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  • Ep. 26 Christian Meditation for Sex Addiction | Business Trip

    This 6 minute meditation is for Christians in recovery for sexual addiction. It is for those who find business trips and hotels to be particularly dangerous for relapse. This meditation is to help you focus as soon as you enter your hotel room.If you think this is helpful and would like more meditations, please let me know and I will do my best to create them. For example, are there any situations or moods where you need a specific meditation to stay focused in your sex addiction recovery? You may email me at [email protected] To listen to this meditation in video form, click here

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    7 min
  • Ep. 25 Christian Meditation for Sex Addiction | Daily Contemplation

    This 6 minute meditation is for Christians in recovery for sexual addiction. It can be used as an everyday guide for practicing the presence of God, holding every thought captive, and supplementing your recovery work. If you think this is helpful and would like more meditations, please let me know and I will do my best to create them. For example, are there any situations or moods where you need a specific meditation to stay focused in your sex addiction recovery? You may email me at [email protected] To listen to these meditations in video form, click here

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    6 min
  • Ep. 24 In Search of a Salve (with K E Garland)

    Navigating regular life in a White world as a Black female is a lot in itself. Add sex addiction on top of that, and you have to answer major questions, such as Where do I belong? Is there something even more broken about me than the next person?

    In this episode, I have the privilege to speak with Kathy Garland, author of In Search of a Salve: Memoir of a Sex Addict. Some of our talking points:

    • The problem of sex addiction as largely viewed as a male issue.
    • Men get away with a lot of things. Women not so much.
    • The importance of identifying your emotions and sitting through it.
    • Black men and women are taught to be strong, which then leads to emotional deafness
    • Unhealthy relationship patterns. 
    • Christians and their difficulty setting boundaries
    • Is God ashamed of those of us with sex addictions?
    • What is it like to keep secrets and live a double life?
    • Our bodies react to our traumas and our secrets.
    • Being 40 but functioning like a hurt little 16 year old.
    • Kathy's advice to women with sex addiction
    • Kathy's book is a must read! Her memoir will make many of you feel you're not alone. She puts words to many thoughts that we hesitate to utter, but in so doing, releasing the shame word by word. Her contribution as a Black female is essential, and I hope you will support her!

      https://www.newreadspub.com/in-search-of-a-salve

       

      Music credit: George Street Shuffle by Kevin Macleod


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      54 min
    • Ep. 23 Reclaiming Sexual Pleasure After Betrayal Trauma
      • "I have no desire for sex. I can't even hold hands or sit close to that person."
      • "Is there something wrong with me if I can't feel sexual anymore?"
      • "I keep comparing myself to the other people my partner cheated with"
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        It is common and normal for someone to be adversely affected in their sexuality after being betrayed. It's also quite terrible. But there is hope. Christene Lozano (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist) joins me to talk about how a partner's sexual betrayal can affect someone's own sexuality. She also provides some tips on how to start healing.

         

        Some of our talking points:

        • How can the betrayer respond in a healthy way?
        • Can ethnicity matter when it comes to trauma response?
        • Why do some betrayed partners become hyper-sexual after betrayal?
        • Many partners feel they've been robbed of their sexual self
        • Is there such a thing as healthy masturbation?
        • How does a partner begin to reclaim their sexuality?
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          Learn more about Christene: www.merakicounselingservices.com

          Learn more about Roy: www.newlegacycounseling.com

           

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          56 min
        • Ep. 22 Female Sex and Love Addiction

          Sex and Love Addiction afflicts men and women alike. Unfortunately society places the bulk of the attention on the men who struggle, leaving women with the question: What about us? 

          Kim Hudson is my guest today, helping me discuss the topic of female sex and love addiction. She is a Certified Sex Addiction therapist practicing in the Baltimore area. 

          Here are some of the topics we discuss:

          • The "Otherness" that female SLAs experience
          • Male privilege
          • The symptoms that female SLAs experience
          • Women are hunters, too
          • The horrible feeling of being a bad mom
          • The unfair higher moral standard for women
          • Perfectionism and shame

          Email Kim:
          [email protected]


           

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          43 min
        • Ep. 21 Asian American CSATs Discuss the Atlanta Massacre
          • 6 Asian Americans murdered. Doesn't that make this a hate crime against Asians?
          • The victims were women. Doesn't this make this misogyny?
          • This massacre happened in a year of rising hate crimes against Asians. Doesn't this crime fit the mold?
          • Is the sex addiction statement just another example of White murderers getting off the hook?
          • Huge questions. Huge topics. Joining me in discussing this horrible event are Edwina Reyes and Christene Lozano. They are Certified Sex Addiction therapists, as well as Asian American women. We offer our contributions to the discussion from a lens under-represented in media and social media. 

            www.edwinareyes.com

            www.merakicounselingservices.com

            www.newlegacycounseling.com

             

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            38 min
          • Ep. 20 Assistance If You Decide To Disclose

            Perhaps you have decided to disclose to your partner (or your partner has given you an ultimatum) the whole truth about your secret behaviors, so that your partner knows everything and does not need to keep searching for answers. How do you go about doing it in the most healthy and helpful way possible?

            Thankfully, assistance is at hand. Dan Drake joins me to share about the enormously helpful resource that he and Janice Caudill created. It is a set of workbooks that guide a therapist and couple step by step through the Full Disclosure process. There is no one right way to do it, so the steps include options to consider so that every unique situation has a chance to adjust accordingly. 

            The primary book we discuss today is called Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal. It is a tremendous contribution to the sex addiction field. 

            Contact Dan: [email protected]

            or visit his website www.banyantherapy.com

            Contact Roy: [email protected] 

            or visit his website www.newlegacycounseling.com

             

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            46 min
          • Ep. 19 The COVID19 Episode

            Dan Drake, the founder and director of Banyan Therapy Group, joins me to talk about COVID19 and its impact on the recovery path of sexual addicts and their traumatized partners. 

            Contact Dan at [email protected], and visit his website: www.banyantherapy.com

            Contact Roy at [email protected] and visit his website: www.newlegacycounseling.com

             

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            42 min
          • Ep. 18 Sex Addiction the Intimacy Disorder

            Chris Williams and I discuss the essential yet often frightening topic of intimacy. Some of the questions we cover:

            • What are the pros and cons of allowing someone to know all of me?
            • Would you rather be admired, or loved?
            • What effect does social media have on intimacy?
            • What is a surefire way to increase intimacy?
            • How well does the church handle true intimacy?
            • Do pastors struggle with sex addiction?
            • What does Andy Crouch mean when he defines vulnerability as meaningful risk?

            Learn more about Chris' counseling services at www.renovaricounseling.com 

            Learn more about Roy at www.newlegacycounseling.com 


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            36 min

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          A podcast for men and women who struggle with sexual addiction