A Little Help For Our Friends

Self-Hatred: Wrestling With The Hidden Demon


Listen Later

Message us here!

Have you ever had the unsettling realization that perhaps you don't like yourself very much? That underneath all your accomplishments, relationships, and hard work, there's a persistent voice whispering that you're somehow fundamentally flawed? In this very personal episode, we dive into the connection between childhood trauma and the development of negative core beliefs that can manifest as self-loathing. When children experience abuse or emotional neglect, especially from parents who refuse to acknowledge their harmful behavior, the child often internalizes the belief that they're inherently bad, broken, or unlovable.

What makes this particularly painful is how these beliefs become woven into the fabric of our identity. The path toward healing begins with recognizing that self-hatred isn't your true voice—it's a protective strategy developed when you had no other options. By approaching these disowned parts with curiosity and compassion rather than fear, we can begin to release their grip on our lives. While we may never receive the validation and accountability we deserve from those who hurt us, we can find new ways to nurture and accept those wounded parts of ourselves.

Whether you're struggling with self-criticism or supporting someone who is, this episode offers an intimate peek into understanding how early trauma shapes our relationship with ourselves and practical steps toward reclaiming the parts we've been taught to fear and hate. 

**If you or someone you love struggles with self hatred, book a call to see how Dr. Kibby with KulaMind can help. 

Support the show

  • If you're navigating someone's mental health or emotional issues, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, we'll help you set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one.


  • Follow @kulamind on Instagram for podcast updates and science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive.


  • For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com
...more
View all episodesView all episodes
Download on the App Store

A Little Help For Our FriendsBy Dr. Kibby McMahon

  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9

4.9

135 ratings


More shows like A Little Help For Our Friends

View all
10% Happier with Dan Harris by 10% Happier

10% Happier with Dan Harris

12,748 Listeners

Up First from NPR by NPR

Up First from NPR

56,739 Listeners

Love to See It with Emma and Claire by Claire Fallon, Emma Gray

Love to See It with Emma and Claire

5,656 Listeners

U Up? by Betches Media

U Up?

14,506 Listeners

Call Her Daddy by Alex Cooper

Call Her Daddy

165,121 Listeners

Not Skinny But Not Fat by Dear Media, Amanda Hirsch

Not Skinny But Not Fat

6,172 Listeners

The Viall Files by Nick Viall

The Viall Files

25,619 Listeners

Your Mom & Dad by Audioboom Studios

Your Mom & Dad

23,238 Listeners

On Purpose with Jay Shetty by iHeartPodcasts

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

27,451 Listeners

Game of Roses by Game of Roses

Game of Roses

5,336 Listeners

ShrinkChicks by Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT

ShrinkChicks

741 Listeners

Dear Shandy by Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine

Dear Shandy

3,770 Listeners

We Can Do Hard Things by Treat Media and Glennon Doyle

We Can Do Hard Things

41,500 Listeners

She's All Bach by shesallbach

She's All Bach

1,083 Listeners

The Mel Robbins Podcast by Mel Robbins

The Mel Robbins Podcast

20,637 Listeners