My 20s was my surface-level decade – but now in my 30s, I’m going deeper. Today I’m talking about how I’m making new friends as a single woman in her 30s, what’s changed about how I show up, and why you’ve got to go do the cool things if you want to meet the cool people.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:54 My 20s: The surface-level decade

05:41 Why you need aligned friends in your 30s

11:26 Gem 1: Someone you feel safe sharing with

14:09 Gem 2: The cool person who did the cool thing

21:44 Gem 3: Someone who comes back a decade later

31:05 Back to basics of building friendships

38:09 Must-dos for making new friends

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

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This is a love letter to anyone who has ever lived in a space that drains you, shrinks you, or makes you feel small. I went from air mattress surfing, pancake battered windows, signing an apartment sight unseen, living at my parents’ house as an adult… to manifesting my current apartment (aka safe haven of my dreams). Consider this proof that you can have everything you want in a living space.

Resources:

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:24 Air mattresses & pancake battered windows

18:07 Living at my parents’ house as an adult

22:52 Uncovering limiting beliefs

31:17 Finding my apartment

45:17 Refusing to settle

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

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This is a question I saw on TikTok that sparked some reflection… so what if we remove the struggle and replace it with ease? My version of this is removing the struggle when sharing my truth, whether it’s someone I’ve just met (my therapist’s intern), someone I’ve known for a while (my therapist), or someone I’ve known forever (my brother). Today we’re chatting about how to bring ease into conversations that normally feel difficult.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro: struggle vs ease

03:01 Removing the struggle when sharing in therapy

18:11 Removing the struggle when triggered by group chat

24:48 Closing thoughts

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

My life is now split into two parts: before tornado and after tornado. The in-between is a collection of the near-death thoughts I was having as the tornado came towards me. They all started with “I wish I would’ve _____.”

Deepest truths were revealed. And now I’m facing thosetruths. Let’s get into it.

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Timestamps:

00:00 When the tornado was approaching

05:48 Truth being revealed

07:49 Dilemma in the closet

14:00 Fear hangover

17:01 Protective bubbles

18:29 Clarity in rock bottoms

21:36 What the tornado is telling me

33:28 The tools I’m using

35:51 Why do I think this is never gonna happen?

38:53 Diving deep into my subconscious

40:01 What I need to step through

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

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How many “I’m fine”-s does it take before you respond with the truth? I thought the limit didn’t exist. Then my friend staged the most supportive 3-part intervention that pushed me to give an honest answer. Today I’m sharing the method that got me to open my eyes to the biggest change that’s needed in my life right now (in career *asmr voice*). Maybe this will help you face whether you're okay, too.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro: Half-baked feelings

03:28 Why my friend asked if I’m okay

12:08 Convo 1

21:39 Convo 2

25:54 Exhaustion and backflips

34:51 Two trampolines

40:16 Convo 3

43:43 Closing thoughts

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

You know exactly what you want to change. But you don’t have the time, money, support, willpower, _____. The change feels daunting, and you don’t feel like you can help yourself. I was in this exact spot. I felt like absolute shit every second of every day. And I came face-to-face with a drastic lifestyle change: I could no longer eat the foods I was eating. Today I’m sharing what I’ve found to be the most impactful steps in making profound change.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

03:03 How I got myself into trouble

06:40 Why this lifestyle was an issue

08:08 Ignoring the warning signs

09:35 When I knew I had to change

10:39 The first step towards change

15:29 The earth-shattering moment

18:27 Anxiety surrounding the change

24:34 Deciding to prioritize myself

25:30 How I actually made the change

35:45 All-in mindset

36:55 What drove me to change

38:22 Non-negotiables

43:55 Change is a double-edged sword

44:48 Impact on friendships

51:59 Helping yourself

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

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You’ve heard it before: you’re the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. But what happens if you don’t resonate with those people? How do you replace those people with ones you’re obsessed with? Once you’ve found people you’re obsessed with, how do you build deep connection? And how does this work when the five people are mostly coworkers? Today we're exploring the answers.

Resources:

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

04:11 How to remove people that don’t resonate

07:45 The power of collective energy

10:05 When aligned people come into your life

13:39 Greyrocking: Learning when not to use it

19:39 Using love languages as a tool

26:18 Benefits of being obsessed with the people you spend the most time with

27:39 What the people around you are showing you

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

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The most difficult time to set and enforce boundaries is when you feel like your back is against the wall. But that’s precisely when you need to say no and create a boundary. Good news is I think I’ve cracked the code on how to set boundaries at work in a way that protects yourself, strengthens your relationships, builds trust, and turns people into advocates. I’m sharing it all today.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

03:22 How do you know when you need boundaries? Where?

05:04 The 3 layers of the boundaries world

05:44 When you set boundaries with others

19:48 When others set boundaries with you

22:54 When you tell people it’s ok to set boundaries with you

28:56 Boundaries create space for wonderful things

31:15 If you have trouble saying no

33:43 If you need to re-negotiate boundaries

34:08 Remember this

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

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My most googled question from the ages of 28-30 was: am I gonna be okay? Followed by: any uplifting stories of Saturn Returns? The search results weren’t making me feel any better. Shit was hitting the fan in my life, and I knew there were lessons I needed to learn. I started tracking what happened daily so that I could later tell an uplifting story about my Saturn Return. Today’s the day to be uplifted.

Resources:

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

03:06 What Saturn Return is asking you to do

07:44 1st Pass of Saturn: Lessons to learn

13:53 2nd Pass of Saturn: Limiting beliefs became clear

27:31 3rd Pass of Saturn: Things got exciting

29:04 What happened right after my Saturn Return

32:00 What I’ve learned from my Saturn Return

33:01 How my Saturn Return changed me

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Today I’m sharing my experience of taking 18+ months off work to recover from burnout, navigating people projecting their own fear onto me, letting go of rigid views of what a “perfect” next step looks like, and manifesting an aligned marketing job that allowed me to more than double my compensation (vs my previous job). Consider this your inspo to not settle.

Resources:

Tools I used for subconscious reprogramming and inner child work were from To Be Magnetic. Learn more at tobemagnetic.com.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Taking a break can get you more money

2:42 How I got burnt out

6:00 My daily routine when recovering from burnout

7:49 Navigating social gatherings without a job

9:51 How I started to rebuild myself

11:33 Figuring out what’s next

14:04 The concept of a bridge job

16:55 Defining what I’d want in a bridge job

19:17 Letting go of the rigid view

23:56 Saying no

25:45 When an immediate no turned into a yes

27:16 Interviewing when you’ve been on a work break

30:07 Why society is wrong about work breaks

30:51 The most annoying frequently asked question

32:33 Finding an aligned job

34:16 Building my brand as someone who says no

35:35 Don’t settle, you’ve got this

Where to find me:

Video podcast also available on YouTube.

YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠

TikTok: @allie_bowes

Instagram: @allie_bowes

Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.