priority. No one enters a romantic partnership to feel bored, disconnected, stagnant, undervalued, or unappreciated. Let us give you some tools to avoid these and make your relationship one of your top priorities and greatest sources of joy! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]!

In two weeks, we unpack forgiveness, including some “how to” tips and why it is important for your well-being and relationships. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• 9 Tips for Making Your Relationship a Priority
• 10 Ways to Connect with Your Partner Daily
• 7 Surprising Ways to Your Relationship Better
• 17 Fun Things to Do As a Couple

Sleep is more important to our health than many know. Quality sleep has the power to improve our mental health, reduce chronic physical health problems, improve of productivity, strengthen the quality of our relationships, and so much more. Conversely, poor sleep can wreak havoc on all parts of our lives, including our mental and physical health, relationships, parenting, work, and the list goes on. Join us as we discuss the importance of quality sleep and tangible tools to improve your quality of sleep, and thus the quality of your relationships!     

Join us as we unpack sleep and its role on your health, relationships, and general functioning. We identify some barriers to good sleep, provide a map to help you improve the quality of your sleep, and discuss how sleep maybe preventing you from the life you desire. You deserve to feel rested and like your best self each and every day!    

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we dive into how to prioritize your relationship and why it matters! Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, myths of therapy, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• Why Do We Need Sleep?
• Why Sleep is Important
• The Importance of Sleep
• Is Sleeping in Separate Beds Bad for Your Relationship?
• Is Sleep Deprivation Hurting Your Love Life?

It is that time of the year again, New Years Resolutions! This is when we all promise ourselves that we will be our best selves the next year, setting lofty goals with powerful, though short-lived, motivation. The challenge: they never seem to stick for more than a couple of weeks. We are here to help you change that pattern, assisting you in setting realistic goals that you can actually achieve, improving yourself as well as your relationships for the long haul! 

Join us we discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly with New Years Resolutions. We dispel common myths and missteps, while giving you actionable measures to set and achieve your goals. We challenge the traditional thoughts of what New Years resolutions can be and help you establish the proper mindset to make this next year your best yet!   

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we reveal some secrets to great sleep and how quality sleep can improve your relationship, mindset, physical health, and mental health! Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, myths of therapy, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

 
For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

 
Some resources related to this episode:

• 10 Great Tips to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions
• Psychology Explains New Year Resolutions, Hits and Misses
• Healthy New Year's Resolutions for Kids
• Setting SMART Goals in the New Year

Compassion is the heart of healthy relationships. Compassion allows us to operate from a place of humility, grace, patience, and understanding, even in the most difficult of moments. Unfortunately, compassion in romantic partnerships is often misunderstood and forgotten. Join us as we welcome a world-renown expert to illuminate what compassion really looks like, how we practice it in our relationships, and why is might the missing key to resolving your marital challenges.    

Join us as we welcome another guest, Michelle Becker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Michelle is an international compassion trainer, guiding couples to understand the art of compassion in their relationship and strengthen their bond for the long haul. Michelle shares about her journey of becoming a compassion expert, as well as incredibly useful tips and tricks to invite compassion into your relationship. Michelle shares about her powerful course and book, both titled, Compassion in Couples, giving you tangible next steps to better your relationship. We cannot wait for you to hear this powerful discussion!   

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we get excited for the new year and discuss how to make those new years resolutions meaningful and actually stick this time! Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, myths of therapy, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

How to purchase Michelle Becker's book Compassion for Couples: Building the Skills of Loving Connection (1st Edition):

• Compassion for Couples: Building the Skills of Loving Connection (guilford.com)
• Compassion for Couples: Building the Skills of Loving Connection: 9781462545155: Medicine & Health Science Books @ Amazon.com

How to sign up for the Compassion for Couples Course:

• Courses + Events – Wise Compassion
• Compassion for Couples | Centers for Integrative Health (ucsd.edu)

Some resources related to this episode:

• What is Compassion? 
• Wise Compassion
• Dr. Brené Brown
• Dr. Kristen Neff

Trauma can begin within the womb or happen anytime in life. It hangs in the shadows, waiting for our hardest or darkest moments to rear its ugly head. Trauma, as well as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), can dramatically alter our lives, taking over the way we feel, obstructing the way relate with others, coloring the way we interact with our environment, disrupting our sleep, dominating our thinking, and hijacking us so many other ways. You did not choose your traumatic experience(s), nor did you choose the symptoms that came after. We are here to help you see a way through that trauma to recapture your control, joy, and life. 

Join us as we hold space for trauma and PTSD, offering insights into why some experience trauma/PTSD and others don’t, tips for moving forward, and gentle guidance for supportive loved ones of those who have experienced trauma.  Trauma is powerful but it does not have to determine the next chapter of your life. Let us help you begin to heal. 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we welcome another guest, Michelle Becker, to breakdown compassion in couples and why it matters. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, myths of therapy, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more helpful resources and updates, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:
1. What is trauma?
2. Types, symptoms, and coping with trauma
3. What is EMDR?
4. What is Somatic Experiencing?
5. What is Brainspotting Therapy?