“Instead of praying for what you want, I want you to start praying that you can hold it when it arrives.” - Bryn Daylor

In this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn introduces the concept of a "dangerous prayer"—something her right-hand woman named but that Bryn realizes she's been praying her whole life. She shares the story of setting an intention before an event, only to spend the night at an emergency vet with her dog, and how showing up exhausted became the very answer to her prayer. From insights gained in a mastermind room of million-dollar entrepreneurs to understanding why sudden success often collapses, Bryn explores what it really means to expand your capacity. 

Takeaways

- The concept of "dangerous prayers" and why they cost you everything but give you more

- What expanded capacity actually looks like and the power of staying open where you used to collapse

- Why overnight success often crashes: the vessel isn't strong enough to hold the blessing

- The Kabbalistic concept of "bread of shame"—why receiving something unearned feels hollow

- How to apply the “mirror principle” to see if you’re wanting what you're not yet giving yourself or creating for others

Connect with Bryn: 

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

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In this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn opens up about one of the hardest places to be seen: money. She shares the story of a difficult business week when she wanted something she couldn’t afford, and how her partner Eli's response taught her about receiving love. Bryn explores why creating space for support isn't neediness, it's necessary, and why letting a man show up for you is one of the most loving things you can do for both of you.

Takeaways

- The difference between shrinking in love versus creating space to be supported

- How receiving is a skill that must be practiced in small moments before it's available in big ones

- The concept of asking for help as data, and what this reveals 

- Why "Miss Independent Barbie" leaves no room for partnership and what to do instead

Connect with Bryn:

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

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In this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn interviews Whitney about her unexpected love story. When Whitney first came to work with Bryn, it wasn't about dating. She wanted help with creativity for her business. But when she started expressing herself more authentically in the world, something completely different happened: she found the kind of love that changes everything. Whitney shares the whole journey from feeling like something was missing despite doing everything "right" to attracting a completely different caliber of man.

Takeaways

- How working on authentic self-expression in one area (business) unexpectedly transformed Whitney's love life

- The specific moment Whitney caught herself stopping hiding in her real, everyday life and what that behavior change actually looked like

- What it looks like when someone shows up and loves you exactly as you are, mess and all

- The surprising side effects that can happen when you commit to being more seen in the world

Connect with Bryn:

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

“I didn’t need to learn how to make friends. I needed to learn how to stop hiding from them.” - Bryn Daylor

In this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn gets raw about the messy truth of female friendship — the wounding we’ve caused and carried, and how most of us learned to be likeable instead of known. From writing a brutal breakup letter to a friend in elementary school to finally collapsing at her best friend’s doorstep, she shares the story of what it took to stop performing and start letting women actually see her.

Takeaways

- How most of us have been both the perpetrator and victim in female friendships, creating walls that keep women from really seeing us

- How prioritizing being liked over being known keeps us performing strength instead of experiencing real intimacy

- Why real female friendship isn’t about finding perfect women, but becoming someone who lets women in

- The difference between trauma dumping and authentic vulnerability

- A question to sit with: is there a woman in your life right now who is trying to see you — and you keep showing her the curated version?

Connect with Bryn: 

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

"Getting stuck in healing work is just another expensive version of hiding." - Bryn Daylor

In this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn shares her healing journey and the uncomfortable realization that led her to question everything. From a confronting encounter with a well-known men’s coach at a festival to the collective lies we’ve absorbed about what healing is supposed to look like, she explores the difference between healing as transformation and healing as expensive procrastination.

Takeaways

- The four collective lies keeping us stuck

- How the healing industry has conflated depth with darkness, making us believe heavier sessions are more legitimate

- Why you are the ultimate authority on your own experience, and nobody gets to tell you that you need healing

- The three things that actually move the needle: taking action, letting yourself be vulnerable and seen, and time

- The difference between healing from brokenness vs healing as nourishment

Connect with Bryn: 

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

“The goal was never visibility. The goal was always freedom from needing it.” -Bryn Daylor

In this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn explores the unexpected paradox of visibility and the three stages most of us move through on the path to true freedom. She shares a raw moment from a festival where a stranger’s observation shifted her entire perspective on what it means to be seen.

Takeaways

- The three stages of being seen: feeling invisible, desperately wanting to be seen, and choosing invisibility again

- How the aching desire to be seen, though painful, is a crucial part of the path to true freedom

- The importance of actively breaking out of invisibility while not chasing clout or attention for the wrong reasons

- Why the ability to choose to tell your story, or not, comes from a place of peaceful power and wholeness

For 10% off Golden Rule Mushrooms, use Bryn’s code bryn10 at this link: https://goldenrulemushrooms.com/coupon-code/bryn10/shop/

Connect with Bryn: 

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

Being Seen in Love: BTS of Our Swiss Elopement ft. Eli Facenda

"Underneath all of that fear was just an extraordinary amount of love that wanted to surface. We were literally reaching a new limit in how much love we could hold at once." – Eli Facenda

In this episode, Bryn is joined by her husband Eli Facenda to tell the full story of their Swiss elopement. From planning a big Italian wedding and scrapping it, to writing their vows the morning of, to crying and laughing in bed the night before. 

This one is equal parts love story and permission slip.

Takeaways

- The "order the steak twice" philosophy — and how it became the framework for every decision they made about their wedding and their life together

- Why the fear you feel before a massive commitment isn't a red flag — it might just mean you're upper limiting and expanding into more love than you've ever held

- What it actually looks like to strip a wedding down to only the 10 out of 10 elements and let go of everything else

- How writing their vows the morning of — with zero stress — was a masterclass in self-trust and surrender

- What eloping gave them that a traditional wedding simply couldn't

- And what’s next on their agenda with babies, moving, etc.

Connect with Bryn:

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

“Aim higher, because even if you miss, which you probably will, you’ll still hit your target.”

In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn explores what it actually takes to stop playing small.

She shares the moment she finally signed up for an improv class after talking about it for nearly a year, and how that one decision led to a storytelling class that changed the trajectory of her creative life.

This episode explores how the people you surround yourself with expand what you believe is possible, why aiming higher matters, and the power of taking the next courageous step before you feel fully ready.

Takeaways

- Why your environment shapes what you believe is possible

- How spending time in the energy of the person you’re becoming changes your decisions

- Why you need core beliefs to return to when doubt shows up

- The power of taking the next aligned step instead of waiting for the perfect plan

Connect with Bryn: 

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

“Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.” — Glennon Doyle

In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn unpacks the part no one warns you about when it comes to visibility.

Most women say they want to be seen. Very few are willing to be misunderstood.

But being seen requires the willingness to be misunderstood and to disappoint. And that resilience lives in the part of you that refuses to abandon yourself.

Bryn calls her your inner b*tch.

Takeaways

- The 3 stages of being seen: laying the foundation, clearing the old, and stepping into visibility

- Why disappointment is the price of self-trust

- What your “inner b*tch” actually is (and what she’s not)

- Why women equate being liked with being safe

- How to stop over-explaining and start tolerating discomfort

- Practical ways to build the muscle of self-loyalty

Connect with Bryn: 

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts

“If you don’t feel like a fraud at some point, you probably haven’t touched the real dream yet.” — Bryn Daylor

In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn takes you inside the beginning of her book journey: a lifelong dream suddenly becoming real.

And then immediately being hit with the question, “Who the f**k do I think I am to create this?”

If you’ve been wanting to start the book, the podcast, the Substack — and suddenly feel like a fraud…

This episode will remind you: That feeling isn’t a stop sign.

It’s initiation.

But only if you allow it to be ;)

Takeaways

- Why imposter feelings are a sign you’re expanding

- The sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up (worry, criticism, even getting sick)

- The fear of outshining and why it keeps women small

- Why comparison often means you’re on the right path

Connect with Bryn: 

Instagram: @bryndaylor

Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts