There are so many benefits to gratitude.  Today we discuss research from Robert Emmons about myths of gratitude.  The benefit of developing a practice of gratitude and 8 ways to be more grateful. 

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/profile/Robert_Emmons

Intro story is a Chinese Proverb alerting us to be cautious labeling events blessing or a curse.  What seems like a blessing may be a curse.  What seems like a blessing may be a curse. 

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Song :

Ants Marching - Dave Matthews

Quotes:

“It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.”  Tony Robbins

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” ~Benjamin Franklin

“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities.” ― Stephen Covey

“Successful people are simply those with successful habits.” Brian Tracy

“The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.”

—Samuel Johnson

“Focus on being productive instead of being busy” ~Tim Ferriss 

“Either you run the day, or the day runs you.” Jim Rohn

“Once you have mastered time, you will understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year – and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade” ― Tony Robbins

“It’s not enough to just hope for a happy and healthy life; it’s a combination of mindset, routines and habits working together that will get you there.”  Robyn Downs

Recommended Reads:

Atomic Habits- www.jamesclear.com

Indistractable - https://www.nirandfar.com

Fear keeps us from sharing our truth.  Learn three areas of life to share our emotions.  Practice mindfulness and emotional intelligence to share our feelings.

Emotional word list for adults and kids:

https://tomdrummond.com/app/uploads/2019/11/Emotion-Feelings.pdf

https://hope4hurtingkids.com/emotions/understanding-emotions/emotions-chart/?subscribe=error#blog_subscription-2

Indigo Girls, Closer To Fine

https://youtu.be/HUgwM1Ky228

Emotional intelligence is the ability to connect easily with emotions and make informed decisions to build a meaningful life.  Learn 5 components of EQ and 7 characteristics of emotionally intelligent adults.  

https://www.6seconds.org/2017/05/15/emotion-feeling-mood/

http://www.danielgoleman.info/purchase/

O.A.R. Shattered https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qa5Mawz92xU

Everyone is busy, let’s call it what it is.  Join in and learn tips to be intentional with our time to eliminate revenge bedtime procrastination.  

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/

Dog tastebuds - akc.org

Mary Carver - https://marycarver.com

Bedtime procrastination study https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2014.00611/full

A week in Colorado initiated curiosity of how crows can teach us about intentional communication.  What are three types of communication to focus on to communicate clearly to lessen arguments? 

Men are Like Waffles -- Women are Like Spaghetti (Bill & Pam Farrel)

“People who can’t communication think everything is an argument.”  ~unknown

Quoted lyrics from Vanilla Ice and Snoop Dogg

Answer three question to be confident and intentional requesting help.  Simple ways to offer your best help.

References: 

Helen Keller said “alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much.”

Definitions from M-w.com

Pretty Woman The Movie

Help!  The Beatles

Who do we let see ‘beneath our beautiful’?  Look at the masks we wear, when did we first put them on.  Learn to set them aside for authentic relationships and accept our vulnerability is our superpower. 

Labrynth - Beneath Your Beautiful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqIxCtEveG8

Brene Brown Daring Greatly: https://brenebrown.com

Excerpt from Chapter 2: Debunking Vulnerability Myths

Myth #1: Vulnerability is Weakness

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way our of the depths.  These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep loving concern.  Beautiful people don’t just happen.  Elisabeth Kueber Ross

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known.” ~Unknown

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody but yourself - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight, and never stop fighting.  ‘Staying real’ is one of the most courageous battles we will ever fight.” EE Cummings

Not every day does a favorite dance song double as great advice for living.  Who would have thought I would be using lyrics from Ice Ice Baby as inspiration for a podcast?  One of the lyrics I say regularly and didn’t put in here is ‘quick to the point, to the point no fakin’, which I use as motivation when a story goes rogue.  You are welcome for the bonus material. 

http://www.vanillaice.com

http://www.queenonline.com

One of the things I thought would get easier with age: friendship.   This episode is an introduction to friendship series.  What are the kinds of information we share, the stages of friendship and how to move through the stages to develop meaningful friendships.  

References:

Tyler Knott Gregson @tylerknott

Brené Brown @brenebrown

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