In this episode, I talk about 10 things you need to know about boundaries, delve into two of the four types of boundaries, and wrap up with how to stick to your boundaries in dating. Along the way, I even give you a peek into how I’ve set boundaries for myself and my relationship.

6:31 - Ten things you need to know about boundaries as you apply them in your life

22:09 - Quickly touching on the first two of four types of boundaries

25:27 - Discussing emotional boundaries and the core wounding often present

29:39 - Why relational boundaries allow your relationships to flourish (with an example from my own life)

35:51 - Discussing how to uphold the dating boundaries you set

39:08 - How to compartmentalize people who keep disrespecting your boundaries

 I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Have Rock-Solid Boundaries in Dating: A Masterclass, here are your next steps:

• Read Energetic Boundaries by Cyndi Dale.
• Looking for places where you can help by donating money? Try Care.org or World Central Kitchen. Sharon McMahon of Sharon Says So is also raising money in her community for Ukrainian refugees.
• Listen to episodes 302 about self-love, 305 with Erin, and 304 with Paige about her experience with my small group coaching program Love Incubator.  
• My Love Incubator coaching program is an affordable way to get 1-on-1 coaching calls with me and go deep where you need to. Plus, you’ll be part of a small community of 10 women or less doing the same work and willing to support you. Find out more here or book your exploratory call with me right away!
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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You’ve done a lot of work and understand how past experiences have shaped your relationship patterns. But are you still meeting lots of emotionally unavailable people on dates or constantly looking for red flags to keep from getting hurt or rejected? If that sounds like you, then you’ll relate to Erin who’s been single for five years.

In this episode, I help her discover what lies behind her frustration with her love life and seeming inability to find someone with a mutual interest in a long-term relationship.

9:33 - Erin explains her frustration with her existing dating situation

13:50 - The perspective that’s missing from Erin’s love life right now

17:21 - How being too open can be a form of manipulation

19:33 - Dating from the fearful place of “guilty until proven innocent”

24:12 - The missing factor Erin may not be consciously aware of

27:11 - Why emotionally unavailable people can be attractive to Erin

31:57 - How your thoughts can lead you to take (or not take) certain actions

37:15 - What Erin can work on next and a suggestion for how to put it into practice

41:54 - Recapping the coaching call with Erin

46:38 - My top takeaways from this episode

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How To Date Vulnerably and Protect Yourself at the Same Time, here are your next steps:

• Order my book You Are Meant for Love.
• Looking for places where you can help by donating money? Try Care.org or World Central Kitchen. Sharon McMahon of Sharon Says So is also raising money in her community for Ukrainian refugees.
•  Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here.
• Listen to past episodes about anger 218 and 219 and past episodes about the Law of Attraction 199, 223, 269, and 290.
• Listen to Episode 304 with Paige about her experience with my small group coaching program Love Incubator.  
• My Love Incubator coaching program is an affordable way to get 1-on-1 coaching calls with me and go deep where you need to. Plus, you’ll be part of a small community of 10 women or less doing the same work and willing to support you. Find out more here or book your exploratory call with me right away!
• Rather work with me 1-on-1? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more and schedule your session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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What’s stopping you from making the changes you need to find the love you want? During my time coaching in this community, I’ve noticed four obstacles to healing your love life come up over and over.

In this episode, I cover these hurdles and discuss why some people choose not to pursue help in getting something they want. In the process, if you’re curious about Love Incubator (enrollment open now), I cover in detail how I work closely with women through the program.

3:09 - An obstacle I often see when talking about inner child work with someone

6:38 - Why I’m passionate about coaching vs. only doing this

9:51 - Using this common obstacle as an excuse to not do the work

13:08 - The last obstacle to healing your love life that might surprise you

16:33 - What happens once you’re inside the Love Incubator program

23:19 - Who the program is and isn’t a good fit for

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• My Love Incubator coaching program is an affordable way to get 1-on-1 coaching calls with me and go deep where you need to. Plus, you’ll be part of a small community of 10 women or less doing the same work and willing to support you. Find out more here or book your exploratory call with me right away!

• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Usually, the fourth Thursday of the month is reserved for a guest expert interview. But on today’s show, I have a very special guest: a past client of mine, Paige. She was part of my program Love Incubator last year and is no stranger to doing lots of inner work.

In this episode, she talks about how the program and our work together helped her finally let go of some past hurts, confidently get back into online dating, and deal with fear and rejection differently.

6:13​ - Where Paige was stuck before joining Love Incubator and ways it’s facilitated change

12:46 - Other shifts in Paige’s life since working together, inside and outside of her love life

15:52 - The surprising ways COVID impacted Paige’s relationships and personal growth

20:42 - What the group experience within the program was like for Paige

25:36 - Paige’s initial hesitation about joining and why she’s grateful she did in the end

29:38 - How Love Incubator works and deciding if the program is the right next step for you

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Integrate the Inner Work So Things Change in Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

• Join the 1,000s of women who’ve discovered a whole new way to find love! Access the Date Yourself Challenge.
• My Love Incubator coaching program is an affordable way to get 1-on-1 coaching calls with me and go deep where you need to. Plus, you’ll be part of a small community of 10 women or less doing the same work and willing to support you. Find out more here or book your exploratory call with me right away!
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Allison feels nervous. In the past, she’d get physical in a relationship quickly and it’d fizzle out after three months. However, she just started dating someone who seems to be emotionally available, and she wants to set herself up for success. But she’s afraid she’ll mess it up somehow. 

On this coaching call, I discuss the so-called dating playbook, physical and emotional intimacy and how the two of them work together, and when’s the right time to talk about sex in a new relationship. If that sounds interesting or like something you struggle with too, then you’ll want to listen up and take notes!

11:46​ - Trying to figure out where Allison’s problem is coming from

15:00 - Ways we learn to source confidence from things outside of ourselves

21:27 - Advising Allison on her ideal next step

27:23 - Why women shouldn’t fear initiating dates with emotionally available men

28:39 - What it feels like for Allison to discuss physical intimacy with her partner

30:20 - Picking a good time to share any kind of private information with a new partner

38:50 - Five things to take away from this episode that ignore the so-called dating rulebook

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Navigate a New Relationship and Talk About Physical Intimacy Confidently, here are your next steps:

• Join the 1,000s of women who’ve discovered a whole new way to find love. Sign up for the Date Yourself Challenge -- it starts March 21st!
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist ​here​.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.

• If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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I have lots of opinions about self-love. Even though I believe inner child work (and any kind of self-care) is ultimately about self-love, I’ve also steered away from using the phrase. The way it’s often presented on social media lacks nuance. So I want to dive into it a little bit today and reveal my four-part framework to help you understand what it means to “love yourself” and get a better sense of whether or not you do.

3:28 - The Todd Herman quote that also describes the Instagramification of self-love well

5:36 - Something that gets lost in the #selflove talk and a popular “love yourself” mantra that doesn’t really work

11:00 - Why the first piece of my self-love framework is the cornerstone for everything

15:15 - Ways people tend to bypass or ignore the next framework piece (this is an area where self-help can trip you up)

18:41 - Why the third part of the framework makes it easier to heal

22:41 - Why the final framework piece ties back to the first and makes it easier to trust other people

25:36 - What you can do if you struggle to recognize your intuition

28:31 - Quick recap of my self-love framework

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to What Do You Do When Everything Else Has Improved But Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

• Join the 1,000s of women who’ve discovered a whole new way to find love. Sign up for the Date Yourself Challenge -- it starts March 21st!
• Take a look at the Feelings Wheel.

If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Have you gone a loooong time without dating? My caller today has had some less-than-great experiences dating and felt so traumatized over it that she stopped entirely for five or six years! Now, she’s feeling the nudge to start again but has a lot of fear around attracting the same types of relationships (and bad feelings) as before. If that sounds like you too, then you’ll love the insights and key points I share with Anastasia in this episode!

7:44​ - What scared Anastasia away from dating for so long and why she still fears returning

15:27 - The moment Anastasia recognizes her biggest fear and how she can feel safe again

21:25 - How Anastasia is over-thinking her situation

26:24 - How I’d deal with ghosting and the trick to feeling your feelings when frustrated with dating

30:01 - Where you should focus your forgiveness and a new perspective on bad dating experiences

34:50 - Why I advise Anastasia differently than usual and how she can take a new approach

41:53 - A recap of the five main takeaways from the coaching call

52:01 - How our shadows and gifts are two sides of the same coin

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to What Do You Do When Everything Else Has Improved But Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

• Order my book You Are Meant for Love if you haven’t already.
• Sign up for the Decoding Your Relationships workshop. (If you pre-ordered my book but haven’t submitted your information for the workshop, send a screenshot of your receipt to [email protected] so you can get free access).
• Listen to episode 291: “How to Meet More People Online That You’re Actually Interested In with Erin”
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for the waitlist here.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.

If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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You’ve done tons of inner child work and have gone through therapy. You meditate, write your morning pages, and do all kinds of other stuff. And it’s helped you grow in several areas of your life. Your health is good, your career thrives, and your friendships flourish.

But you’re still stuck in a rut in your love life. Romance is the one area that hasn’t really improved. So what the hell is going on?

My guest Hannah knows the feeling. She’s happy with her life... except when it comes to dating. She can’t figure out what the issue is, so in this episode, I help her get to the bottom of it. If you can relate to her situation, you’ll love today’s show!

8:34 - The overriding belief or story that dictates Hannah’s love life

12:04 - The work Hannah has done to help herself feel supported

15:23 - Things I’ve noticed behind lagging romantic relationships when other areas of life gel well

18:07 - Where Hannah senses the disconnect when it comes to her dating life

21:42 - How Hannah views herself in past relationships that impacted her the most

26:23 - What can get overlooked with core wound healing and what I see as Hannah’s real issue

31:41 - A process that can help hone intuition regarding romantic relationships

36:57 - How to get more comfortable channeling masculine energy and the difference between it and feminine energy

45:15 - Recapping the main takeaways from the coaching call with Hannah

 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to What Do You Do When Everything Else Has Improved But Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

• Order my book You Are Meant for Love. 
• Sign up for the Decoding Your Relationships workshop and the How to Do the Work replay.
• Listen to episode 244 with Maureen: “How to Use Fem/Masc Energy to Stop Procrastinating and Get Back on Track With Your Goals”
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for the waitlist here.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.

If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Normally, today’s episode would be a coaching call. But I’m changing things up because it’s my book’s birthday! That’s right! You Are Meant for Love has finally arrived and should soon be on your e-reader or doorstep if you pre-ordered it. (Take a look now, because it might already be there!)

In this episode, I want to take you behind the scenes and share a little bit more about the book. But I’m not in the driver’s seat. Instead, UK-based documentary filmmaker and friend Gemma Brady interviews me and guides the whole conversation! So get comfy as I share a bit more about my own personal story and the process and purpose behind writing the book.

5:48 - Why I’m glad I didn’t know what it was going to be like writing and releasing a book beforehand

7:37 - Who I had in mind as I wrote the book

8:47 - Recounting my lowest dating period before discovering inner child work

12:37 - The most important factor about your memories and how healing resembles a spiral staircase

16:14 - How you can have a different perspective from others about the same experience

19:21 - Why I see inner child work as the missing piece and go so in-depth on my dating history in the book

25:58 - Positive mantras or beliefs about dating won’t do this for you

30:37 - Finding the balance between exercising your agency without being over-controlling

34:48 - The point where I went beyond theory and motivational quote material and started applying self-help in a different way

42:56 - How I want people to feel when they read my book

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Order my book You Are Meant for Love. 
• Visit Gemma’s organization Sister Stories and follow her on Instagram.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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We’ve all likely dealt with stressing around money at some point. If you’re living under constant money stress, it can keep you up at night.

Now, there’s the fear with literally not having enough money in your bank account and you’ve got bills to pay. But that’s not the kind of money stress I mean. What about when the money is in your account and you have a good job or business to keep it flowing, but you still feel the stress?

Just like being in codependent relationships or repeating people-pleasing patterns can wreak havoc on your emotions and sense of self-worth, your money stories can serve a similar function. So in this episode, I really want to talk about my broad framework for clearing money blocks that you can use to heal your financial shit.

9:53 - How I define the word “block” (of any kind) and examples of my former money blocks

12:34 - The fluid way you can work with my four-part framework

13:08 - Discussing the first part of the framework 

17:58 - How Suze Orman stressed me out and Ramit Sethi helped me de-stress

24:04 - Rethinking how money can help you have a life you want to live

26:40 - Why you’ll probably want to revisit the second part of the framework every year

27:57 - Part three of the framework: the B word and how it gives you so much freedom

37:43 - Money as an energetic exchange and a prevalent belief about money and work

45:04 - Why purpose and passion aren’t necessarily the same thing

47:48 - Recapping the four parts and why I wanted to share this episode at this time

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Pre-order my book You Are Meant for Love. Then submit your pre–order information here.

• Sign up for my free How to Do the Work workshop. You’ll have access to the recording for the rest of the month.
• Listen to Episode 295 with Brooke about money anxiety and episodes 67, 112, and 244 about feminine and masculine energy.
• Get the book from my favorite financial expert, Ramit Sethi: I Will Teach You to Be Rich. And if you’re curious about the budgeting app I use, take a look at Mint.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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