Romantic comedies, dramas, novels, soap operas... we access so many things where we see the idea of having a soulmate come into play. And as soon as “the one” appears, the relationship just clicks and everything is perfect.

Or is it? How do you find the balance between passion and having a healthy relationship, if one of those criteria is lacking?

Today’s caller has a history of being in toxic relationships and starts off the call by asking how you know when a relationship is right. But almost immediately, the real question she wants to be answered reveals itself. 

6:14 - My opinion about the whole soulmate concept that relieves the pressure

11:11 - The real question underneath the caller’s question

14:18 - The difference between the two ways you can have sex

20:05 - Can a healthy relationship also be an exciting one for the caller?

25:23 - How to effectively approach a difficult conversation with your partner

27:50 - Why sex in toxic relationships can oftentimes feel like an addiction

30:23 - The importance of making agreements in relationships

35:59 - Getting clear on the love language in your relationship

43:06 - Why the belief “If it’s meant to be, it should be easy” is a myth

49:03 - Summarizing, highlighting, and expanding on the key points from the call

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Get Mama Gena’s Pussy: A Reclamation.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

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We’re in that tricky time of the year for people who are single. News feeds and conversations are littered with talk of parties and other engagements for couples. People come out of the woodwork with the cute holiday activities they do together. I’ve been there. I know it can be tough!

Despite this not being a Thanksgiving-themed episode, specifically, I still wanted to have a conversation with Monica Rodgers about remembering who you are and bringing forth the divine feminine and spirituality to dating, your relationship with others, and most importantly your relationship with yourself. We discuss how patriarchy, religion, spirituality, and the politics of it all intersect together to affect your life.

8:04 - My new book revealed

12:23 - Monica’s history and passion for empowering women

16:31 - How women have been under a trance of unworthiness our whole lives

18:59 - What is the divine feminine?

22:01 - The double bind that women face and the rich, but hidden, history of feminist religious texts

27:19 - Origins of the suppression and subjugation of goddess culture and the feminine

34:28 - What reawakening to the divine feminine looks like

40:00 - The importance of integrating the feminine and masculine for the good of the whole

44:37 - How to honor more of the feminine and let go of dichotomy in your relationships

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Visit Monica’s website and listen and subscribe to The Revelation Project podcast.
• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. Sign up here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

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Imagine doing the inner work to overcome the need for other people’s approval to feel worthy, only to find yourself constantly attracting that kind of person as a potential romantic partner. Are you doomed to repeat the pattern, or do you believe you have the power to disrupt it?

In the past, Tasleem felt like the anxiously attached, needy partner in relationships. Even though she did the work to vanquish it, she’s now attracting men who seem to fit the anxious attachment style. In this episode, I talk about attachment styles, specifically anxious attachment, and help her discover the conditioning that underlies why these types of men are drawn to her.

2:07 - The one caveat you need to hear about attachment styles

6:25 - Tasleem describes how she used to be a needy dating partner

8:22 - Exposing the patriarchal programming behind the “overly sensitive” label

17:02 - Anxiously attached or love bombers: which type is Tasleem actually attracting?

24:50 - How anxiously attached people are also emotionally unavailable, just in a different way

30:44 - The process of getting comfortable expressing your needs to others

35:35 - Summarizing the key takeaways from the coaching call

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Listen to the two-parter series on attachment styles: Part 1 and Part 2.
• Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here.
• Listen to episodes 166 and 245, relating to the downside of hyper independence.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Today’s show touches on a pretty sensitive topic. Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself when dating because you desperately want to start a family? Or find potential partners for such a purpose who may not be the right fit?

I believe that doing so can actually make dating a lot trickier. In this episode, I reveal why and talk about what I went through when dating and trying to have a child. I hope it helps you approach your dating life with this desire from a new perspective and with more peace of mind.

6:54 - How anxiety and pressure from wanting a child can affect your dating life

8:36 - Two reasons why you’re more likely to waste time dating from a place of desperation

12:01 - What dating and deeply wanting a family requires of you

15:54 - The better thing to do if you can’t let go of the need to control in your dating life

19:06 - Some myths and truths I discovered from my own experience having a child

22:16 - The unusual belief (and dream) that helped me the most when trying to conceive

26:12 - Adopting a spiritual practice to this piece of your life and the mantra that can help

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Listen to episode 233: “Do You Have to Wait On a Man to Have Children? - With Dana Freedman”
• Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment.
• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. Sign up here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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What does outsourcing your worthiness look like? Many people outsource their worthiness when they think they’ll gain acceptance, love, and confidence in themselves only after they reach a certain weight... or make a certain amount of money... or live in a certain kind of house or neighborhood... or have a relationship, period.

Now, those things can make you feel good about yourself, but it becomes an issue when they’re your sole source for feeling worthy. My guest today Dante feels like her self-worth depends on being in a relationship. So in this episode, she wants to know how she can stop outsourcing her confidence and worthiness to things outside herself, particularly relationships.

2:46​ - Consequences of being in a relationship to which you’ve outsourced your worthiness

7:44 - Why Dante feels her self-worth depends on being in a relationship

11:46 - How Dante felt like a bit of an outcast as a child

13:34 - The main culprit behind Dante’s inner child wounding and outsourcing

19:13 - Why Dante has a hard time letting go of the energy of one particular person

28:07 - Trouble connecting with your inner child to do the work? Try this instead

30:05 - Why trying to date and heal core wounding at the same time is a waste of time

33:35 - A cool thing to try when you connect with your inner child through journaling

34:42 - How to connect with your ancestors for answers

40:48 - The sentiment Dante shared after the call that I hear often and want to address

43:07 - Highlights and thoughts from the coaching call

47:06 - Re-capping the actions steps that Dante and you can take today

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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There’s a hot topic in the dating and relationships arena that I rarely mention. I haven’t really had an episode dedicated to attachment styles. So I’ve brought on a therapist, love coach, and Irresistible Woman podcast host Madeline Charles to talk about attachment theory and how to overcome insecure attachment styles.

In part one of this two-parter, we discuss the three main styles and she gives her perspective on how they develop and impact who you do or don’t date. Then in part two, I go on Madeline’s show to discuss how to use inner child work to help you overcome some of the unhealthy attachment types. So let’s dive in!

7:30 - Madeline quickly introduces herself

8:16 - Defining attachment style and theory

10:23 - Origin of your attachment style: nature or nurture?

11:59 - Anxious attachment style and how it might tie back to your childhood

14:31 - Signs of having the anxious attachment style as a dating adult

16:41 - Avoidant attachment style, how it can form during childhood, and what it looks like as an adult

21:40 - What it looks like when two people with anxious attachment date each other

23:27 - Trademarks of the secure attachment style

25:07 - How you can be a blend of two styles

26:53 - Moving beyond the label of your attachment style

32:07 - Highlighting an unstereotypical aspect of the anxious style as I wrap up the episode

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Sign up for the Worthy in Love podcast tour.
• Listen and subscribe to Madeline’s podcast Irresistible Woman Podcast.
• Sign up for Madeline’s free Sexy, Successful, and Secure in Love masterclass.
• Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment.
• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. Sign up here.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Getting over your ex isn’t the hardest part of a break-up. Getting over what the relationship meant to you is. If you’re not honest enough with yourself to do the deep work needed, you’ll never know if an old relationship is still holding you back in your love life.

Sharon has done a lot of deep work and created coping mechanisms to try and move on from her last relationship, but something’s still preventing her from truly moving on. If you still think about your ex or find yourself constantly comparing every current dating experience or relationship with a past relationship, then this coaching call with her is a must-listen.

4:47 - Why you want to listen to this episode even if you don’t think you need to

6:33 - Sharon discusses the break-up of her last relationship

11:48 - Sharon reveals what she’s done to try to heal and move on

15:03 - A recent online dating experience that left Sharon with mixed feelings

17:03 - The missing pieces from the deep work Sharon has already done to shift the dating pattern she’s stuck in

24:33 - What it takes to heal past relationships on the soul level

31:17 - Quickly working with Sharon’s inner child

35:03 - A different way to define a soulmate

39:25 - A question to ask yourself if you want a committed relationship with someone who clearly does not

42:35 - How time impacts healing from relationships

45:20 - Why I still stand by my belief about the impact of Sharon’s inner child on her love life

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Sign up for the Worthy in Love podcast tour here.
• Sign up for my free email course: How to Quickly Get Over Your Ex
• Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Do you feel pretty or skinny enough? If not, you’re not alone. I’ve had clients tell me they feel they need to lose weight before they can date the people they really want to date or have sex with their skinnier partner. So in today’s episode, I talk about the link between worthiness and body image. Specifically, I want to share details about my own bumpy road to body acceptance and how changing my body image helped me attract the relationship I desired.

7:42 - Revealing my past issues with health, dieting, and body image

9:41 - Why you shouldn’t blame your parents for how you feel about your body

12:22 - What got me off the diet train and changed my relationship with food

16:58 - The unexpected but much-needed change that occurred alongside my new relationship with food

20:21 - Why I’m no longer a vegan

21:47 - Why body acceptance is a lifelong process

25:29 - The question I ask people who say they just want to be healthy

26:30 - A quick body acceptance exercise you can do anytime

29:12 - Ways you can treat your body as a temple today

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Sign up for the Worthy in Love podcast tour here.
• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. Sign up here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Do you feel pretty or skinny enough? If not, you’re not alone. I’ve had clients tell me they feel they need to lose weight before they can date the people they really want to date or have sex with their skinnier partner. So in today’s episode, I talk about the link between worthiness and body image. Specifically, I want to share details about my own bumpy road to body acceptance and how changing my body image helped me attract the relationship I desired.

7:42 - Revealing my past issues with health, dieting, and body image

9:41 - Why you shouldn’t blame your parents for how you feel about your body

12:22 - What got me off the diet train and changed my relationship with food

16:58 - The unexpected but much-needed change that occurred alongside my new relationship with food

20:21 - Why I’m no longer a vegan

21:47 - Why body acceptance is a lifelong process

25:29 - The question I ask people who say they just want to be healthy

26:30 - A quick body acceptance exercise you can do anytime

29:12 - Ways you can treat your body as a temple today

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Sign up for the Worthy in Love podcast tour here.
• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. Sign up here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Trouble with attracting men who can’t commit is by far the #1 issue I hear about. Today, I have a coaching call with Cici who’s frustrated about dating emotionally unavailable men. In this episode, we focus in on her relationship with her father because while she as an adult has come to terms with her dad in many ways, it turns out that her inner child hasn’t and still suffers from an unhealed wound that impacts her love life today.

5:16 - My general answer to those frustrated with attracting emotionally unavailable or non-committal men

10:37 - Childhood issues that contribute to Cici’s attachment style and problems with relationships

17:22 - Why Cici feels she’s attracting avoidant types of men

20:13 - What Cici’s evolved feelings about her father reveal about her emotional state

25:30 - Why understanding something on the mental level isn’t enough

27:31 - What Cici needs to do to truly heal the wound left over from her and her dad’s relationship

34:47 - How your inner child can blind you to red flags in a relationship

36:36 - A couple of things to look at if you have a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable people

40:13 - Wrap-up of the episode with a summary of the highlights, insights, and breakthroughs

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Sign up for the Worthy in Love podcast tour here.
• Listen to past episodes addressing anger in relationships here, here, and here.
• Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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