Relax with Meditation

My Video: What we do if we don’t accept our situation? https://youtu.be/Ytz56ircIuA My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. This is quite common because the world is fast changing and we have to adapt. It starts that we don’t accept our situation, we are fighting against the change, or we are depressed. For instance, when the Tsunami killed around 250000, I was one of the survived victims. The Indian families of the victims could not accept the loss, were mourning, complaining, blemished God blemished the Karma ….  And I was consulting them. I said for instance: Be happy that you survived, don’t blemish God/Karma it will not help. Thank God, that you have survived… The first step is, to release the anger, sadness about the change, loss … The second step is to change our perception, that for instance, everything is bad through that…. Everything has two poles….and every pole has the same size. Before the Tsunami happened, I had an accident and got a wrong treatment from the Orthopedic… Through that treatment, my back became very sick (I could not work or meditate anymore). I blemished these stupid doctors… At the moment when the Tsunami was coming, I went to an Acupuncture treatment, and this saved my life, I missed the Tsunami for some minutes…. Was the accident/wrong treatment bad or good? After the tsunami, I was grateful to had this accident…. The third step, we have to find a new solution for our life. I had to leave the Ashram and India after 10 years to recover. This was very sad for me. Never less I said to everyone, my back will be in 3 years better than before… Nobody believed me, they had been dam wrong. And I chose to start a new life in Thailand and to learn and apply the Chi Gong from Mantac Chia… The fourth step is, after releasing our negative feelings, we chose confidently and positive to change our lives, so that our life will be even better.  We change our perception, embrace our tragedy, have faith that everything will be for the better, hope that we suicide and looking for new life opportunities….  Don’t remain to lie on the ground, go up and start positive…. Feel your suffering and let it go, self-pity will never work. Recognize that many other people are in even a worse situation than yourself. Be thankful for your tragedy, that you are still alive… If we have doubts, we go deep in our doubts and looking what we can learn from our doubts. Afterward, we let them go…. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/What+we+do+if+we+don%E2%80%99t+accept+our+situation.mp3  

During our vacation, we release our tension from previous stress, and we begin to relax and start to see our life from a new perspective. We can choose to make an adventure trip or confront us with a different culture or to have a vacation to relax. If we seek adventures, then these adventures will steer up our mind and hidden wounds, traumas will come up and so clarify us. We can live outside of our comfort zone. We travel without to plan, and we decide every day new what to do. Because we like to discover ourselves new. Before we had organized our day and now we do the opposite, hidden parts of ourselves will be unmasked and lived. Maybe you are a great sculptor or an amazing surfer who knows until you have started with that. If you are carrying a lot of problems… Hiking with a heavy backpack will empty you. How to meet new interesting people? Travel alone and go in budget hotels. Because only in Budget hotels you will have good contact with the hotel stuff and exciting backpackers. And even it is cheaper. So less expensive I travel so more I discover and so more adventure. I hate good hotels because the stuff is so on distance. If we confront us with a new culture and environment, we can learn a lot and so improve our life. Also, we face challenges, so that traumas emerges, that we could never feel before. For instance, my experience with the Tsunami, a cobra, an earthquake, … If we experience different behaviors in different cultures, let over think our own way of life. For instance a Thai is smiling in a dangerous situation to cool down the situation, instead to get furious… Why not adapt that?  If we want just to relax on our vacation, the unsolved conflicts we had already suppressed from the previous months are coming up.  And we can find new solutions. Many people even getting ill on the first day of vacation, because they had been so involved that they had postponed their diseases to their vacation time. When we are working, we can’t see our situation so clear, because we are identified and involved with the situation. When we separate us from our problems, only then we can find a  new and better solution. My video: How to improve through traveling? https://youtu.be/gLcxvP3k5bE My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/How+to+improve+through+traveling.mp3

My Video: Why our life should not be a journey?  https://youtu.be/xqtOlzaZQwI My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. A journey always has a beginning and an end… If we concentrate on the destination, instead to enjoy the whole journey, we lose a lot. Similar did Amma (Mata Amritanada Mai Devi) with us, when we were traveling with Buses through India, then we stopped ca. 5 to 20km in front of our destination and could not get our baggage down and to move inside of our rooms… Sometimes we had even on the journey for over 24 hours in cram-full buses … My ego was impatient like crazy to get the things done, I had to buy my fruits… It was just like the movie: The Fugitive (with Dr. Richard Kimble)  It is an escape from our lives to the death. We have to do it. Instead of that, we concentrate that we are happy and fulfilled at this moment. Don’t run behind anything (Zen). Even everything looks imperfect and not ready. Still, we should do our tasks in a relaxed way. If we hear music do we concentrate only on the end, or do we enjoy the whole song…? How is it, that our life becomes a Symphony or a Raga? When Prof. Graf Dürkheim lived in Japan, he made a test with the Japanese, he drew a circle and didn’t close the circle. Then he put the paper with the circle and the pen on the table when he was sitting with some Japanese… Nothing happened … when he did this with the Europeans, then everybody was attempted to close this circle…  Graf Dürkheim understood something... the Here and Now. Everything is perfect right now. Our world is perfect now, and we can not make our world perfecter… This means we can relax right now and don’t have to do …   All these world improvements don't lead to a better world, mainly it is making everything worse.  If we see these so called wars against dictatorships done from the USA… Libya, Iraq, Afghanistan, Syria, Vietnam,  Cambodia, Laos, Korea… Made everything worse, or we see the Western World is destroying the culture and health of the undeveloped countries to develop the countries… See you tube: TED talk or CN Talk: Bill Gates vaccination program is used to reduce the population (links at the end) …. And he is also engaged in GM food to destroy the health in the undeveloped countries, for instance in India… Look at the health statistic in India…  It is so awful!!!! We don’t need world improver, we need honest and loving people on this planet. If we see our life personally, what improvements had really done well over time and how much time we have wasted on such improvements… Instead to love our spouse, children…. The Chinese proverbs made it simple if the improvement is not 10 times better than letting it… My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/Why+our+life+should+not+be+a+journey.mp3 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjj4Iq-rsNg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WQtRI7A064 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWvcwYsMDew https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=coHf5UEFUl8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oUEza10beMY http://www.naturalhealth365.com/population-control.html/

My Video: When a great desire fails.  https://youtu.be/wDYXKN05MiA My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. we enjoy our life even more? This looks ridiculous? The great psychologist Prof. P. Wazlavic had done a research on this… The results are, that people who didn’t get fulfilled their heart desire, could after they had recovered, appreciate the small things in their life much more. Because after this tragic experience, they know that the little things in life are valuable. And so they can enjoy their life more. Then every moment can be enjoyed. For me, it was very tragic, that first I could not procreate and did love to have a child. And then I procreate, and the baby was coming too early…. Life is life, - be happy in the here and now. When we are driven by passion, then we forget to enjoy our life in the here and now. Then only our goal is important. Oscar Wild said we are the small things and not the big goals that we have accomplished… This means if we can only enjoy, when we accomplish something, then 99% of our time we are suffering… So that we are unhappy. A happy person enjoys nearly everything,… When he gets up, he thankful for the new day, enjoys his morning exercise, the small talk with his children and spouse during his breakfast, even he is enjoying his meal as a very delicate menu… And the unhappy person gets up fast, pushes the food into his mouth and don’t want to waste his time on his family. For sure be friendly to ordinary people is a luxury for him. For what? It is not serving him….!!!! Everything becomes an obstacle for him!!! We can enjoy our life, only when we slow down and enjoy the small things in our life. Our passions have their place in our lives and when we are under the control of our emotions… Life becomes a suffering. And so is it with our heart/great desires, they become too important… And our life becomes unhappy. Prof. Paul Wazlavick (Author of the int.Bestseller: The situation is hopeless but not seriously. It is an amusing book about how stupid we are sometimes.)   My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/When+a+great+desire+fails%2C%E2%80%A6.mp3

My Video: Why we see movies? https://youtu.be/kquNmrQ6cFc My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. I want to bring awareness in our movie culture. All these movies that we see influence us so badly and even kill our so precious time. If we did not see movies, we would have much more time for the things that are important, that brings us joy and love, that we can use for exercise and meditation. We are looking for a distraction to suppress our feelings, problems because we want inspiration, excitement. We want to be a hero, a great lover, to be over cool, to be strong; like the actor in the movie. Instead to live it or to be it. We want to kill time, we are bored. What we love to see is also in our heart. Or what is inside that we also attract outside. Why we like to see comedy, funny and love movies? Why we like to see brutal/horror, crime films? Why we like to see beautiful movies about nature, landscapes? This should ask everybody if he/she is choosing to see a movie!! That the horror, crime and brutal movies are making the people worse is science proofed since over 50 years. Even worse these movies have increased the crime so rapidly. Still, the production of such films is growing every year. Do we want to become worse? Imagine, a lovely inspiring movie is shown in a country and very many people, like 50% of the population are looking this video. This means for instance: 50% of the population would feel love at the same time... would this not uplift the energy in this country? The opposite is true for such crime movies. We should be loving beings and not brutal beings! And these crime movies makes us to cruel humans,… That is good for wars and bad for love.  How would it be, if we stop to see such movies? We would become more vulnerable, sensible and care for people. Families without a TV or who doesn’t look movies are happier. TV is good to isolate us from each other in the family. TV is used to get the children quiet, to stop talking to each other, to avoid conflicts which have to be solved. If we did not see TV, we would have much more time to do things that are fulfilling, to talk to each other, to make body exercise, to meditate, to make love (after the invention of the TV the birth rate was coming down.) My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/Why+we+are+seeing+movies.mp3

We doing everything out of self-interest. If somebody is in an emergency for instance, if I would not help I would hate me… So I help… Even it looks selfless, I assist the person out of self-interest. Maybe other people would not help because they have a different self-interest. This means this person is not worse than me! Maybe this person will assist in a different situation where I would not help. We should accept that everybody acts out of his self-interest, he can’t act out of our self-interest.   All people have different self-interests. So, for what we should abuse or reject this person with a different self-interest? For instance, I don’t like to do anything again when I have done it wrong or sloppy. So I look that I make everything right because I want to save time. If I work with people together who don’t have such work mentality, who don’t care much for their work, I get angry… In this case, it is the best if I would cooperate with the people who have the same work mentality. Next example, if I go with a girl shopping and she tries on one shirt after the next and then leaving the shop without buying anything after she had tried on over 20 shirts, I get nervous. Nevertheless, the sales girls don’t care, for them it is amusing. For me would it be stress. For different jobs, we need different self-interests to do the job well. I would be a catastrophe for a women cloth shop… If we like to make things together, we should check the self-interests of the people who we like to do the things together. For our own firm, it is mandatory that the self-interests of our associates fit their jobs. It is even more impotent than the qualification of our partners! My Video: There exists no selflessness. https://youtu.be/-TZj7_L2nJg My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/There+exist+no+selflessness.mp3

This means the previous solution must not be the right solution now. My video: When the solution becomes the problem https://youtu.be/yoOzDkMMF-A My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. There was a test where a person should find out, which pairs of numbers should match together, for instance, 13 and 87, or 45 and 89… Over hours the person had been questioned with different number pairs and got direct the answer (matched or not matched) if he was right or wrong. Nobody could find out the system. Still, the people who had voted right to 75% or more could not be convinced that their system was wrong…. And so we are… When we have found out the solution for a problem, then our mind will stick to this solution and can’t adapt to new solutions, like the animals…. Even the answer is wrong. Our mind is not working correct…. How many times our mind has changed our past memories to get a particular outcome?  Our mind is rather more the best liar. Still, we believe in our mind!!! Because our mind is manipulated from our feelings and subconscious. If this is so, then we can understand that the older generation (mainly our parents) can’t understand us, because they think that their life is perfect, that they have found the right solution also for our life… I am coming from the generation Baby Boomer who was growing up after World War II. My parents were growing up in an entirely different situation like me.  And they thought they had the right to determine my life…. How could be their life solutions the right solution for today?  A similar situation we find today in Asia where the kids want their freedom to want free sex, … and still, the parents are setting their kids under pressure to live their life. What I could understand that my parents never had been happy, always arguing, always unhappy with us,…. How can they determine my life? I want to live a religious, happy life with love and free sex. I don’t want to live a life that is focused on money and success without love and happiness. It was a nightmare all this fighting, and my solution was simply to leave, or Jesus said: Let the dead buried the dead and come. Everybody has to learn through experience and only then he gets the full understanding. Never less the world is changing, and so the solution must also change… . Still, in the Chaos, there is also an order. This means many principles will never change… For instance the laws of gravity, polarity, attraction…. Or honesty and love will always be the best. My Audio https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/When+the+solution+becomes+the+problem.mp3

My video: What is the meaning of our life?  https://youtu.be/laW2T6IlE-4 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. Looks like a big issue? If we ask a happy child, what is the meaning of your life, it will not understand us… Because the meaning of life has nothing to do with happiness… If we have goals in our life, then these goals are like places on a map that we like to visit… it has nothing to do, how we travel and how much fun we have. For instance, as an 8-year-old child, I want to become an engineer and I could hardly learn to speak and to write. It was not possible to reach this goal … When I became an engineer after so much hardship, I experienced one of my worst life crises. Because I suffered too much for just such a stupid degree. Then I made therapy like crazy and were meditating every day … And I experience moments of incredible love, true happiness… Again what has this to do with the meaning of life? The reality is, that we want to connect with the Divine, with our life, with our self and that we want and need real love … We get hooked up with some substitutes for real love, happiness and think that we have to work like crazy to become great, well known, wealthy, very successful … Even Anthony Robbins is saying that most of the wealthy and successful people are not happy…. Because they always want more, and when they reach their goals, then immediately they want more… and can’t stop their drive to find inside of them self, the love, and happiness. After we find that the happiness is inside, we get hooked up and want more,- enlightenment… to become a great Guru, instead of to enjoy our life now!!! Life is a joke (Koran). The mind that wants enlightenment is the mind that prevents enlightenment.…(Zen) And now we can understand that our ego is in the way to enjoy our life. It is perfect to have our dreams, goals and to accomplish them. The problem is that our ego gets hooked up, and then we suffer. Why not enjoy every moment and working relaxed..? This is too hard for the ego because then our ego doesn't get the suffering. Ego is suffering, get rid of it, but don’t make an ego trip out of it… My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/What+is+the+meaning+of+our+life.mp3

If I hear, I have found my dream partner, my soul mate… I think it doesn’t matter!!! Every worldly love will end soon. The negative feelings that are suppressed during this love facing up and destroying the relationship. Our parents had chosen a marriage of convenience, or their parents or astrology has chosen their “Right” spouse, and this didn’t work out too. Nothing is working? My generation had lived without marriage certification together, and this relationship is much better. Because after the wedding your spouse is granted and can’t escape. You can do what you want. The husband has pulled the Black Peter because after the law the husband has to pay in any case. Regardless how we have chosen our best match. What works at best is that both care for each other every day. Psychology has proved, when the sex or the communication is bad, the relationship is terminal! Many couples live together in frustration. When they start to communicate honest over their problems and start to have sex again, their relationship becomes healthy. After the WW2 in Germany, many soldiers didn’t come home, and the widows connected with the left over. This is called the meal ticket relationship. Most of the time, the widows could not marry their new spouse because the government didn’t support the widows anymore. These meal ticket relationships had been the best. Because both had not huge expectation, they had only the consents to live together, to support each other. This means even without your dream partner who is maybe becoming later your hell partner, you can live together happily if you get rid of your expectations. Both should decide to be together for some time, help each other and have sex. And this some time can last your whole life. Because you don’t put yourself under pressure to must be together for 50 years or to expect too much from each other. This soul mate, dream partner or the right match has done worse than just to find a partner to live with, who cooperates and is not so selfish.   My video: Why we need a soul mate? https://youtu.be/iGZwBqcQenw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/Why+we+need+a+soul+mate.mp3

My video: Why we fight and argue? https://youtu.be/AgU3WZnwzSU My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. It is evident that people love to argue and to fight… Otherwise, we would live in a peaceful world. Science had proved that during our normal birth, we are going through our worst struggle, fight, trauma in our life. If the birth is an abdominal delivery, the birth trauma is missing, and the personality of this child will never get so strong than through the normal birth. This means we are born to fight and need to fight at least with our ego, to get the things done. This perfect harmony that the (old) New Age movement or positive thinker are proclaiming will never happen for our species. Which arguing we should avoid?  Arguing of: we don’t want to lose our face.We want to feel a nearness to the other person and like to destroy the distance to the other personality… In arguing with the emotion, we feel much more from us and the other. When we are intimate together for a longer time, then we want distance and start to argue about meaningless things.We want to be right and think that we are right, the problem is that both parties think in the same way and maybe only one party can be right…. We want to be better, stronger, smarter, superior to other people. We want to be the leader… Greed for power.We don’t want to be alone.We want to convince, so that other people believe in the things what we think is right… Because we are not sure what is right for ourselves. We are jealous, and then we find fast the reasons for arguing. We argue out of misunderstanding or misinterpretations. Maybe our parents had argued a lot, so then we follow them up….We have a lot of tension or anger inside of ourselves and release them in arguing…. When should we argue…? I like to give here some examples, the speeches, and fights from Martin Luther King, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandala … For sure without them, we would live in a worse world. If we fight and argue fair for our rights or for a better world, for sure, that will be good. Through the exchange of opinion, we can grow and learn a lot. We can get much stronger through arguing. Avoiding arguing for every price will never pay off. We can find even the best solution for everybody when we claim fair without to hurt the other people. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/Why+we+fight+and+argue.mp3