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  We all have bad habits and we still keep them. Even we know the bad consequences to keep our bad habits. The US Center for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that our bad habits like unhealthy lifestyle with smoking, drinking excessive alcohol…. cause 50% of the death in the USA!  For instance smoking 18% of total US deaths. Inactivity and bad eating: 16.6% of US deathsAlcohol consumption: 3.5% Why do we continuously keep our bad habits that destroy our health?  Why can’t we resist bad habits?  1.) To feel Comfort. We like to do whatever it takes to feel comfortable. Our brain is wired to reward us to feel comfortable when we have done something. Then our brain is giving us the feel-good hormone dopamine. Through our bad habit, we get that feel-good hormone dopamine.   2.) We want more. We want more of that feel-good hormone and then we associate the feel-good with our bad habit, like taking drugs, to eat sweets…  After some time we have wired our “feel-good” with that bad habit. 3.)  Social proof. The bad habit is wildly accepted. We see our friends also indulged in that bad habit so that we assume that we are okay. And we see many people have our bad habit, that validates that we are okay.  4.)  Bad consciousness. We have a bad consciousness by our bad habit and we can’t quit. We like to suffer and for that, we need our bad consciousness. And then we run in a vicious circuit that promotes our bad habit. 5.) To Rationalize. We find a reason why our bad habit will not harm us for a short time.  For instance: “Just one more won’t hurt” or “I’ll do better next week, I’ve just had a stressful day today”. These short time justifications keep our bad habit. We find reasons, why our bad habit will not harm us in the long term. Like, “Mike Jagger (Rolling Stones) is still a great star, so his drugs didn’t harm him.  6.)  To give up. We know the consequences of our bad habits, like smoking. Still, we keep our bad habit. We think we can’t stop our bad habit and even say, we can quit our bad habit. We have closed our heart to find a solution. And we have no problem to discuss every solution, how to break our bad habit. - It doesn’t bother us anymore. My Video: Why we can’t quit our bad habits?  https://youtu.be/z5NrxInrXPoMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-we-can’t-quit-our-bad-habits.mp3

  Your task is not to seek for love.But merely to seek and find all the Barriers within yourself that you have built against it. What you seek is seeking you. Don’t grieve.Anything you lose comes around in another form. Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.Today, I am wise, so I am changing myself. Set your life on fire.Seek those who fan your flames. The Wound is the place where the light enters you. Wherever you are and whatever you do be in love. Reason is powerless in the expression of love. These pains you feel are messenger, listen to them. I want to sing the birds sing.Not worrying about who hears or what they think. When the world pushes you to your knees.You are in the perfect position to pray. Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? When you start to walk on the way, the way appears. What hurts you, blesses you.Darkness is your candle. Is the light in your heart, you will find your way home. Forget safety.Live where you fear to live. My Video: Best Rumi Quotes https://youtu.be/B1SFNU_5xe0My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/Best-Rumi-Quotes.mp3 

  Or how to inspire your team? 1.) How to start? The room should be comfortable and well temperated. We make sure that the auditorium is well prepared for the meeting. We start with an invitation or a question to engage the people.  2.) Repeat your message again and again from different perspectives so that it will be understood.   3.) Be well prepared but don’t stick to your script. Look after the needs of the auditorium and change your speech accordingly. 4.) Instead of making assumptions, what the people think and need… Ask … If we learn to listen instead to assume that we know everything we are in a much better place.  5.) Instead to be perfect be human and admit your mistakes. We build up trust much easier if we show how vulnerable we are and when we admit that we have done it wrong.  6.) America first? That Idea that everybody must do what you prefer will lead to isolation and to an unmotivated team. Instead, we look for the needs of the others so that they like to serve us. Give first and then you receive! 7.) If we only email our desires we never can build up good relationships. So we have to use all kind of Media to communicate and for sure personally works at best.   8.) If we have a vision we should communicate our vision with passion and make this standout. Boring speeches can never motivate the people.  9.) Speak so that everybody will understand you. Use a simple language and omit abbreviations or jargon that not everybody can understand. My Video: How to communicate as a leader?  https://youtu.be/a6wHuz7Hpv8 My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-communicate-as-a-leader..mp3

  Theses chasing and pursuing of women comes from neediness, that we are a needy boy and that doesn’t feel so good….  Women love a man who is: 1.) Confident, 2.) Vulnerable, 3.) Who has the courage to step up and go in front of them?   The females dislike a needy man. A woman dislikes when a man is staring at her and is not acting.  In our society, the men have learned to chase and to pursue their goals. And this never works out.  If we enjoy our work we become much more successful than to chase our success.  If we are under success pressure we fail much more than to be relaxed.  Because our fears to fail, will attract to fail. And we lose our creativity when we are under tension. Imagine you want to seduce a girl and you are under tension. Do you think that you can entertain the girl so well? You are rather a greedy beast who wants sex like a rapist and the women hate that.  Also, I have tried out to chase women, even as an introvert.  And the results had been so devastating that I stopped early in my manhood to chase any woman. What I have found out: so more I run after women so faster the women run away.  At first, I tried out to become independent happy, to be content with my self and the girls were contacting me. I started with self-experience groups, tantra, and bioenergetic groups and made every day my meditation. And through that, I became vulnerable, sensitive and content with my self. And the women loved that. I became one of their favorites. And within one year, I became attractive for the women and before I had no chance.  Every man can do so.  Then I tried the strategy, just to be relaxed and look in the eyes of an attractive girl. When she was looking back I smiled and went in front of her. I, as a stutterer, was afraid to speak with that girl. Instead, I just approached her and when it was okay with her I embraced her…   How I found out if I could embrace her or not.   Instead, to play cool, I showed her how vulnerable I am and could feel what she wants.  And that is not so difficult…  First, become attractive to yourself and then You don’t have to bother for a date.  My Video: Stop chasing women https://youtu.be/f_kvEF64Xpk My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Stop-chasing-women.mp3

  We are living in a world that supports a fixed identity and through that, we have lost the connection to our true self. The People are predictable and the society loves that.  We have to function in a certain way. After some time we have built up some habits that enslave ourselves. Remember your childhood, you could easily see how the adults were habitual fixed in certain behaviors. You could forecast how every adult would behave in certain situations like a robot. Sure, it made your life easier and also boring. The Adults used always the same facial expressions and their faces were frozen in certain attitudes and could not change. And your kid friends were full of life and the adults lived on a saving flame or without life.What will your kids think of you? Maybe the same what you thought as a kid from the adults.  It is hard to overcome our own prison of our wrong identity. The worst thing is, that our identity got conditioned from our family and spouse.  Who are we?  Are we these wrong Identities? Do we have a true Identity?Can we change our identity? Do we need an identity? When I changed quite often my life philosophy, I always lost my spouse.  For our spouse, it is much easier when we would have a fixed identity. Because an identity means security and it is easier to calculate our behavior in advance. And our spouse can manipulate us much easier when we have a fixed identity. Our environment wants robots and not human beings. If we want to be free and happy our goal should be: To live in the here and now.To make always the best decision without that our belief system or subconsciousness is interfering.To be a surprise to ourselves or others.To be spontaneous like young kids.To be creative instead of following the mass. To be free from any identification or identity. Because an identity hinders us to be in the flow or to enjoy the here and now like the kids. 

  In recent times, even High-profile Olympia athletes are using grounding for healing their inflammations, and injuries…  An old man, Lewis Howes, had the idea that grounding his body on his bed sheet could be beneficial… Because the body is charged positively and the earth is charged negatively… The benefits are: Reducing inflammation.Reducing chronic pain.Improving Sleep.Increasing Energy.Lowering stress and promoting calmness by reducing stress hormones.Normalizing biological rhythms including circadian rhythm.Normalizing blood pressure and blood flow.Relieving muscle tension and headache.Improving menstrual and female hormone symptoms.Speeds healing- used in some places to prevent bed sores.Improves cortisol level.Reducing jet lag.Protecting the body from the effects of EMFs.Shortening recovery time from injury or athletic activity.Reducing snoring.Helping support adrenal health.  If we walk barefoot on the beach or on the soil, we benefit from that… In modern times, there is hardly any chance to get grounded by walking on the soil…  I am very familiar with grounding for Chinese healing, Qigong. We can ground our negativity and even charge ourselves with the energy of the earth and that is all for free and it works… Or just try, close your eyes and say I connect with Mother Earth. Feel that.If I, do it, then I am directly grounded. The Basic Concept of Earthing Is This:The grounding mat (or sheet) is an amazing invention that allows you to do earthing while you’re inside a building. It just plugs into the grounding wire port of a normal 3-prong outlet or a grounding rod (US and Canada only).  Grounding or earthing mats create an electrical connection between your body and the earth. The idea is to replicate the physical connectivity one would make by walking barefoot on the ground. This connection allows electrons to flow from the earth and into your body to create a neutral electrical charge. A half-size earthing sheet can be used on any bed size.We can try to use an earthing mat while on our computers (under our desk) and an earthing sheet on our bed. We will definitely notice positive changes since beginning this routine.  If there is a strong ground current it is actually possible that attempting to ground or earth oneself could be problematic and create more problems. In theory, this is most problematic in really large cities and over wires run into the ground.  Now I have my earthing sheet and it works for pain, inflammation, injuries, and sleep so far… My Video: The Chinese Grounding becomes popular… https://youtu.be/t9nvAojRRe4My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/The-Chinese-Grounding-becomes-popular.mp3

  We know situations where we think that we are wrong and then our shame is coming up…We try to hide our shame or to swallow our shame to pretend everything is just normal.Because nobody should realize that we have some problems ….In the end, we are the looser. Most of all demand intimacy, trueness or authenticity instead of shallow relationships where everybody pretends how cool he is… One of the greatest Marketing Experts Joel Bauer even likes: To show how wrong he is.Admits openly his mistakes.Is building up intimacy with the auditorium if we want that or not.Shows how human he is.And is selling even everything. Gerry Roberts one of the best selling guys on the stage makes similar mistakes like Joel Bauer… Gerry tells his most painful moments in his career to entertain the auditorium. For sure, it is very funny to hear when and how Gerry failed. Then ask yourself what is special about you that you try to pretend to be perfect?  Our imperfect habits are selling much better than our perfect crafted sell speech.  How would it be: if we admit our shame at the moment when it happens?If we feel our shame when it happens?  We would overcome our shame and we would become an integrated person.  We would become: A person that would never have fear of his own feelings. A person that is human.A person that everybody loves. My video: How to overcome shame? https://youtu.be/a1bio3xzQegMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-overcome-shame.mp3

  If we think that money/success and worldly pleasure are everything we get lost or follow a wrong prophet.  The 5 pillars of wealth are faith in yourself and in God, health by living a healthy lifestyle,  honesty, and independence of worldly things.  Why? 1.) If we don’t have faith in ourselves we can’t get the things done… we are lost. Faith is the reason that we win and a lack of faith will lead to failure.  2.) Without health, everything is lost. The sick bed is the most expensive place because we can’t send another person to be sick for ourselves or we can’t buy time when we are terminal ill. Who doesn’t care for his health is a fool. Why is 80% of the wealth in the USA in the hands of the widows? Fools die early!!! 3.) If we can’t be honest,-  we can’t be honest with ourselves. We live in an illusion that never comes true. People get divorced after 30 unhappy years because they didn’t like to face the problems in their relationship. And the relationship failed through their ignorance. Our dishonesty will lead to ignorance and then to bankruptcy. Without honesty, true love is not possible. Even worse, with cheating and lying, we can’t expect in the longterm healthy fruits. And we lose our self-respect. The price is too high! 4.) What I have watched over many years that many successful people are independent of worldly pleasure. They don’t chase success or money because they love what they do. And through that, they attract the success and money. If we are a slave of worldly pleasure, we never find peace in the mind, can’t relax, can’t stick to a healthy lifestyle, can’t live healthy relationships, can’t be honest….   5.) If we don’t have faith in God or in the power of God we can’t see the bigger vision. And we can’t expect to get the help if we are overwhelmed or in disasters. Faith in God is priceless.       My Video: The five pillars of wealth  https://youtu.be/jI1P0Z-azq8My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-five-pillars-of-wealth.mp3

  We can get into a very difficult situation through an accident, disease, separation, divorce, losing our work, war, or the death of a family member, … And then we are overwhelmed…We have lost our identity, how we have been before and can’t be the same…  I have done very much therapy and I have seen so many of these cases…I was so many times broken and could not see the light for a long time; I was already 3 times clinically dead, faced many times the death, (even a half year ago) … And my body was entirely paralyzed … We have 2 different types of people, … 1. One type (the give-up type), he/she got broken and remains in self-pity for a very long time… 2. The second type (the never-give-up type) who is looking for a solution, tries his best to get back on his feet… 1. The give-up type needs to learn to be responsible for his life and to fight for his life…First, he/she has to survive. Every challenge that we overcome makes us better…We dislike big challenges because they are painful… Still, every challenge teaches us something that is worth learning…Ask yourself, what you can gain through this challenge.Instead, what you can lose… How will this circumstance shape your life and other lives…?Everything has 2 poles and both poles have the same size. If we see only the negative in one circumstance, then we are blind to the positive. Why you focus only on the negative side?Then you never will find the solution.  See the good part inside of it… So that we are thankful for that challenge.And act!!!! 2. The never give up type… Has to learn to accept his circumstances…We reflect on it.We get insights.Why that has happened to us and what can we learn? And often we can’t understand it for a longer time period… When we share our experiences, we can much easier accept them, and then we can find peace…  We should be open to a new solution that is beyond our thinking. We can use it even as a start for our inner/religious journey, as I have done when I was broken…  And then we can start again a new different life…  My Video: When Life breaks you… https://youtu.be/vsAUUT2RZmYMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/When-Life-breaks-you.mp3

  Is not complaining an act of procrastination?  Remember when you complained inside or outside, did it helped? When You started to act or to change the circumstances the complaining stopped. Because when we change the environment in our favor the reason for Complaining ends. Was not the complaining necessary to change the circumstances?  If we complain and don’t act we get rather more negative results. Because we focus on a negative outcome and attract so the negative outcome. If we focus on the results that we like to get, we will get them easier. What is if we are thankful for the negative circumstances instead to complain about our challenge.  Remember everything has two pols and both pols have the same size. If something is a bit negative it has the same amount of positivity. And we can’t see or don’t want to see the opposite pol. How would it be if we look for the positivity when we complain about something? Maybe, our complaining would stop and that we don’t want! Maybe, we love to complain or to be unhappy? Maybe, we are unhappy with something else and complain about another thing? And that happens quite often with everybody!  If we complain quite often, we should look for the real reason inside of us.  What is wrong?  What really bother us? And then change it or accept it! My video: Act or Complain  https://youtu.be/ou8WEWCNhTgMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/act-or-complain.mp3