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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.

In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about perfectionism and how those traits and tendencies affects relationships. Perfectionism can show up as being controlling, overanalyzing things even the small stuff, setting unrealistic standards of ourselves and others, and being over critical. So sometimes it may be best to lower our expectations and also accept the situation and other people and let imperfection be a normal part of life.

"Appreciating the wins is important to combat the habit of looking for fault". - Corey Costanzo

Related podcasts:

• Transforming the Inner Critic
• Control Issues
• Understanding the Shame Cycle
• Allowing Influence from Your Partner
• Emotional Regulation

Connect with Corey Costanzo:

• Still Point Wellness
• Still Point Wellness on Instagram
• Still Point Wellness on Facebook
• Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
• Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
• Email: [email protected]

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Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

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Polyamory specifically refers to people who have multiple romantic relationships at the same time. It does not mean any type of open relationship that may include more casual sexual partners. In many polyamorous relationships, each partner is aware of the other ones and transparency and honest communication is a vital part of healthy polyamorous relationships. In this podcast we discuss how polyamory works in relationships and discuss such questions as... What are the benefits and struggles of polyamory? How do partners decide to become non-monogamous? What are some of the effects of polyamorous families on children? What is compersion? And we explore many more issues as well as misconceptions about polyamory.

In this episode, I have a conversation with Sam Del Vecchio and he shares his own experience of being in polyamorous relationships. Sam is a somatic therapist, husband, father, farmer, carpenter, poet, and communitarian. He lives in Earthaven ecovillage, in the mountains of Western North Carolina, on occupied Cherokee land. H

"Rule number one if you are diving into polyamory...read the books, save yourself some trouble and read the books"

- Sam Del Vecchio

Connect with Sam Del Vecchio:

Samdelvecchio (allergync.com)

Books:

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

More than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let's Learn About It.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Anyone can be affected by depression. It can impact every aspect of one's life including our relationships. Those living with depression or anxiety often experience feelings of loneliness, even when they have a supporting and loving spouse. When depressed, one's interpretation of things tends to be harsher than reality. There are ways to help ease these episodes and times of struggle for one's self and the relationship.

In this episode I have a conversation with Dr. Juan Santos. Dr. Santos specializes in healing and rebuilding relationships. He supports couples with increasing intimacy, rebuilding trust after infidelity, and teaching couples how to build effective communication skills so that both partners feel heard and validated. Dr. Santos was born in the Dominican Republic and lives in Greensboro, NC with his wife and two children. He is the owner of Santos Counseling PLLC an outpatient counseling practice providing individual, family, and couples counseling. Dr. Santos is an author, course creator, and speaker. His work has been featured on local news stations that include Huff Post, News 2 WFMY, 102.1, community agencies, and local universities.

"Depression can be seen as a separate entity, rather than being part of one's personality.

- Dr. Juan Santos

Dr. Juan Santos:

Link to counseling website: http://santoscounseling.com/

Link to Instagram: https://instagram.com/santos_counseling/

Link to a free course below: 9 Week course to go from stuck to deeply connected

https://juansantos.ck.page/9weekcourse

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Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let's Learn About It.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

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The idea of "repair attempts" in a conflict has been especially important in understanding what matters about the way that couples manage conflict. John Gottman, (relationship expert and researcher) describes repair attempts as "any statement or action — silly or otherwise — that prevents negativity from escalating out of control." An argument can be avoided and hurt feelings diffused by using repair attempts. If done successfully, they can help de-escalate conflict and keep things from getting out of hand.

In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.

"Everyone makes mistakes, it's what you do next"

- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky

Related Podcasts:

Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident

The Importance of Apologies

The Art of Apology

Maintaining Connection Through Conflict

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let's Learn About It.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

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It's natural to get defensive when you feel threatened, or criticized...but your defensiveness may not serve you, your partner, or your relationship. The sad thing is many of us react defensively without even thinking about it. It creates an atmosphere of contention, tension and most of the time blame that eventually leads to a loss of trust, alienation, and separation. Owning our defensiveness is the first step to changing that automatic reaction.

In this episode, I have a conversation with my friend Gregg Levoy and we dive into this topic. Gregg is a frequent seminar leader who holds workshops in the faith-based, human-potential, educational, governmental, and business industries. He is a Passionate Living Expert who has penned bestselling books such as Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion as well as Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life which has been named as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by the Workforce Information Group. He regularly shares his insights and expertise as a frequent contributor to Psychology Today.

"I'm realizing that winning isn't the objective, even though it feels good"

- Gregg Levoy

Related Content: Other Podcasts with Gregg Levoy:

Circling: A Powerful Communication Tool

New Love...Taking Risks To Be Real

The Loss of Touch

What is a Generous Conversation

Connect with Gregg Levoy:

• Gregg Levoy website
• Gregg Levoy on Facebook

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let's Learn About It.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Most couples struggle at times of how to build and feed the "US" or "WE" in their relationship vs. their individual needs and desires. Thinking of your partnership as a team shifts your focus. Suddenly it's not "me versus you", it's "us". The next step however, is shifting the thinking of this focus and putting it into action. In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay. Cathy is a relational coach and facilitator. She works with both couples and individuals who are striving to find deeper connection and intimacy both with themselves and each other. She helps her clients to see the patterns of relating that are holding them back from what they truly desire. Cathy also facilitates the practice of the Circling Method where she creates a safe space for people where they can stand in their truth and experience what is real for them. Responding to life's call to find truth, Cathy is committed to a mission of helping uplift humanity and develop profound compassion and empathy in the world. "Being on the same team takes the frailty out of the relationship" - Cathy Courtenay Connect with Cathy Courtenay: Cathy Courtenay Website Cathy Courtenay on Facebook Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes with Cathy Developing a Healthy Relationship with Yourself Control Issues Relationship Sabotage Couples Communication: Circling Techniques Difficult Conversations Falling in Love Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. New Live Online Coaching Groups starting in October. Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Trust goes hand in hand with essential components of a relationship, such as honesty, open communication, vulnerability, and respect, making it of utmost importance. Science proves that trust in a relationship is more essential than love. Building trust in relationships takes time, but being vulnerable with your partner will help the walls come down little by little. In this solocast, I talk about the different ways trust is fed as well as taken away in relationships.

" Relationships dies in lies and thrives in truth." - Pripo Teplitsky

Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes

After Betrayal: Rebuilding Trust in Your Relationship

Foundational Trust in Long-Term Relationships

Practicing Empathy is Key in Building Trust

HeartShare: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Relationships

HeartShare: Prioritizing Everday Transitions

HeartShare: Making Your Relationship a Priority

Breaking the Illusions of Love: The Real Work of Love

Expressing Needs

The Importance of a Personal Practice

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Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let's Learn About It.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

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Benjamin Haynes is a wonderful example of today's young generation. He is a meditator, yogi, and evangelizer of "authentic relating." I was impressed by his presence, groundedness, and the intentional manner in which he spoke when we met about 3 years ago. After graduating from UNC-Chapel Hill and teaching in Malaysia under a Fulbright grant, Benjamin recently joined Authentic Relating Training, an organization dedicated to the practice and production of authentic relating programs.

In today's episode, Benjamin and I explore contempt directed within us and projected outward to others and how this creates emotional violence. We talk about how we focus on non-violent living in our lives.

"Emotional violence is likely to leave marks on the outside or inside of the body"

Benjamin Haynes

Related Content:

• Authentic Relating
• Biggest Predictor of Relationship Failure
• Peace Begins at Home
• The Challenges of Workplace Relationships
• Generosity: Contemplating on How We Show Up in Our Relationships
• The Relationship of Business Through the Lens of Giving
• Couples Communication: Circling Techniques

Connect with Benjamin Haynes:

• Authentic Relating Training

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

Don't forget to visit our website, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.

In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Shame. Shame involves an internalized feeling of being exposed and humiliated. Shame is different from guilt. Shame is a feeling of badness about the self. Hidden shame often drives self-destructive behaviors and other psychological symptoms such as rage, avoidance, or addictions. We discuss different ways of changing destructive behaviors which requires trying out new, affirming behaviors to replace them.

"Shame makes people want to hide and disappear, reinforcing shame". - Corey Costanzo

Related Content:

• Receiving Someone's Anger
• The Anger Habit
• Emotional Regulation

Connect with Corey Costanzo:

• Still Point Wellness
• Still Point Wellness on Instagram
• Still Point Wellness on Facebook
• Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
• Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
• Email: [email protected]

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk

Shaun Rawls - is highly sought-after keynote speaker and author of "F"-IT-LESS - Rawls spent 25 years working in real estate, ultimately building Atlanta's #1 residential real estate firm, The Rawls Group of Keller Williams. Having met many of his professional goals, Rawls made a deliberate choice to shift his attention out of the daily operations of his firm and into new ways he could add even more value to others. Through his work and book, Shaun helps other people evaluate and define what's important for them and outline actions so they can work on being the best version of themselves.

In this episode, Shaun and I discuss different ways of dealing with money in our relationships that can bring us more understanding or further apart. It's well known that money is one of the most common subjects for couples to argue about so how you talk about money is key. We also touch on concept of "financial infidelity" and why it is detrimental to building trust and reliability and why having shared values and goals around money can be key to building relational health.

"Keeping financial points in a relationship is a dead end game" - Shaun Rawls

Connect with Shaun Rawls:

• Shaun Rawls Website
• Shaun Rawls on LinkedIn
• Shaun Rawls on Facebook
• Shaun Rawls on Twitter
• Book: "F"-it-Less: 18 F-Words to Reframe and Repurpose Your Life

Let's Talk About It!

Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.

You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.

If you have a relationship question you'd love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!

Don't forget to visit our website, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.

And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!

Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk