Relax with Meditation

  If I have problems in different areas of my life, the difficulties seem to be different, in reality, they are not. Because I differentiate what is easy to solve and what is difficult. And so I set up for success or to failure! For instance, without bragging, I have the confidence that I can solve every technical problem even it looks so that I can’t solve the problem. After some struggles or after very much struggle the technical problem is solved. And I wonder why I can not do the same in different areas of my life? There must be something wrong!!!  I hate violence and to fight and that my whole life. After this, I must be a terrible fighter! The opposite is true. This means, I even can be good at things that I hate. For instance, since 20 years I don’t like to be involved in technical problems, still, I am good in this.  On the other hand, I love to be good in art, like music… and even I try my best, I can’t be good. If I would have the confidence then I could solve mainly all problems. Now, we make a list of what we are already good and in which subject we like to improve We analyze for every subject why we are good or bad?  Which of our strategies leads to success or to failure? Why can we or can’t we do the thing? What is wrong or right with us? Self-critique is the first step to improvement. (Bible) What is the root of our failure or of our success? Be concrete! What held us back to become what we want? Is it possible that we want to become or get something where we have not the right abilities or dispositions? If you think that you can be everything then ask yourself why you can’t. For instance, if I like to be a great musician then I have to train 8 hours every day for at least 5 years. If I don’t have the interest to learn music for 8 hours every day I can’t become a great musician! This example shows why we fail! Because we have not the love or passion to be good in this subject.  Why was I good at fighting? I had to fight as a kid every day.  Because the Catholics didn’t like me as an atheist and so were beating me up everywhere! The fear to get hurt and to feel pain during fighting made me good in fighting.  Our fears and passions drive our life. After the research, our fears of pain and failure determine by 80% our life. To become successful we need the fears to motivate us.  We need a strong reason to overcome any obstacle and with faith, we can solve every problem.  My Video: Why we fail and why we win?  https://youtu.be/R7cc8nHRESY My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-we-fail-and-why-we-win.mp3

  What is the Kundalini? It is a primal energy (shakti) located at the root of our spine. When we awaken the Kundalini huge energy drives upwards until our crone chakra. When we purify our Soul from worldly desires and have the Kundalini we can get a Samadhi. Through the Samadhi we lose our daily consciousness and melt in the divine consciousness. If our Kundalini is awakened, we have the opportunity to gain easy every kind of Spirituality.And we can’t lose our Spirituality anymore. The disadvantage of the Kundalini is that we can become insane. That happens quite often. We can avoid becoming insane through the Kundalini:When our spirituality is rooted in Meditation. We should be able to watch our thoughts and feelings without to be affected by them. Because the Kundalini amplifies our thoughts and emotions. In worse moments our emotions and thoughts become dangerous. Also, we are open to evil spirits and it is necessary to be prepared. When we participate in the encounter and bioenergetic groups we learn to watch our emotions and so the emotions lose their power. Additionally, we should meditate that we can watch our thoughts without being identified. The Buddhist system doesn’t have the Kundalini because they don’t have an interest in Spirituality. They like rather more to kill their feelings and thoughts to become a living corpse. And for that is the Nirvana. The Hinduism and Taoism want as much energy as possible and for this is the Kundalini. For the Sufis is God/Allah the most important thing and somehow the advanced Sufi gain the Kundalini. I don’t know whether the Sufis get the Kundalini intentionally or not? Maybe the fakirs? In the Mid-age, the spiritual Christians made very powerful rites even with torture and beating. Accidentally they gained so the Kundalini. Even many high-performance athletes, dancers have unintentionally the Kundalini. How to awaken the Kundalini? There exist two paths for the Kundalini the Yang and the Yin path.  The Yang path: We can gain the Kundalini through very exhausting sport or very powerful Spiritual Exercises. Even dancing like crazy can bring us the Kundalini. For instance, the famous Ballet dancer Vaslav Nijinsky had the Kundalini and got insane. The Yin pathA Kundalini Master can give us the Kundalini when we are spiritual open for the Master. If the women love their master the Kundalini will follow up. Just love is enough. This is for females much easier than for males! My Video: Why is the Kundalini so important? https://youtu.be/m6fde85qjTgMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-is-the-Kundalini-so-important.mp3

  Strong men create easy times. Easy times create weak men. Weak men create difficult times.  And again and again and again…  My shortest blog… My Video: Hard times create strong men. https://youtu.be/XLIfi8_-v_g My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/Hard-times-create-strong-men.mp3

 We believe rather more in our Assumptions than in the Trueness. Oscar Wilde defined the word “assumption”. Assumptions are Expectations, of course, are simply a down payment on future disappointment. It is much easier to believe in Lies than in the Trueness. We have so much trouble to face what is true instead we escape with our assumptions.  And from our wrong assumptions live the religions, insurance, corporations and the politicians. If we see for instance, how the Presidents of the USA are lying like crazy, still the voters of the ruling parties never like to change their party or even think that their chosen president is dam wrong.  If something is not working out what we are doing we should question our chosen path. Trueness hurts, still it is the best.  Think over, we will start a New Year and still making our decisions on wrong assumptions.  What do we expect to get out of our wrong assumptions? Still, it is easier to lie to ourselves and it will hurt us in our future.  A technical Quote of the engineers: What can go wrong will go wrong! How many years do you like to live lying to yourself?  How would it be:  Write down your assumptions in every area of your life and question them! You will face your doubts that has been always hidden inside of yourself. Why should be our doubts our enemy? You will sort out what is true and what is wrong. You will get clearance in your life that you never had before. Embrace your doubts and find new solutions for your life! Happy New Year.  My video: Assumptions https://youtu.be/3Vp5LquxSmY My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/assumptions.mp3

  In the Buddhist wisdom is mention that every problem that we face, we have set up by ourselves… Maybe so we can’t blemish other for their wicked, awful or cruel behavior?  Our logical mind is protesting. Because we like to see us as a victim, that is overwhelmed by problems that other people have done to us.  We are responsible for everything that happens to us.  The Happiness research in London found out, so more we responsible feel for everything that happens to us so more happier we are. The Anomyme Alcoholics are asking themselves: What has the situation to do with ourselves? Instead, to blemish other people to be responsible for our hurt feelings we look what is the cause? In a situation, you get upset another person doesn't get upset about the same situation - there must be something wrong. Because of our upbringing, people react differently. We are responsible for our hurt feelings and we can’t blemish anybody else.  Normally we feel okay when everything is running good and when something is going bad we complain. Instead to feel grateful when everything is running well.   Our mind is a machine that continuously creates desires, and through these desires we experience problems.  If we buy some new equipment then a chain of new problems are coming. For instance, if you buy a washing machine you need to make the installation, you need room for the machine, washing powder, more electricity and the machine is noisy…  We learn through problems. Problems are not harmful if we are not seeking problems to become overloaded.  Our problems are unfulfilled desires.  We want something, and we can’t get it in our time frame; then we experience fear and anger that we can’t get it.  After the Srimad Bhagavatam, we want everything under our control, even our animals want that too. And so we suffer.  What is if we accept every undesired outcome as present from God to learn? What is if we learn to accept what we can’t change… Our problem would be solved. My video: Do we create our own problems? https://youtu.be/U9ir0yEq0B0 My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/Do-we-create-our-own-problems.mp3

  It can be hard. And it happens to everybody. If we have the chance to avoid this liar, just do it. If not, we have to protect us.  I was together with a liar and cheater in a love relationship.  My first step was how to identify when my dear one is lying!  When I was finding it out that she lied, she got agitated. At the moment when I stopped blemish her for lying, her anger was over. And this is the proof that the person is lying. Because if we blemish the liar, the liar will perform anger to protect his/her integrity. If we change the talk, the shown anger is over. The other step is to write down what the liar has told you… And if the liar is changing his lies, we recognize it. If we realize that the other person is lying, we don’t need to mention that, because it will hurt the liar.  The reason for lying might be through the different culture.  In the Western World, for instance, in Germany, it is terrible to lie. In Thailand is lying okay, if the person doesn't want to hurt you or confront you or do not want to lose his face. For instance, I wanted to get window grills, and the smith had given me a too low price… He never came to my house, nor he gave a reason not to install the grills… Because he didn’t like to lose his face. What makes the lying to our own psychology? If we need something urgently from the liar, we have a lot of fear. We don’t know can we trust or not trust… Our own inner monsters are coming up, what is when not? Why should we believe this liar? Many years, I was confronted with lies.-  It was stressful, never the less I learned a lot to have trust even everything is running against me. What to do? Everything is God, and God has everything under his control.  How can somebody lie or cheat you, if you have trust in God?  I choose that I am thankful for every outcome. That looks really crazy.The reality is and was: So more I am afraid or mistrust so more I got cheated and lied. If we can keep cool, the situation is easy. This means we make the situation worse because we demand something urgently. So more we demand so more we distract our beloved outcome! Trust in God and don’t trust to 100% people. I got even cheated by my best friends… Look that you can always check the trusted person… For instance, a guy who has a superior position or wealth than you don’t care if he cheats you or not. Don’t trust such person!!!  I got more cheated and lied by people in higher position or very wealthy than from anybody else!!! My video: What to do when you are together with a liar? https://youtu.be/0FhtKE8Yb5MMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/What-to-do-when-you-are-together-with-a-liar..mp3

We are told that we are wired to do... And that is wrong ... Our brain and our mind are changing every moment ... Brain surgery teaches us, that when even a bigger part (might be the half) of the brain is damaged or cut out, other parts of the brain are overtaking these missing parts of the brain. The brain has only one part that always has to function and that is the reptile brain, which is connected to all of the nerves ... All the other parts of the brain can be replaced by other parts of the brain. Imagine there is a big lake, and you take away a bucket of water ... Do you think that you have changed anything?No! Imagine you throw a stone into the lake and the stone will create ripples or even small waves, afterward, the lake is the same! The lake is our brain and the stone is a thought or emotion ... After some time, the effect will subside ... The thoughts or emotions are caused by many different areas of oui brain simultaneously ... It is actually nothing wired ...Every brain cell is connected like the water molecules in the water. .. When we have a thought that is important for us, then it is like a concert with many instruments  playing ...Many brain cells are involved ... For instance, the athletes or artists are telling us to be in the Zone/Flow... If they are in the Zone:Then they reach their highest effectiveness.They are relaxed.And they are doing their craft, art, and sport effortlessly. Or to do without doing. (Wu Wei, Tao) This state of the brain/mind can be reached if the participant has learned their craft and is not bored or over-excited ... ..In the Flow, the brain excludes every thought/emotion that doesn't fit to the doing. What about emotional traumas? In our brain are stored memories Different parts can be different parts of that memory.Like the stupid “windows system” is doing so.The emotion that is fitting to that trauma is stored in a different part of the brain from that memory. The problem is the emotions from our trauma hinder us to think and feel independent of our trauma.There is only one way to get rid of that trauma and, to feel the suppressed emotions of that memory.  Don’t try NLP for traumas, it makes everything worse. We have to unblock our mind, and our brain by releasing the emotions of our traumas. Are these traumas good?  Yes.For instance cancer patients are traumatized by getting their diagnosis of having cancer. After some time they accept their life-threatening cancer and value their time much more.If the cancer is cured, for them is their life quality much more than anything else My Video: How to understand the brain-mind connection? https://youtu.be/tGIbkVl6mhwMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/How-to-understand-the-brain-mind-connection.mp3

  Worldly happiness is only a relief of pain and tension. Watch a happy baby, and see how it is, - just so, without any condition… And that we have lost. The society wants us to work hard and to be unhappy, unsatisfied and fearful, - to take our money for surrogates and protection. A lazy, brave and happy person is independent of the Society, and that the society doesn’t want. Why we want wealth and money? You can’t buy happiness. If we look for wealth, money we should look also why we want that. Most of the cases, we need a surrogate compensation for our frustration, anger for the dislike jobs, for the bad people around us, … Or we don’t love us. How would it be if we do what we love then we don’t need these surrogates? Why are we not thankful for everything that we have already? Through gratefulness we become happy.  Why do we look for might, power, position to get the world under our control instead of ourselves? Bible: Don’t be a slave of the world, get your desires under your control. The master is more enslaved than the slave. Why we want that beautiful girl or awesome person or to have sex with that person? Nobody can make us happy, fulfilled, and full of love! Nature wants children and this drive is rooted so deep in our animal mind that we can’t get rid of it…  Nature makes us addicted to our lust to create children and so it creates these dreams of this awesome, handsome, wealthy or mighty soul-mate. Regardless how attractive the other person is; the reality is that we idealize that person and project something that we want to have for ourselves… Why do we demand prestige, recognition, praise, respect, and love? Love yourself and then you don’t need the praise or love of others. If you are independent and love yourself, the world will give you the praise even without demanding. Why we take drugs or overeat? Addiction is always a sign that we have suppressed negative emotions, traumas inside of us. With the help of the drugs, we keep suppressing our feelings and traumas. Face them!!! Then you don’t need drugs anymore.  For all of our worldly desires helps a spiritual practice to become inside happy and fulfilled. The spiritual path is created as a remedy for worldly desires. Still, it can’t take away all of our wishes. We should live also our worldly life, and live the desires that are necessary to become a fully developed human being. We should challenge us to become a better person.  My video: How to overcome our worldly desires? https://youtu.be/YsOJV8vuRfE My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-overcome-our-worldly-desires.mp3

  Your computer fails if the Main Hard Disk is full and heavy fragmented. First, we unload the Hard Disk from unnecessary files or programs and then defragment the Hard Disk. And so we do it with our overwhelmed life that can lead to severe diseases. Stress is the cause number1 of illness or death.  First, escape from that chaos and relax. Consider an excellent Spa, because to relax is easier.  What is really important?  Organize your life after the 80/20 rule. The 80/20 rule says that 20% of our efforts are creating 80% of our Outcome… With other words, we can skip 80% of our tasks, jobs, friends. Make your Fear lists with the worst possible outcomes. Prioritize them. Then you have your fears under your controls. Make a stress list… What stress is necessary and what not? Get rid of all unnecessary stress from jobs, tasks, and stress-makers (be it your parents or relatives or friends).  Make your to-do list.  Make your have done lists.  Make your daily schedules.  Write down everything that comes to your mind.  Stop procrastination. How to stop procrastination? See link at the end.  Slow down and relax.You don’t need to make every job ready to the same time or in a too short period. So faster you work so more mistakes you make. Make one job right, even it needs more time. And then start with the next job…   Save time!You don’t need to make every 10 minutes Facebook, or to check your Emails, messages,… 2 times a day is enough… Limit your Facebook time to 15 minutes a day. TV causes so many fears inside of us, TV harms us.  GET RID OF YOUR TV. Stop taking drugs. Because drugs are making everything worse in the end… Start or do Sport and also do Qigong, Yoga, and Meditation.   Start to enjoy your life with doing what you love.  Find friends that lift you up and support you. And get rid of friends and relatives that pull you down or stress you. Before you start to work, look for fewer jobs that you can or must do today. Identify the Why you want to do them. Find the How you would like to do them.  When you don’t like jobs particularly, ask yourself why you don’t like them. Ask your friends how to change your attitude that you like these jobs. Understand that everything has two poles, a positive and a negative pole. And you mainly focus on the negative if you don’t like a job.  My Video: How to recover from overwhelming? https://youtu.be/ofxW4j2mYFE  My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/How-to-recover-from-overwhelmed.mp3

  Just ask him, why you dislike me? Instead to build up more and more tension… For instance, the US government is doing sanctions on Russia… Even acting illegal (confiscating of foreign countries' assets without having a war is a crime) … Does that end the war? Even if it harms so many countries, the UN wants to stop that sanctions… We are doing the same… Many males dislike me, and want to compete with me, even before they know me… And we have learned in therapy groups (Bioenergetic, encounter, gestalt) just encounter the situation and ask the hostile person why he/she dislikes us… Guess, it always works… Just ask, what is the problem that you don’t like me… And most of the time they even don’t know it or they project their own bad habits on you… Speak with that person… If that person is from the opposite sex,- The person denies you for something that she/he likes to have by her/himself and loves you! Then to start with this person a relationship is so easy … I have done that again and again… My Video: What do you do when someone dislikes you? https://youtu.be/4DqZtG9KgwE My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/What-do-you-do-when-someone-dislikes-you.mp3