Your sick or ageing loved one is lying in a hospital bed. The doctors are asking for a decision: "What would they want?". What about the advance care directive? Wait, what is that? And how do I make a decision about someone that's not me?

Get your wishes in order, and make sure the people around you have theirs in order too. Jacinta talks about being asked in the ICU whether to keep her 97-year-old great uncle alive or not. And Dr Peter Saul talks us through what he calls an 'authentic death' in the chaos of an ICU.