Relax with Meditation

My video: How to deal with difficult people…https://youtu.be/QVxtepe4xrk My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. It is the best for us to deal with difficult people because it will extend our personality, we will learn different views/opinions, to accept other people and maybe to understand ourselves much better... There was a famous therapist at my previous Guru, he complained about, how rude, difficult had been his roommates… My Guru said: It was best what I could do for you. Because these difficult people will transform your life and at the end, you will become a much better therapist who can love everybody. Similar things had also happened to me when I was working,… My chief said, for instance, you are the only guy who can deal with them, or in the Ashram I had to deal with suicides, mad and violent people,… The biggest problem is that we think we can’t… That we stop ourselves out because of some stupid resistance, that we see the problem as unsolvable. In any case, we are the problem because there always exist people who can deal with these difficult people!!! How to deal with dictators as our chief? For instance, we have made a mistake, and our chief is getting mad… Simple we say: You are right, I have done wrong…. How can I do it better, what will you recommend? The strategy is simple: getting him the wind out of his sail, calm him down, admit that we are not always perfect. If we have done so, we can start to persuade him. For instance that we feel sorrow about that, and how would it be if we could improve the situation that such mistake will never happen again? Actually, this is the perfect Aikido strategy, we follow first our Attacker, and then we lead our Attacker in our direction where we want him. - And this with less power. Next example, how to deal with Jealousy? Our partner thinks that we have an affair. Make a joke out of it! Your partner is phoning you, and ask where you are? You reply by my new girl/boyfriend… Your partner is coming home and thinking where is she. You say, Please look under the bed, I have hidden her there… If she is not under the bed maybe she is in the cupboard or in the bathroom…. We deal with people who know everything better (for instance our spouse). We are driving our car; our spouse: Do you see the traffic light? You are driving too fast… The solution we mirror our spouse. For instance, we say: There is a traffic light. Oh, I am too fast, it is only 50Km/h, and I am 55Km/h… In the meantime, I have read books about that topic: Dealing with people you can’t stand./Dr. R. Brinkman. Coping with difficult people./A. M. Uhl. Both Books are ideal for dealing with difficult people. Also, I got this great persuasion program on mp3: The Code of Influence, from Paul Mascetta;  In this program, we also learn, how to persuade Difficult People. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/How+to+deal+with+difficult+people.mp3

My video First accept and then change… https://youtu.be/5icVeFktdYw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. Without acceptance, we can’t change our situation. We all have many desires and want them fulfilled. The problem is that we think if we can’t modify the situation then we can’t be happy… And this is wrong. Everybody has seen an unhappy couple, followed up with the separation and changing the partners… Guess what happens, that both spouses previous together, were running into the same problems, then they had been before. Just to like to be rich, and to work like crazy to become rich is not enough, because then we will also loose very fast our wealth. And this goes for every change in our life. If we CAN’T accept the situation where we are in, then we CAN’T change the situation… we still remain in the same problems… This means we have first to change inside, to get another or better outcome. I didn’t have any chance to get a girlfriend until 25 or worse to have a lovely and sexy relationship… My mother and my sister could not understand it, they said, you are total attractive to women, and you should have one girlfriend after the next. What to do? I started with therapy to change myself, to release my traumas, blockages, made tantra and guess what happens… I became what my mother and sister had predicted ... Now the next problem was, that I could not stand it, to have problems with my darling, because then my traumas were showing up and I became paralyzed in this situation it was so awful … Then I swore, that I never will separate on my term and will solve the problem first together with my therapist.  And that helped. Still, I attracted mainly women who wanted an adventure, … they just came to me, easy. Convinced? Now comes the homework!!!! Close your room, switch off your mobile phone and look at your relationships, your profession, your health… Close your eyes and honest feel what is missing and what is right on the first subject… When something is missing, make a list with things that you don’t like and feel every term, what you like to change… There must also be something good… make for that also a list. Inside of our self, we have a program running, that might be in the way, that we can’t enjoy something on this particular subject/task and then we think that everything is bad or against us. For instance, I hated to represent my chief, when he was not present because I loved to finish my work. Then I complained, the other manager said simple, what you don’t like you have to learn… and so you should also represent me… And then I talked to him, how I could love that…? Change your perception, and be proud to represent us.  In the next firm, I became without applying the chief directly. If you don’t find the solution, how to change your perception that you love this disliked task, ask your friends. And this you make with EVERYTHING in your life, step by step until you like the whole situation… your entire life!!!! Take your time, don’t rush!!!! My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/First+accept+and+then+change%E2%80%A6.mp3  

My video: Are 5 times praying enough? https://youtu.be/CgPfS0_ub1kMy Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. For sure not, if we compare how much time we lose on our smartphone, tablet or PC... If we want to gain faith in God or even better to connect to God, we have to do much more. Without surrendering to God, we can’t achieve that. For instance, I have decided for myself to live a religious life, this means, to be honest, to care for people and to surrender my life to God.  On the other hand, the great religious leaders have total failed, remember the sex scandals from the Catholic Church...The pastors sexual abused the kids and no punishment so that 50% of the American Catholics left the church...(Pope Benedict resigned because he was facing criminal charges by the People's Common Law for crimes against humanity perpetrated by the Vatican church. Slaughter of innocent Native children in Canada, poisoning of populations, human trafficking, child torture, and many more things.)  For the Dalai Lama, everything is good,… Chögyam Trungpa for instance, the famous Meditation Master, died from liver cirrhoses because of his alcohol consume!!!  Wealthy families are buying a Lama title for their first child; Rinpoches (high religious leaders) procreate secretly or openly their own kids, and for sure their children are Rinpoches, or you can buy this title… Today after a 6-week meditation course you can teach meditation… I can't understand that the monks eat animals, beat children who like to become monks; and at the same time saying, they have compassion for every being. The sex and corruption scandals of the Thai monks are normal.  The Hindu Guru sex and corruption scandals are devastating, read the books: “Holly Hell” (over Mata Amritananda Mai Devi)  or “Cartwheels in a Sari” (over Sri Chinmoy). India is the biggest slaughterhouse in the world. And even for the Indian Hindus, it is forbidden to eat and kill animals.  For the Muslim in the Turkey, it is recently allowed to marry girls under 16 and to have sex with them and why death penalty for girls who had approached a man in Iran without sex...? The German’s young girls are afraid to go alone out, because of the Syrian refugees in Germany who are raping them. For the Muslim men in worse Muslim Countries, women/girls have no rights, no soul... Why are the religious leaders against SEX, even they have SEX secretly and abuse us when we enjoy SEX? SEX has nothing to do with GOD, Religion!!!!  The basic fundamentals of any Religion are, to be honest, to care for the divine/God/Allah and to care for the people.  If we see the whole picture: With all these abusing of God, Religion, Sex (double moral). Enjoying brutal, rude movies. Making wars just out of fun. Printing money like crazy…  What can we expect for our future? Do you really think that God will help and protect us under these circumstances?  If God would have created a perfect world, who would think any more of God. (Attar)? My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/Is+5+times+praying+enough.mp3  YouTube about the Pope https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyk4n2lXhpE. Wikipedia Trungpa https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ch%C3%B6gyam_Trungpa ). 

My Video: What are the 4 things to focus on? https://youtu.be/ckoyVAJKIl8 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. How to enjoy my life more… Ask this question every day and change your life to become happier. How to have more fun… Without excellent health, everything is in vain ... Ask: How I can improve my health every day… Our food is mandatory, so eat healthy food with Vitamins and enzymes… so raw cost is the best…Regardless how much time I had spent on improving my health, it never had been in vain. I benefited much more from that than anything else in my life! Chi-Gong is magic. If you see this video from the 118 years old Lu Zijian, how vigorous and relaxed he is, even much more than most of us, … Even 278 years was possible with Chi-Gong together with healthy food and herbs. This means to learn the right Chi- Gong is the very best…I practice his Chi Gong and also from other masters. With my Chi- Gong my brain increased, my fitness got better and total healthy… With the Chi-Gong from Lu Zijian, I get instantly blissful. It is so powerful, I have integrated his Chi Gong in all of my Chi-Gongs. Self-massage or acupressure will help a lot… Sport and exercise is a must. Who don’t do it will suffer later! Spirituality/Religion and personal growing We all have so many flaws in our personality, and through them, we and our environment will suffer. If we want to enjoy our life, we should try to become better every day. If we do so, we gain the grace of the Lord, and he will give us bliss and love. We can only achieve true happiness and love through the spiritual growth, with meditation, yoga, Chi-Gong... If we think we have no time for that, then we have no time to enjoy our life! How much hours you have to work for your car, and after some time the car is worthless… If you had spent this time to build up spirituality and health … Your life would be excellent. Goal setting. The human need progress without progress life would be useless… We need for ourselves goals in personal growth, for our courier, body, family… So fewer goals we set so more we can accomplish. Focus on fewer things, instead to be overwhelmed from too many goals. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/3/What+are+the+4+things+to+focus+on.mp3

My video: The Media is always wrong! https://youtu.be/Mxppg6_eUno My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. If the Media is celebrating the stock price increase sell your stocks and if the Media is shocked from the stock price fall than buy stocks…. W. Buffet And so it was with the last US selection…. Trump had the American press total against him. Still, he won…. As insider, looking what the experts were saying, for instance on YouTube… it was easy to see that the American Media is nothing else as a propaganda media from Obama… So worse the situation is going for the world, so more the Media is lying… I never could believe that we run into such a stupid situation, where money printing is like crazy, and the people still believe that this should have a positive outcome… If people believe this because it is told in the Media. My mother said: he/she lies like printed… Because she never believed in the press….The press is lying, that she experienced when she was working there. The media needs sensation and from that they making money. The media never had tried out to be honest, because they want to make money on sensations… It is rather more telling Fairy Tells.  So less we can’t check or investigate the information of the media, so more the media is lying. And we have a media sensor everywhere. When Obama became president, the American media, that I loved to read, stopped to be critic on the money printing, Obama health package …. Still, I had my newsletters and they had always been critic on the things, that can work or not work in the economy…. With other words, we need to be informed, and from the media, we don’t get informed, it is rather more a propaganda machine from the government. Nobody can prove me that the wars in Iraq, Libya, Afghanistan, Syria makes sense…. For instance, Saddam Hussein (President Iraq) Gaddafi (President Libya), Bashar al-Assad (President Syria) got demonized by the media… Before Gaddafi was in power, the people in Libya had been very poor and different tribes in war… With Gaddafi the country bloomed, everybody got a pension, no civil war anymore… Then the so called war for good has mad the country poor again and in a civil war. And for this got Obama a Peace Nobel price? So what was bad? For sure the Peace Nobel price…  Sorry, my parents never believed in the Nobel price, and today I know why!!!! We are living in a system that cheats us and only if we have the bones, we can look behind the veil and be critic… When I became a Sannyasin or devotee of Bhagwan, the press were making scandals after scandals against us. Bhagwan said that this is wonderful because through this, he will be very fast well known and so attract the intelligent people. After some time the group was big enough, and we won nearly every lawsuit against the press and the politicians…. In previous blog I wrote the mass is always wrong, so how is it that we stop reading what the mass read and looking for other sources, like YouTube, Newsletters from intelligent people,…. My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/The+Media+is+always+wrong.mp3

My Video: Pain is certain, suffering is optional https://youtu.be/MmElH7N71IM My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. This sounds contradicting… In any case, we have to go through pain, through deep pain and that nobody can avoid. We see people suffering for years, instead to let the pain go and start new. My old German language teacher (80 years old, because he was very qualified) said you don’t know what is suffering or what is to be forced. He lost during the two World Wars two times his wife and his children,- his whole family, still he could build up his next family, and he had total faith in God. Besides that, he said you have to learn every day until you die… Because he knew that life or the world is changing fast, we have to adapt to every situation that we face. Don’t think it hits only you with a tragedy… There is beautiful parable from Buddha. A young woman was coming to Buddha, crying that her baby died, and said first my husband died and now my baby. Buddha said: go to every house and collect one mustard seed from a house where never have been the death… Next evening she was coming back to Buddha with empty hands and said let me discover what never dies. This story helped me a lot when we lost under tragedy circumstances our unborn baby… Afterward, I could understand the message of our tragedy and surrendered totally to the spiritual path and got impressive results… So this tragedy actually helped to discover God…  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/Pain+is+certain%2C+suffering+is+optional.mp3

My Video: How to live a miraculous life? https://youtu.be/BSYxUppWu4s My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. Do you wait that one day your dream life will start… that all of your deepest desires will be fulfilled? Maybe this day will never happen. If you read all these awesome miraculous stories from these great stars, holy people in the world. No story is true! With these stories, they like to catch you. Sell dreams and deliver B.S.! That have all these stories in common. Because we are all human being, and nobody is perfect. Last time I heard a price winning speech from a young Sikh and he told from these so called marvelous stories, they are all fabricated, he proved it with Gandhi (who had sexually assaulted women). Your dream life doesn't need to happen, you can enjoy your life now. You need just to change your attitude, and your remarkable life starts now. How to live a miraculous life? 1) Do something you are passionate about every day! For me is it Writing, Meditation, and Chi Gong. For instance: Chi Gong is magic. Now I need only 700 calories every day, and even with that, I put on weight; I should write a book with this title.  I have to stop because I want to serve you! 2) Practice a daily act of generosity. It doesn’t need something great. Give something for free, don’t be stingy. This will change our egotistical attitude, be generous. 3) Feel good, regardless what! We all have to suffer through the circumstances in life. Still, we should look that we enjoy at least one moment every day. Do something that you really enjoy. 4) Be thankful for everything. If I make a mistake, I say thank you that nothing worse has happened. And through these acknowledge of my mistakes nothing worse will happen. How would it be if we give thanks when even our next one is making a mistake? There is no end where we can not say thank you for! 5) Unschedule your life Less is much more! We need time to relax and to reflect on our mistakes. So fewer things we schedule so more we can enjoy every moment of our life.  People who do less are more relaxed. 6) Take one little step towards your dream every day… And enjoy this action and be thankful that you do so. 7) Connect with the divine For everybody it is different. For instance: sing full of passion a song for God. Meditate, do Chi Gong, pray full of emotion to God, read a holy book, go to a temple,… 8)Open up your heart and become vulnerable. Even it hurts many times, only so we can receive love, affection and be human. 9) Trust in God that everything is running in your favor! Even it looks so bad. We are always in the right place to learn the right things to go forwards. From my worst times, I had the best for my life. Can you say this too? My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/3/How+to+live+a+miraculous+life.mp3

My video: Question yourself!  https://youtu.be/ZyoGRMRGwwM My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. If we want to change our lives, then first we have to change ourselves. If we think, it is enough to do everything to reach our goal… This will not work out because inside we have to change. For instance, if we see all these Lottery winners,… after 5 years over 90% are even broken more than before they won the Lottery. Or T. Harv Eker, Antonie Robbins got very fast wealthy and had been poor after a short time again. And then they understood: You have first to be it (inside) before you can become/accomplish it (Goethe). Everybody is deciding after his belief system, and our belief system was mainly created in the first 9 years (95%). For sure it will not fit into our today environment anymore, so we have to change it. We change first our perception and so our belief system. The fastest way is, that we continuously question us, to change ourselves in the direction we want. Self-critic is the first step for improvement (Bible). This means that we are looking for the mistake inside of ourselves, why we can’t get what we want… And the approach to look for the errors in the world, why we do not get what we want, will not work. For sure we will always find the mistakes in the world… Jesus said: You are blind to your own errors and you will find the mistakes always in other people… And this we can use for ourselves.- How is it, if we would ask our friends, relatives, enemies for telling us our mistakes, that we can’t see by ourselves? It is much easier than to find our mistakes by ourselves! Be open for critic and don’t push it away!!! We are not perfect so we can learn from the critic. On the spiritual, religion and psychology scene it looks much worse, that the people are pushing away negative people, critic… If I attract negative people, then I know, that I have attracted them, because I have negativity inside of myself!!!! Pir Vilayat Inayat Khan said so nice until I didn’t realize that everything that I see,- I am by myself; I could not become enlightenment!!! Very short expressed said Krishnamurti: You are the world! What you see that you are!!! If we want to have the grace of God/Allah, we have to become humble (Allah don’t like proud people). If we feel better than other people, remember what I have written before, or the Tibetan quote: Everything is divine, but not our EGO!!! A religious person is looking for the mistakes inside of himself. Srimad Bhagavatam: The worst sin is faultfinding…. I hope I have convinced you… Otherwise: Our own sins we see first at other people (Goethe). My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/Question+yourself.mp3

My video: I have total faith?!  https://youtu.be/eOZPuPl8oPw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. What does it mean? I was in Boudha/Kathmandu… I have spoken with a Tibetan at this very holy Tibetan place… He said I don’t believe in religion, God, in these corrupt Rinpoches (great religious Tibetan, born as a divine incarnation)  and I have total faith in the Dalai Lama…. For me is this contradiction, that I have heard everywhere in the world and even in every area! If I have faith that I reach my goal, for sure I have to make everything that is necessary to achieve my goal. Otherwise, I don’t have faith to reach my goal. The same applies, if I say I love you, this means unconditionally, regardless in which mood my darling is or what she is doing! Otherwise, it is just only an empty phrase…. It might sound great, it might compliment my spouse. Still, it is only a bargain. I give you $10 and get one kiss back…and if you misbehave I never can love you again???  Or 80% of the diamond gifts are just for getting in bed with their spouse!!! (Sorry, to convince a customer to buy this diamond is to say: Your wife will love you and will do everything with you!!!). Love includes every part of our darling! If I say that I have faith in God/Allah/Existence, then I have also to surrender to my religion… Generally, all this so called: I  believe in God  … ends in tragedy. The strain of bad luck, injustice…and the faith is gone! Even worse most of this: I believe in God; is proclaimed by people who even don’t have read the scripture, or pray… This means, don’t kid yourself. If we say that we have faith in God, we have also to surrender our lives to God and for sure, to be honest!! I by myself was grown up as an atheist, not baptized… and totally honest. This honesty is a sign to be religious… I had nothing to do with God and through my meditation and tantra practice, I had the fortune that God was coming to me! Honesty is the most import part of having faith in God…. Without honesty, there is no faith! My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/I+have+total+faith.mp3

My video: How to change a habit?  https://youtu.be/wKoYMu6Ob20 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end. Make two lists: Why you can’t change your habit? Why do you want to change your habit? Feel your feelings that are in the way to change your habit.Learn the right habit.Repeat the right habit again and again until your subconsciousness is reprogrammed. One example, there was a time in my life, dogs were barking angrily on me and attacked me (it might be spiritual connected…) My friend told me, just snap with one hand the snout of the dog, so that he can’t open it anymore, and with the other hand the neck. When I just left his home, I went straight to the place with the mad dogs. I faced my fears… (Zen: feel your fears and don’t be your fears); three big hunting dogs attacked me. What I made was my friend told me, and the dog was whimpering,- the other dogs run away. Afterward, I went to the dog-owner and charged money for my sweatshirt, that was torn from the dog. I never had fear again of dogs. Next example, I as a shy, innocent, introvert boy had fear to approach girls. What to do? I attended groups related to that (Sexual awareness… ). In these groups, I faced and released my traumas, and then it was much easier with girls… Still, I was afraid to date girls. This means the girls dated me. I overtook the strategy of the girls...  When I saw a sweet, lovely girl, I looked into her eyes from a distance, smiled and approached her… I felt my feelings and read her emotions. When I saw, that she like to have me, I embraced her and we went to bed. Easy to do for everybody, even without saying anything... Why is this concept to change a habit working? We perceive our environment or situations through our past memories... This means if strong emotions occur through a case, we repeat that situation from our past. The emotion of our past memories are showing up, even this has nothing to do directly with our situation now. For instance fear of dogs, fear of dating as I described before. We all have feelings, and our feelings should not be the decision maker in our life! Suppression of feelings doesn’t work because we decide unaware through our suppressed feelings. Zen makes it so clear and straightforward: Feel your feelings and don’t be your feelings. If we are lazy, don’t like to do a task, ask yourself why… Make a list why you can’t do the task and a list why you want to do that task... Face that feeling that is in your way. And do it! My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/1/How+to+change+a+habit.mp3