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  This will be very provocative and had been always…If we read: “The conference of the Birds” from Farid-ud-din Attar… from the greatest Sufi, Martyr of Love…. (died 900 years ago)  Then we understand that true love is much more powerful than to renounce the world… Even it is the same…. Because if we surrender total (not 99%) to love to our darling, so that we (our ego) will die in the love … then for sure no worldly good will attract us anymore… because true love is much more. Our sexual life will not be important… because the love burns our ego and to the same time our body get satisfied and who cares for a dime (sex) when he has already a Billion (love)…. So that our sexual desires are emerged in our love and get transformed … If we renounce the world and live in Celibacy (I have done so for 10 years) then our body don’t get what our body needs,- sex. Our suppressed sexuality causes diseases …Lets go deeper in love…  Where is love is God or Allah! Imagine Whitney Houston, this great and very beautiful singer was drug addicted and had a very abusive marriage. She was a huge temptation for almost every man… Was she divine or evil? Who cares? If we would fall in love with her and would love her total … it would burn our ego, because of the love and her bad habits … This means her bad habits would become the obstacles of love, that would test our love and drive our love… Love wants it difficult (Attar)… regardless how difficult it is, we surrender…. Through the surrendering to love, all of our bad habits, negativities are surfacing… and if we then abuse our darling we become the loser, instead to work on our negativity and bad habits. With other words, we let hurt us, go deep in our negative feelings and release them… without hurting our darling. And then our love will grow and can become divine in this love process….   When I got my great chance in life to surrender to love to my darling, I said total yes… We made tantra and through that we were crying like crazy, and all the negative feelings went up, it was a dying every day. Every day we started new and had released our negative feelings from the day before… Our love went through the roof and also our spirituality. I got as an atheist my first God experience and it was actually the call of God to me… Our love became more difficult and greater every day and then we separated… One year later I renounced the world…. Sure Whitney Houston was divine and who cares for her bad habits will never be able to surrender to love… The bad habits from our darling are a must, in order that love can purify our soul… All these stupid abusing  of sex, shows that love is never an option or that we have fear of sex and fear to love. Allah is giving us a spouse, because we are weak (Koran). This means also, we become stronger through the confrontation of love to our spouse.    My video: The Greatest Secret - Love  https://youtu.be/6SgBzEdwkk8My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/the-greatest-secret-Love.mp3

  Looks like a big issue? If we ask a happy child, what is the meaning of your life, it will not understand us… Because the meaning of life has nothing to do with happiness… If we have goals in our life, then these goals are like places on a map that we like to visit… it has nothing to do, how we travel and how much fun we have.For instance, as an 8-year-old child, I want to become an engineer and I could hardly learn to speak and to write. It was not possible to reach this goal … When I became an engineer after so much hardship, I experienced one of my worst life crises. Because I suffered too much for just such a stupid degree.Then I made therapy like crazy and were meditating every day … And I experience moments of incredible love, true happiness… Again what has this to do with the meaning of life?The reality is, that we want to connect with the Divine, with our life, with our self and that we want and need real love … We get hooked up with some substitutes for real love, happiness and think that we have to work like crazy to become great, well known, wealthy, very successful … Even Anthony Robbins is saying that most of the wealthy and successful people are not happy…. Because they always want more, and when they reach their goals, then immediately they want more… and can’t stop their drive to find inside of them self, the love, and happiness.  After we find that the happiness is inside, we get hooked up and want more,- enlightenment… to become a great Guru, instead of to enjoy our life now!!!Life is a joke (Koran).  The mind that wants enlightenment is the mind that prevents enlightenment.…(Zen)And now we can understand that our ego is in the way to enjoy our life. It is perfect to have our dreams, goals and to accomplish them. The problem is that our ego gets hooked up, and then we suffer.Why not enjoy every moment and working relaxed..?This is too hard for the ego because then our ego doesn't get the suffering.Ego is suffering, get rid of it, but don’t make an ego trip out of it…   My video: What is the meaning of our life?  https://youtu.be/laW2T6IlE-4My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/What-is-the-meaning-of-our-life.mp3

  After a research in Germany, 95% of the mothers think that they are perfect… What for a nonsense!!!!!We don’t need to be perfect as parents, we need only be loving and forgiving.  We know that we don’t have the children under our control and so not their education. Still, we can give them our love, compassion and forgiving…. If we have a seed of a tree and if we put it in the right soil and give it water, the tree will grow. We don’t have the tree under our control, that we really can determine how the tree will grow with all the branches, trunk and the leaves and this is beautiful. We only need to give the seed the right soil, enough water, and fertilizer.  There are so many ego trips from the parents to model their child in a particular direction instead to let the child grow individual and to give the support that the child needs to become the best for itself. What I mean, my parents want for instance, that I become a businessman and not an engineer or Meditation Master…. The next mistake is that the parents want to be the best parents. How can we become the best parents? What are the best parents? For whom they are the best parents? It is the best that we get rid of all these high moralities/principles like never to beat our child…to be always ready to serve your child…. Instead to forgive ourselves that we are not perfect…  Through their high moralities the parents forget their own feelings, and after some time the negative feelings had accumulated; they are getting very angry with their child, they become impatience and punish the child like crazy for everything…. Everybody had seen this scenery already. The solution is simple, if the parents are not enjoying their life, then the child has to suffer. Think over and be honest, can you love, when you are under stress, anxious, unhappy or depressed? Isn’t it better not to be the perfect parents, but to be happy parents? What I have seen, the beating of a child isn’t the problem (I know, you will protest) but a lack of love and forgiveness are the problems for every child. I have seen it again and again in India, the children were beaten, but with this great love of their parents, they didn’t care. Mata Amritananda Mai said,  if I hand out a good thrashing including an abuse an Indian, he will come back smiling after a half hour; if I give a European or American an angry look, he will be depressed for the next three weeks…. And this is so true… Convinced?  Children need love very much, and this is very important and not no violence… or other great moralities. The greatest thing is love, and this is more excellent than to keep the Ten Commandments (Bible, letter Romans). All we need is love, love, love  (Beatles) My Video: Is it possible to be perfect as parents…? https://youtu.be/aA_f4qu867U My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/Is-it-possible-to-be-perfect-parents.mp3

  Because we want to relax, Don’t like to give our attention to the outside world, To preserve our energy if we stop speaking, listening and thinking…To gain easier peace in our mind. If we simultaneous work and speak then our work will suffer from that or our dialog with the other person or both. Instead, we work full concentrated to give our best to get our outcome and be relaxed.  Many people speak continuously omit the silence because they feel insecure….  Almost all Chit Chatters speak over meaningless things and scared to tell  what concerns them, what is important, omit to say honest their opinion, or like a politician to say in many words nothing. If we like to communicate effectively, then we tell in short and accurate words our information, and if necessary we explain it, then everything will be great. That is communications. And the other time we don’t speak…Silence is Gold, speaking is Silver. (Bible) People talking without speakingPeople hearing without listening(Song: The sound of silence)  We can hear everywhere such talks, where both parties are speaking and don’t hear or understand what the other party is communicating… this means both parties are making monologues. Best example again are the Politician. Because they want to show how great he/she is and for what then listening? How can we follow our intuition inside of us when we always speak. In the silence we find the truth. Again the song: The sound of silence: Hello darkness, my old friend I've come to talk with you again Because a vision softly creeping Left its seeds while I was sleeping And the vision that was planted in my brain Still remains Within the sound of silence The divine is communicating through silence, and if we are full of words, we can’t receive the divine. Only if we are empty, then we have space for the divine.And for that is to be in silence and in meditation so necessary.  The good thing is, if we stop to speak we can much easier relax. And the meditation will make us empty and afterward will connect us with the divine.Every Prophet realized Guru has emphasize that silence is a must to communicate with the divine. Mohamed, for instance, had abused again and again people who were speaking too much. I love to be together with people in silence and with Chit Chatter for sure not. They waste my time.  My Video: Why is silence so important?  https://youtu.be/pTNbkO5D3cA My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/Why-is-silence-so-important.mp3

  Women marry guys who can provide them shelter and not the guys who they love at most.…And this has a reason because the females like to build a nest for their kids. And all of these lives lies we hear a lot… Most married women are frustrated with their spouse; - it depends on the country, estimate with 70% after 5 years marriage.  With our compromises, we cripple our lives. A flower is so beautiful because the flower decides to be it-selves, no compromises it wants to flourish as it is. It starts with anxiety,Overthinking.Compromises on our vision.Or to drop our vision completely.  Fear is a bad guide and a bad decision-maker. We want to avoid tragedies for every price…Because we are afraid of our own emotions…  When I heard again that song… When I was young, sung by Shirley Bassey.  I asked myself, how could she so greatly express the song with all of the subtle emotions for every word? Because Shirley Bassey is so passionate about that song…  She knows how costly a life is when lived passionately…She had to pay many tragedies for her passionate life. And she knows that most people never have flourished, never have expressed their life fully…  Do we need to become great stars to express our emotions fully and to be passionate like her? Nope… Let tell me, a little bit about myself…. My childhood was hell, I was daily, body, and emotionally abused… Even worse, for the first 3 months of my life, I was in quarantine… Quarantine is torture and not only for a baby!!! -  When I died and left my body at 21 years old, - Near Death Experience… I realized that I was completely wrong because I was suffering like crazy and could not express my sadness or cry…  After 5 years later, I became a disciple of Bhagwan/ Osho  I learned to express my emotions fully.   I learned to do what I liked at most…To love… to do Tantra. God knocked on my door.Then my first God experience through our love, even I was an atheist. We got a miss carriage. Tremendous suffering.I kept going forwards and got a teacher who convinced me to do the exercises for the Kundalini.  Did I have any choices? So, I did…Afterward, I was over 10 years in meditation retreats… Regardless of what I did in my life, I was convinced.  Even it was wrong. Even it looked bazaar. Even it was mad.Even I didn’t have any chance.Even I lost. Even I was honest.Even I suffered so much.Even I failed.  Why should be tragedies or suffering be bad? You never can be passionate, if you try to avoid tragedies or to abandon your life values! My Video: Do what you are passionate about most. https://youtu.be/5od_c3ZVQKsMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/Do.what.you.are.passionate.about.most.mp3

  Toxic people should be: Who are violent…Always criticize…Forever negative…Playing victim…How would it be, if we look for the good in every person and for the toxic inside or ourselves?  The world would be much better!!!!!Every great guy is looking for the good, otherwise we are just a vehicle from our negative mind, who wants us to protect and so is looking for the danger or the negative. Fault finding in other people is the worst sin after the Srimat Bhagavatam.Before we judge we should judge ourselves…Who is without fault should cast the first stone… (Bible)Maybe we understand that what we see is what we have inside of ourselves… Our mind compares his world with the outside world, what is not inside our world our mind can’t see… Our sins we see first at other people (Goethe).We attract what is inside of ourselves.Everything what we see is a reflection of ourselves. The greatest enemy is inside of ourselves …and not that the so called toxic people… Because our mind repeating inside of ourselves always something that had disturbed him. And after some time we get so negative programmed through our mind…  The feelings are driving the thoughts, it is science proofed that there is only a one way road between feelings and thoughts. We getting negative thoughts from our negative suppressed feelings… If we release our negative feelings, then we release also our negative thoughts. If I find negative thoughts inside of my self, then I breath deep in the corresponding feelings and with the breath out I release the negative thoughts and feelings… I make this until the negative feelings/thoughts are gone or I make EFT (google it) or body workouts…. Jesus said: What you take in can’t poison you, what you give out can poison you…So I don’t care for toxic people, I care for my poison inside and for that I am responsible.  Imagine your are in a big struggle/life crises and your friends label you as a toxic person, instead to help you, how would you feel?My best friend was a slaughter, a killer for the intelligence service, a rowdy who were beating the people in the street or pubs… He wanted to become a friend of mine… I said no, because I am a vegetarian and very religion guy and this should not fit… And then I regretted my awful, harsh decision and said okay…. My friend had changed in the last 20 years…  Maybe these people in a life crises will make suicide… and this had happened in my life already 8 times… because the people didn’t like to help, instead were abusing these people in their life crises…I have saved at least 3 people from suicide. One suicide candidate was even heavy under heroin, and I was hating all the drug addicts… still I helped…   My video: We should avoid toxic people?  https://youtu.be/fIXTInP5XlgMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/We-should-avoid-toxic-people.mp3

  We had decided and then we got a new option, a desire that contradicts our first choice… Never less we should stick to our first choice. Otherwise, we become weak.. we condition us to be weak, we don’t respect ourselves and are becoming a person that runs behind his/her desires and never will get what we want; never will get peace in our mind.  Our mind always creates new desires so that we can’t fulfill all of our desires, maybe only a few. We concentrate after the 20/80 rule (20% of our work brings 80% of the outcome… ) on the greatest desires and the other desires we let go. And then we take steps to fulfill our desires and ignoring our new desires…. Sure there are always some exceptions, where we should change our decision… For the weak person, there is always an exception.  We write down our promises and read them again and again, so that we never forget them, the best time for that is, when we go to bed and when we go out of the bed. When we had kept our promises, we celebrate that every day.  If we break our promises and beat us up for that, then we can go in a vicious circuit with our bad consciousness. Then, again and again, we break our promises… Because our ego loves to suffer!!!!! Many times the catch is that our inner child is playing this game with us… That it hates to keep any promise, to be under pressure, to make things it doesn’t like….The solution is simple, we give our inner child the pleasure and time that it needs and then our inner child will easier corporate to things that it doesn’t like….  The next problem is, to set too big goals/promises that we never can accomplish… We make small steps in the Right Direction, with smaller goals/promises that are easier to keep…. So that we don’t get overwhelmed from our to do list….  A Sufi can keep every rule and break every rule. It means that we don’t get court up in following every rule to every time always… Sound contradicting… God has created the world in 7 days, and the Sunday was a day off. This means, for a particular time we break our own rules consciously… For instance, during your holidays we don’t have to work, or take one day off for your workouts… It should be even better to do so…  Otherwise, we become a slave of our own rules or our own prison guard of our jail out of moralities and standards.  In this case, our Perfectionisms is in the way… I have seen it again and again… How hard the people are suffering, if they don’t make it perfect or follow their rules to 100%…  Enjoy to make not everything perfect, only Allah is perfect… Take a break from your hard regime and Enjoy your life now… My video: Why we break our promises? https://youtu.be/clxvaUc9dqUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/Why-we-break-our-promises.mp3

  It is evident that people love to argue and to fight…Otherwise, we would live in a peaceful world. Science had proved that during our normal birth, we are going through our worst struggle, fight, trauma in our life. If the birth is an abdominal delivery, the birth trauma is missing, and the personality of this child will never get so strong than through the normal birth.  This means we are born to fight and need to fight at least with our ego, to get the things done. This perfect harmony that the (old) New Age movement or positive thinker are proclaiming will never happen for our species. Which arguing we should avoid?  Arguing of: we don’t want to lose our face.We want to feel a nearness to the other person and like to destroy the distance to the other personality… In arguing with the emotion, we feel much more from us and the other. When we are intimate together for a longer time, then we want distance and start to argue about meaningless things.We want to be right and think that we are right, the problem is that both parties think in the same way and maybe only one party can be right…. We want to be better, stronger, smarter, superior to other people. We want to be the leader… Greed for power.We don’t want to be alone.We want to convince, so that other people believe in the things what we think is right… Because we are not sure what is right for ourselves. We are jealous, and then we find fast the reasons for arguing. We argue out of misunderstanding or misinterpretations. Maybe our parents had argued a lot, so then we follow them up….We have a lot of tension or anger inside of ourselves and release them in arguing…. When should we argue…?I like to give here some examples, the speeches, and fights from Martin Luther King, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandala … For sure without them, we would live in a worse world.  If we fight and argue fair for our rights or for a better world, for sure, that will be good.Through the exchange of opinion, we can grow and learn a lot. We can get much stronger through arguing. Avoiding arguing for every price will never pay off. We can find even the best solution for everybody when we claim fair without to hurt the other people.  My video: Why we fight and argue? https://youtu.be/AgU3WZnwzSUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/Why-we-fight-and-argue.mp3

  The quality of our life depends on how much we can focus and what we concentrate on. Our focus depends on: If it is exciting and challenging? If it is overwhelming? If it is boring? And of our attitude.  Milton said: the mind can make out of the hell a paradise and out of the paradise a hell. How can we improve our focus?  We focus only on one thing and if the mind is wandering, bring the mind back to that subject… If our capacity is below the challenge then that leads to anxiety, uneasiness, strain, tension… If our capacity is much higher than the challenge it leads to boring… If the problem solving is in balance, we get in the flow… If we have a challenge, we need to learn the skills to solve that problem. After some time, we can do so and it becomes boring. Then we have to upgrade our skills to keep our focus. We have to increase the challenge to meet our abilities.   If the challenge is beyond our abilities, it puts us under pressure. Then we have to chunk it down so it meets our ability.   Our focus depends also on our Self-interest. If we are eager and passionate to solve our problems, we set ourselves under tension and so we are losing our focus. So more we are selfish to acquire our goals so more tension we build up that prevent to gain our goal.  If I think I need that for myself,  I am always under tension. Selfishness leads to a scattered mind. It leads to a narrow focus on myself/self-interest. We become more vulnerable, and so we are open to anxiety and frustration.  An unselfish mind is a relaxed mind! So more we are doing good for the organization so more we gain focus. It is not so much what I get out of it, it is more what I can do for others. The Gita is telling us, that Identification is sorrow.  If we surrender our deeds to the Lord or do it even as worship…  We gain bliss through our actions. What is spirituality?   Spirituality is when I close my eyes, I find peace inside of me. When I open my eyes, my attitude is what can I do for you… What can I do for the world or for the Lord? Worldliness is the opposite…  What can I get out of that?  The focus on selfishness leads to unpleasantness, tension, and frustration. Unselfishness is to be relaxed and be focused. Love leads to focus. What I love, my mind can easily focus and that leads to a focused mind. For instance, a mother loves her child, and all her actions will be relaxed. My Video:  How to focus your mind? https://youtu.be/9NBX1HuvzRk My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast1/Howtofocusyourmind.mp3  The quality of our life depends on how much we can focus and what we concentrate on. Our focus depends on:If it is exciting and challenging?If it is overwhelming?If it is boring?And of our attitude.  Milton said: the mind can make out of the hell a paradise and out of the paradise a hell. How can we improve our focus?  We focus only on one thing and if the mind is wandering, bring the mind back to that subject… If our capacity is below the challenge then that leads to anxiety, uneasiness, strain, tension…If our capacity is much higher than the challenge it leads to boring…If the problem solving is in balance, we get in the flow… If we have a challenge, we need to learn the skills to solve that problem.After some time, we can do so and it becomes boring.Then we have to upgrade our skills to keep our focus. We have to increase the challenge to meet our abilities.  If the challenge is beyond our abilities, it puts us under pressure.Then we have to chunk it down so it meets our ability.   Our focus depends also on our Self-interest. If we are eager and passionate to solve our problems, we set ourselves under tension and so we are losing our focus. So more we are selfish to acquire our goals so more tension we build up that prevent to gain our goal.  If I think I need that for myself, I am always under tensio

  This means the previous solution must not be the right solution now.  There was a test where a person should find out, which pairs of numbers should match together, for instance, 13 and 87, or 45 and 89… Over hours the person had been questioned with different number pairs and got direct the answer (matched or not matched) if he was right or wrong.  Nobody could find out the system. Still, the people who had voted right to 75% or more could not be convinced that their system was wrong…. And so we are… When we have found out the solution for a problem, then our mind will stick to this solution and can’t adapt to new solutions, like the animals…. Even the answer is wrong.  Our mind is not working correct…. How many times our mind has changed our past memories to get a particular outcome?  Our mind is rather more the best liar. Still, we believe in our mind!!! Because our mind is manipulated from our feelings and subconscious.  If this is so, then we can understand that the older generation (mainly our parents) can’t understand us, because they think that their life is perfect, that they have found the right solution also for our life… I am coming from the generation Baby Boomer who was growing up after World War II. My parents were growing up in an entirely different situation like me.  And they thought they had the right to determine my life….How could be their life solutions the right solution for today?  A similar situation we find today in Asia where the kids want their freedom to want free sex, … and still, the parents are setting their kids under pressure to live their life. What I could understand that my parents never had been happy, always arguing, always unhappy with us,…. How can they determine my life? I want to live a religious, happy life with love and free sex. I don’t want to live a life that is focused on money and success without love and happiness.  It was a nightmare all this fighting, and my solution was simply to leave, or Jesus said: Let the dead buried the dead and come.  Everybody has to learn through experience and only then he gets the full understanding. Never less the world is changing, and so the solution must also change… . Still, in the Chaos, there is also an order. This means many principles will never change… For instance the laws of gravity, polarity, attraction…. Or honesty and love will always be the best.  My video: When the solution becomes the problem https://youtu.be/yoOzDkMMF-AMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/When-the-solution-becomes-the-problem.mp3