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- Say More About Being the Strong Friend
In this episode of Say More About That, La Toya discusses the pattern of becoming “the strong friend” everyone relies on for support without reciprocity, distinguishing it from mutually beneficial relationships.
She explains how this role accumulates over time through reliability and early conditioning, then becomes an expectation that others stop questioning.
She outlines the costs—persistent exhaustion, resentment that shows up as irritability or withdrawal, loneliness even when surrounded by people, and the performance of appearing fine while overwhelmed—alongside internal beliefs like “I can handle it,” “If I fall apart, everything falls apart,” “asking for help means failing,” and “I don’t want to be a burden.”
La Toya encourages noticing imbalance, practicing letting others show up, and journaling who knows the real truth of how you’re doing and why it may feel unsafe to share.
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00:00 Welcome and Topic Setup
00:45 Defining the Strong Friend
01:33 How You Became the Go-To
02:47 When Strength Becomes Expectation
04:50 The Real Costs
06:32 Loneliness and Staying Polished
10:22 The Inner Scripts Keeping You Stuck
13:49 Redefining Burden and Friendship
15:15 Building Real Reciprocity
18:09 Journal Prompt and Closing
21 min - Say More About Boundary Burnout
Understanding and Combating Boundary Burnout
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the concept of boundary burnout—a form of emotional fatigue experienced after setting and maintaining boundaries. She explains that this exhaustion often arises from breaking old habits, managing both your emotions and those of others, and lacking recovery time.
La Toya provides practical steps to combat this burnout, including starting with small boundaries, scripting responses, planning recovery time, and expecting resistance. She concludes by emphasizing the importance of mental recovery to sustain healthy boundaries and protect one's peace.
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00:00 Introduction to Boundary Burnout
00:42 Defining Boundary Burnout
02:51 Reasons for Boundary Burnout
05:22 Strategies to Combat Boundary Burnout
08:26 Recovery Techniques
10:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
13 min - Say More About Embracing True Authenticity in Your Life
Unpacking the Emotional Weight of Self-Abandonment
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' La Toya explores the emotional consequences of making choices that don't truly resonate with one's authentic self.
She discusses the concept of core beliefs, particularly the belief of not being enough, and how it leads to self-abandonment in pursuit of external validation.
The episode delves into the importance of identifying and challenging these beliefs, rewriting them, and aligning actions with one's true self. Practical steps are provided for beginning this deep emotional work, aiming to cultivate a life filled with choices that genuinely reflect who you are.
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00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:10 The Trap of Self-Abandonment
01:35 Understanding Core Beliefs
02:35 Steps to Change Core Beliefs
03:41 Living Authentically
07:20 Questions for Self-Reflection
15 min - Say More About Letting Your Guard Down
Navigating Social Anxiety and Embracing Vulnerability
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the sensitive topic of social anxiety, exploring the aftermath of feeling exposed when someone makes a casual yet impactful comment. She defines social anxiety using the DSM criteria, distinguishes it from shyness, and discusses the struggle between personal identity and external perception.
LaToya shares personal experiences and offers practical grounding practices for managing anxiety, emphasizing the importance of showing up authentically. She closes with a reminder of the strength it takes to be vulnerable and encourages listeners to embrace their true selves.
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00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:20 The Moment of Vulnerability
01:26 Understanding Social Anxiety
03:29 Defining Vulnerability
04:02 Identity vs. Perception
04:26 Personal Experience and Reflection
05:34 The Instinct to Retreat
10:15 Grounding Practices for Anxiety
11:51 Journal Prompts and Affirmations
12:50 Conclusion and Additional Support
15 min - Say More About Retuning to Self, because the Comeback is For you
Rediscovering Yourself: The Personal Journey of a Quiet Comeback this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the true essence of a comeback—one that is personal, internal, and not for show. Unlike the performative 'bounce back' often seen on social media, this episode emphasizes healing, self-acceptance, and quiet strength.
La Toya discusses the pressures to appear okay and the struggle with overthinking, highlighting how crucial it is to reset your nervous system and genuinely connect with your inner self. The episode includes practical tips for grounding exercises, such as the '3, 3, 3' method, and encourages listeners to embrace their unique journeys of transformation.
Plus, La Toya shares her own experiences in the gym and offers a free three-day nervous system reset program to help listeners on their path to self-recovery.
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00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast
00:32 The Myth of the Quick Comeback
01:28 The Quiet, Personal Comeback
02:11 Overthinking and Self-Doubt
02:32 Accepting Change and Moving Forward
03:43 Reframing Your Healing Journey
05:06 Resetting Your Nervous System
06:09 Practical Tips for Grounding Yourself
07:44 Movement as a Form of Healing
09:06 The Soft Return: A Free Resource
09:57 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
13 min - Say More About Letting Go of What is not Yours to Carry
Letting Go of What Isn't Yours: Emotional Awareness and Boundaries
In this episode, La Toya hosts an episode focusing on the emotional burdens people often carry that do not belong to them.
She explains how high-functioning individuals, especially women, are often praised for managing chaos, which can lead to unnecessary emotional strain. La Toya introduces a three-step framework—awareness, ownership, and release—to help individuals recognize and manage these burdens. She emphasizes the importance of setting emotional boundaries and releasing what is not theirs to carry.
The episode aims to help listeners create space for their well-being by letting go of unnecessary emotional weight.
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00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
01:25 The Weight We Carry: Understanding Emotional Burdens
03:15 Awareness: Identifying Unchosen Responsibilities
04:07 Ownership: Setting Emotional Boundaries
06:34 Release: Returning the Weight
07:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
08:34 Patreon and Additional Resources
11 min - Say More About Doing Hard Things With Help
The Power of Community: Embracing Support and Letting Go of Isolation
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya explores the deep-seated notion that high-functioning individuals must do everything alone. She delves into the harmful effects of emotional perfectionism and emphasizes the importance of seeking support from a community.
La Toya suggests practical strategies for auditing your support system, asking for help, and allowing others to assist during challenging times. She highlights how vulnerability and community can foster resilience, regulation, and relief. Tune in for tips on evolving strength into discernment and delegation to avoid burnout.
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00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:12 The Myth of Doing It All Alone
00:52 The Praise and Perils of High Functioning
01:59 The Importance of Asking for Help
03:39 Strategies for Building Support Systems
06:30 The Role of Community in Personal Well-being
09:16 Conclusion and Call to Action
12 min - Say More About Burnout and Discipline
Balancing Burnout and Discipline: Insights for High Achieving Women
In this episode of Say More About That, we delve into the challenging dynamics between burnout and discipline, particularly for high-achieving women and high-functioning black women.
La Toya shares personal experiences of dealing with fatigue post-surgery and the internal conflict between feeling lazy and recognizing the need for rest. The episode offers a comprehensive definition of burnout, differentiates it from mere tiredness, and explores the unique pressures faced by high-functioning individuals.
Practical advice is given on recognizing when to rest versus when to apply discipline, advocating for a compassionate approach to self-care and productivity.
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00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:23 Personal Story: Recognizing Burnout
01:35 Understanding Burnout: Definitions and Symptoms
03:34 High-Functioning Women and Burnout
05:40 The Strong Black Woman Stereotype
06:49 The Importance of Rest in Discipline
08:36 Practical Tips for Balancing Rest and Discipline
10:10 Conclusion and Additional Support
14 min - Say More About That... the Trailer!
Welcome to Say More About That—the podcast for high-functioning Black women learning to feel, heal, and set boundaries without guilt.
I’m La Toya, a therapist turned creator, here to hold space for the deep stuff: emotional regulation, gym-life healing, and what it really takes to choose yourself in a world that keeps asking for more.
New episodes drop every Monday. If you're ready to stop performing healing and start living it, hit follow, and let’s Say More About That.
Looking for deeper support? Join the Say More Crew! on Patreon for exclusive tools, journal prompts, practices, and EXCLUSIVE mini episodes.
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4 min - Say More About a Mid-Year Reset: 3 Therapist-Backed Practices to Realign Your Life
In this episode of Say More About That, host La Toya the Therapist guides listeners through a mid-year assessment.
She encourages viewers to reflect on their progress, despite any setbacks, and provides practical strategies to realign with their goals, peace, and purpose.
La Toya introduces three key practices: a Sunday self-audit for self-reflection, a boundary refresh to reassess personal limits, and micro-joy tracking to find small moments of happiness daily. The episode emphasizes the importance of being gentle with oneself and choosing to reset without guilt.
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00:00 Welcome and Mid-Year Check-In
01:16 Sunday Self Audit: Reflect and Realign
04:46 Boundary Refresh: Emotional Hygiene
07:47 Micro Joy Tracking: Finding Small Wins
10:20 Final Thoughts and Patreon Perks
14 min
About Say More About That
From the publisher's feed
Hosted by La Toya, a licensed therapist-turned-creator, Say More About That helps high-functioning Black women set unapologetic boundaries, navigate emotional burnout, and reconnect with their…
authentic selves. Tune in for sharp insights, soft truths, and healing that moves with you—literally. New episodes every Monday!! Let’s talk about it.