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Saddle Up Segment: Ending the Cycle of Perfectionism & Judgment | Healing with Andi Bull
Episode Description:
Break the cycle of perfectionism, judgment, and people-pleasing. In this Saddle Up Segment, Lesa Koski shares 5 key takeaways from part two of her powerful conversation with author Andi Bull (When Your Protectors Didn’t Protect).
Learn how humility breaks defensiveness, how to move from victim to overcomer, and why God’s unconditional love—not performance—defines your worth. This episode offers faith-filled, practical tools for healing after abuse and releasing perfectionism for good.
Timestamps:
(00:00) Welcome back to the Saddle Up Segment
(01:10) Humility heals faster than defensiveness
(03:00) The barbed-wire tree: growing around suffering
(05:15) Moving from judgment to discernment with God’s eyes
(07:40) From victim to survivor to overcomer
(10:05) God’s unconditional love—identity before performance
(12:30) Key reminders to end the cycle
Key Takeaways:
- Humility opens hearts where defensiveness closes them.
- Pain doesn’t disappear—we grow stronger around it.
- Judgment becomes discernment when we ask for God’s eyes.
- You can move from victim → survivor → overcomer.
- God’s love is unconditional—your worth isn’t earned.
Guest Bio (context):
For over twenty-five years, Andi has dedicated herself to the study of God’s word, graduating from the King’s University with her Master’s in 2003.
As she read the Bible through the eyes of a survivor of traumatic childhood abuse, she saw how God passionately seeks the lost, gently restores the broken, and tenderly heals broken hearts.
Andi became inspired to advocate for emotional well-being, not only for herself but also for the women she is privileged to mentor one-on-one and those she speaks to at conferences. The lessons and insights she gained are in her book, When Your Protectors Didn’t: Healing from a Past of Broken Pieces.
Raised in South Africa as a child, she now resides in sunny Southern California with her husband, daughter, and pups. She loves her family, friends, pups, and coffee—lots and lots of coffee!
Resource Links:
Listen to the full episode here! https://player.captivate.fm/episode/27abd1b8-860b-4770-8508-3021b19c465f/
- Get Andi Bull’s book: When Your Protectors Didn’t Protect https://a.co/d/5naO43I
- Learn more at lesakoski.com
Tags/Keywords:
healing after abuse, faith and healing, perfectionism, people pleasing, Saddle Up Segment, women over 40 podcast, Christian women, ending the cycle, judgment to discernment, overcoming trauma, identity in Christ, Andi Bull, When Your Protectors Didn’t
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Episode Description:
Break the cycle of perfectionism, judgment, and people-pleasing. In this Saddle Up Segment, Lesa Koski shares 5 key takeaways from part two of her powerful conversation with author Andi Bull (When Your Protectors Didn’t Protect).
Learn how humility breaks defensiveness, how to move from victim to overcomer, and why God’s unconditional love—not performance—defines your worth. This episode offers faith-filled, practical tools for healing after abuse and releasing perfectionism for good.
Timestamps:
(00:00) Welcome back to the Saddle Up Segment
(01:10) Humility heals faster than defensiveness
(03:00) The barbed-wire tree: growing around suffering
(05:15) Moving from judgment to discernment with God’s eyes
(07:40) From victim to survivor to overcomer
(10:05) God’s unconditional love—identity before performance
(12:30) Key reminders to end the cycle
Key Takeaways:
- Humility opens hearts where defensiveness closes them.
- Pain doesn’t disappear—we grow stronger around it.
- Judgment becomes discernment when we ask for God’s eyes.
- You can move from victim → survivor → overcomer.
- God’s love is unconditional—your worth isn’t earned.
Guest Bio (context):
For over twenty-five years, Andi has dedicated herself to the study of God’s word, graduating from the King’s University with her Master’s in 2003.
As she read the Bible through the eyes of a survivor of traumatic childhood abuse, she saw how God passionately seeks the lost, gently restores the broken, and tenderly heals broken hearts.
Andi became inspired to advocate for emotional well-being, not only for herself but also for the women she is privileged to mentor one-on-one and those she speaks to at conferences. The lessons and insights she gained are in her book, When Your Protectors Didn’t: Healing from a Past of Broken Pieces.
Raised in South Africa as a child, she now resides in sunny Southern California with her husband, daughter, and pups. She loves her family, friends, pups, and coffee—lots and lots of coffee!
Resource Links:
Listen to the full episode here! https://player.captivate.fm/episode/27abd1b8-860b-4770-8508-3021b19c465f/
- Get Andi Bull’s book: When Your Protectors Didn’t Protect https://a.co/d/5naO43I
- Learn more at lesakoski.com
Tags/Keywords:
healing after abuse, faith and healing, perfectionism, people pleasing, Saddle Up Segment, women over 40 podcast, Christian women, ending the cycle, judgment to discernment, overcoming trauma, identity in Christ, Andi Bull, When Your Protectors Didn’t
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