Relationships Inside Out

Finances. A deeply intimate, intimidating, and yet common struggle in couple communication. Finances are an inherent part of daily living, yet we treat them as though they are taboo or the plague. We often hold discussing it as more vulnerable than every other topic, including sex or religion. Despite money being a crucial part of our lives, we rarely receive any education around how to interact with finances and talk about it with our family or partner. This can create apprehension, fear, and complete avoidance. Time to switch it up and bring this topic into the light!   

Join us as we welcome another guest to discuss money with couples and financial therapy, Dr. Alycia DeGraff, LMFT. Dr. DeGraff earned her clinical master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Texas Tech and her doctorate degree in Human Development and Family Science from the University of Georgia.  Dr. DeGraff specializes in financial therapy, therapy that focuses on our relationship and patterns with our finances individually and as a partnership. Dr. DeGraff shares her profound clinical insights about why this topic is important in couples, how we develop our narratives around finances, effective tools to start this challenging conversation, and ways to improve our relationship with money in the future. You don’t want to miss this one! 

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In two weeks, we talk about trauma, including symptoms of PTSD, treatment options, and tips for supportive loved ones. Later topics include: the impacts of mental health on physical health, parenting, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

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Some resources related to this episode:
1. DeGraff Therapy, PLLC (Dr. DeGraff's website and contact information)
2. How Your Money Affects Your Mental Health
3. Happy Couples: How to Avoid Money Arguments
4. Financial Intimacy: How to Talk To Your Partner About Money
 

The holiday season, a mixed bag of joy, excitement, sadness, frustration, overwhelm, pressure, and so many more emotions. We all dream of enjoying the holiday season but often do not create a plan to manifest this dream until it is too late. Not this year! This is your year to celebrate in the ways that bring you joy, connection, and fulfillment, rather than overwhelm, obligation, and dread. 

Join us as we give some tangible and practical tips to not only survive the holidays, but actually enjoy them. We challenge you to consider what is most important to you during the holidays and provide you the tools to prioritize your sanity and fulfillment. We also discuss how to create space for not only joy, but also grief, disappointment, and personal boundaries. We encourage you to enter into this holiday season prepared and free from guilt. Let us show you how! 

 If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we unpack how to talk about and navigate finances as a couple. Later topics include: the impacts of mental health on physical health, parenting, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

1. Managing the Seemingly Inevitable Holiday Season Stress
2. What Are the Holiday Blues?
3. Tips for Managing the Holiday Blues - National Alliance on Mental Illness
4. Merry and Bright? -The Harvard Gazette

Loneliness is often described as painful, dark, isolating, heavy, scary, dominating, and never-ending. It is never described as something joyful, peaceful, pleasant, or exciting. Loneliness can impact all of us at different periods of our life for a variety of reasons, including death/loss, break-ups, social anxiety, COVID isolation, poor self-esteem, limited physical ability, fear, pain, and much more. While loneliness is a normal human experience, no one should have to suffer alone or remain in that space for the long-term. Join us as we discuss what loneliness is, how it can feel and show up in our lives, and tangible ways to move through it.  

Join us as we wade through the waters of loneliness and offer some guidance to help move through it effectively.  Loneliness is not the same as alone time. Alone time is an active choice and fills us up; whereas loneliness is not a choice and feels deeply painful rather than restorative. Loneliness can be incredibly challenging to overcome, but there are lots of tools to help. We can’t wait to share them with you and bring the relief that you or your loved ones deserve. 

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In two weeks, we revisit how to plan for the holidays and actually enjoy the holiday season! Later topics include: the impacts of mental health on physical health, parenting, navigating finances as a partnership, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

1. Loneliness: Causes and health consequences
2. Lonely in a crowd: Overcoming loneliness with acceptance and wisdom
3. Loneliness and social internet use: Pathways to reconnection in a digital world?
4. Problematic internet use and loneliness: How complex is the relationship? A short literature review
5. Impact of internet use on loneliness and contact with others among older adults: Cross-sectional analysis

Poor mental health vs. poor physical health. The ultimate the chicken vs the egg scenario. Mental health and physical health are deeply intertwined, impacting one another complexly and indefinitely. Changes or pain in one, will inevitably cause changes or pain to the other. We must take care of both to see the changes or relief we hope to see in our mind, body, and spirit. One way to do this is through quality chiropractic care, perhaps with the inclusion of therapy or other health practices. Join us as we share more!  

Join us as we welcome another guest, Dr. Toni Marchand. Dr. Toni is a Doctor of Chiropractic, local to us in Windsor, Colorado. She works with people of all ages, including infants, children, and pregnant/postpartum mommas. In this episode, Dr. Toni helps us understand more about the intersection of mental and physical health, as well as many tools to assist in healing both of these at once! We additionally unpack the role mental or physical distress can have on all parts of our body, our relationships, our productivity, and more. Dr. Toni also dispels myths about chiropractors and chiropractic care, as well as goes in depth about how she supports her patients (hint: this includes much more than just cracking your back and neck)! You don’t want to miss this episode! 

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In two weeks, we dive into loneliness. Later topics include: the impacts of mental health on physical health, parenting, navigating finances as a partnership, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

 Some resources related to this podcast:

1. Chiropractic Adjustment Care, Treatment & Benefits
2. Chiropractic: In Depth
3. Chiropractic and Mental Health: History and Review of Putative Neurobiological Mechanisms
4. Depression, Anxiety, Mental Health and Chiropractic Care

Trust. A seemingly simple but truthfully deeply complex word that underlies all human relationship and interaction. Trust begins in infancy and solidifies throughout our lives, for better or for worse. Think of trust like a dance, a pattern of give and take. We often do not give space for this process of ebb and flow like a dance, but rather hold our loved ones to rigid perfectionism in honesty, follow through, communication, and consistency. 

Join us as we unpack trust: what it really looks like, how it can be broken, how we can protect it, and tips for long-term maintenance to give you healthy, long-lasting relationships. We start to learn how to build trust as children, directly impacting our relationship and trust patterns as adults. As adults, we frequently seek trust in all the wrong ways, often pushing our partner away in our attempts to bring them closer, validating our fears of our trust being broken. Let us help you break the cycle of broken trust within your relationships! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we explore the role of chiropractic care on not our physical health, but also our mental and relational health! Later topics include: the impacts of mental health on physical health, parenting, navigating finances as a partnership, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:
1. How to Build Trust in a Relationship
2. Why You May Have Trust Issues and How to Overcome Them
3. 4 Tips to Build Everyday Trust in Relationships (Gottman)

Have you ever noticed that your mood shifts with the changes in the seasons? Have you ever noticed that you feel more sad or low in winter, or anxious or agitated in the summer? If yes, you may be facing the challenging effects of SAD: Seasonal Affective Disorder. 

Join my colleague us as we dive into SAD: Seasonal Affective Disorder. SAD is most commonly seen as the winter blues, bringing with it common symptoms of depression to include low energy, depressed mood, isolation, irritability, low motivation, and loss of interest or pleasure in the things we once loved doing. The difference between the two: it changes based on the time of the year. SAD can be a challenge that many of us face, but we do not have to white knuckle through it. There are many support tools available to help your mood and experience with the transition of the seasons to feel smooth and peaceful. Let us share what you can do today to prevent the fall/winter blues next month! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we discuss trust: what trust actually means, how it is built, and how to maintain it! Later topics include: loneliness, the impacts of mental health on physical health, parenting, navigating finances as a partnership, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• Seasonal Affective Disorder NIMH
• What is Seasonal Affective Disorder
• What Winter-Haters Get Wrong

Have you ever found yourself feeling pressure: To be perfect, in spite of knowing your many flaws? To appear highly intelligent, though you are filled with questions and uncertainty? To be confident and poised, despite feeling insecure or anxious?  To achieve success without any help from others, even though you know you need help? To be able to give without faltering, despite being completely depleted and worn out? To be someone you are not, because if others knew the truth about you, they would think you are a fraud and think less of you? 

Join us as we unpack imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome is that deep feeling that we are not enough, whether it is with parenting or at our job or in our social circle, leading us to wear a mask of excellence and avoid authenticity at fear of rejection or judgement. This may be us frantically cleaning our house before even our closest friends arrive to avoid them seeing how messy your home actually is, to us never sharing our struggles to appear put together at every moment. However it shows up for you, feeling like an imposter can be exhausting, isolating, and hurtful to our core. Let us offer insights of how imposter syndrome can show up, the impact it can have, and ways to overcome it!

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

In two weeks, we discuss Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and how the winter blues maybe impacting you! Later topics include: parenting, navigating finances as a partnership, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to our topic:

1. What is Imposter Syndrome?
2. How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome: 14 Tests & Worksheets
3. A New Way to Address Imposter Syndrome

“Divorce.” A word laden with assumption, fears, judgement, complications, challenges, and intensity. Despite divorce being relatively common in our culture, the impacts can vary widely. If you are someone who has considered or experienced divorce, you can understand the complexity of this decision. What if I told you there were tools at your disposal to help decide if divorce is truly the best decision for you and your partnership, and if it is, ways to reduce the negative impacts as a result of this decision? Let us introduce you to Karen McMahon!

Join us as we welcome another guest, Karen McMahon. Karen is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. Karen leads a team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen guides us through the decision to mend or end a marriage, ways to do either gracefully, and each partner’s role in making this decision in a healthy manner. 

 
If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

Next Tuesday, we explore imposter syndrome and ways to move out of this potentially paralyzing way of thinking! Later topics include: parenting, navigating finances as a partnership, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

1. Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

2. Accelerated 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program

3. FREE Rapid Relief Call

4. Making the Decision to End Your Marriage

5. How to Have the "Perfect" Divorce

Are you sensitive to noise and sounds? Are you easily moved by fine arts and classical music? Do certain textures, fabrics, or physical sensations overwhelm your mind and/or body? Are you highly attuned to the thoughts and emotions of those around you? Do you find yourself depleted after highly stimulating events? Do you find that you need quiet time and sensory deprivation after a long day? Do you ever feel like there is just too much going on around you, leading to irritability, overwhelm, stress, and shutting down? 

If you said yes to most of these, you may be a highly sensitive person. 

Join us as we share what it means to identify as a highly sensitive person (HSP). Highly sensitive persons often feel intensely sensitive across multiple parts of the human experience, including emotional, physical, and social realms. HSP’s often feel overstimulated with much less stimuli than other people. While you cannot change yourself if you are an HSP, you can learn ways to cope and even embrace this part of yourself. Let us give insights to how! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

Next Tuesday, we welcome another guest, Karen McMahon, to discuss the decision to mend or end a marriage! Later topics include: parenting, navigating finances as a partnership, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more updates and resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:
1. What is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?
2. The Highly Sensitive Person (self-test)
3. The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You (book)

Non-monogamy. Polyamory. Swinging. Open relationships. What do all of these terms mean? How can couples/partnerships navigate these types of relationships? What about jealousy? Are those types of relationships healthy? Can they even work? Join us as we deep dive into all of these questions and more! 

Join us as we welcome another guest, Dr. Joli Hamilton. Dr. Joli Hamilton is a relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx, speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Project Relationship podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, NPR, and The Atlantic. Dr. Hamilton guided our conversation as we explored what it means to be non-monogamous, how to navigate differing relationship styles, how to negotiate boundaries within your partnership(s), helpful insights into jealousy, and so much more. If you have ever been curious about non-monogamy or want to support those around you that choose a relationship style outside of traditional American standards, you do not want to miss this episode! 

If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]! 

Next Tuesday, we discuss what it means to be a highly sensitive person (HSP)! Later topics include: parenting, navigating finances as a partnership, self-acceptance, compassion in couples, neurodivergence, navigating milestones as a couple, and so much more!

For more resources and updates, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Dr. Hamilton's short list of resources 

For everyone curious about non-monogamy for themselves or those they care about:

Open Deeply by Kate Loree, LMFT

Polysecure by Jessica Fern

Open Monogamy by Tammy Nelson

Memoirs that teach through story:

Open: A Polyamorous Memoir by Rachel Krantz

Many Loves: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s) by Sophie Lucido Johnson

For clinicians:

The Handbook of Consensual Non-monogamy Affirming Mental Health Practice by Vaughan & Burnes

Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Clinicians by Martha Kauppi 

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