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You don’t need to feel more to be faithful. You don’t need constant confirmation to be close to Christ. And silence does not mean distance.
This week, instead of measuring your discipleship by emotion or progress, notice where your attention is going—and gently bring it back to Jesus Christ. Because what we look at grows. And when we look to Him, even quietly, grace begins to reframe how we experience the weight of mortality.
You’re not failing. You’re not behind. And you’re not alone.
00:00 — Deb opens: Attention, weariness, and inward drift
Deb introduces the idea that when life feels heavy or quiet, our attention naturally turns inward—not because we’re failing, but because we’re human.
02:45 — The Fall and spiritual self-monitoring
Scott introduces the idea that one of the quieter effects of the Fall is constant self-evaluation rather than rebellion.
05:30 — “Why don’t I feel the Spirit?”
Examples of how self-monitoring shows up in prayer, sacrament meeting, scripture study, and comparison.
09:40 — Weariness is not abandonment
A clear return to last week’s message: silence and heaviness are not signs of distance from Christ.
12:20 — Symptoms vs relationship
Scott contrasts symptom-focused spirituality with relationship-centered discipleship.
15:10 — Gethsemane: strength instead of relief
A reframing of Gethsemane—Jesus’ burden was not removed, but strength was added.
18:45 — “Am I willing to stay?”
Deb speaks to quiet faith, showing up without emotional confirmation, and the courage of staying.
22:10 — Gratitude: what it is not
Scott clearly defines what gratitude is not: forced optimism, minimizing pain, or spiritual cheerleading.
25:00 — Gratitude as alignment
Gratitude reframed as noticing presence rather than pretending relief.
27:30 — Practical reframing in real life
Examples of gratitude that sound like: “It didn’t spiral today.” “I made it through.” “I felt held, even quietly.”
30:30 — What we look at grows
The core thesis repeated and grounded: attention shapes experience.
33:00 — Closing invitation
A gentle invitation to stop measuring discipleship by emotion and to notice where Christ already is.
By Scott and Debra Durfey4.9
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You don’t need to feel more to be faithful. You don’t need constant confirmation to be close to Christ. And silence does not mean distance.
This week, instead of measuring your discipleship by emotion or progress, notice where your attention is going—and gently bring it back to Jesus Christ. Because what we look at grows. And when we look to Him, even quietly, grace begins to reframe how we experience the weight of mortality.
You’re not failing. You’re not behind. And you’re not alone.
00:00 — Deb opens: Attention, weariness, and inward drift
Deb introduces the idea that when life feels heavy or quiet, our attention naturally turns inward—not because we’re failing, but because we’re human.
02:45 — The Fall and spiritual self-monitoring
Scott introduces the idea that one of the quieter effects of the Fall is constant self-evaluation rather than rebellion.
05:30 — “Why don’t I feel the Spirit?”
Examples of how self-monitoring shows up in prayer, sacrament meeting, scripture study, and comparison.
09:40 — Weariness is not abandonment
A clear return to last week’s message: silence and heaviness are not signs of distance from Christ.
12:20 — Symptoms vs relationship
Scott contrasts symptom-focused spirituality with relationship-centered discipleship.
15:10 — Gethsemane: strength instead of relief
A reframing of Gethsemane—Jesus’ burden was not removed, but strength was added.
18:45 — “Am I willing to stay?”
Deb speaks to quiet faith, showing up without emotional confirmation, and the courage of staying.
22:10 — Gratitude: what it is not
Scott clearly defines what gratitude is not: forced optimism, minimizing pain, or spiritual cheerleading.
25:00 — Gratitude as alignment
Gratitude reframed as noticing presence rather than pretending relief.
27:30 — Practical reframing in real life
Examples of gratitude that sound like: “It didn’t spiral today.” “I made it through.” “I felt held, even quietly.”
30:30 — What we look at grows
The core thesis repeated and grounded: attention shapes experience.
33:00 — Closing invitation
A gentle invitation to stop measuring discipleship by emotion and to notice where Christ already is.

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