Self Improvement, Mindfulness and Mental Health Tips - The Coached Soul Podcast

In the past, parents believed that using guilt and shame as disciplinary tools was the most effective way to teach their children right from wrong. However, research has shown that this discipline style can negatively affect a child's self-esteem, self-worth, and overall mental health. As parents, it is crucial to understand how our words and actions impact our children and strive to create a positive environment for them. Communicating with children is critical, and Steve and Kenya discuss the importance of words in parenting. How we speak to our children has implications for their development into adulthood. Unconditional love involves setting boundaries and disciplining when necessary while consistently reinforcing the message that the child is loved and valued. This means being a constant source of comfort, security, and assurance that they are loved unconditionally, no matter their challenges. Parents must understand the power of their words and actions and strive to create a positive and loving environment for their children. 

In their podcast, Steve and Kenya highlight the significance of men communicating with women courteously and sympathetically. They stress the value of active listening, being aware of the tone and body language used, and refraining from behaving defensively or aggressively while communicating with women. Men should aim to comprehend and demonstrate compassion towards women and avoid actions contributing to harmful stereotypes or maintaining gender inequalities. Above all, men should prioritize creating an environment where women feel heard, appreciated, and esteemed. This can be accomplished by being receptive, empathetic, and encouraging in all interactions with women. Men must understand and exercise practical communication skills, which foster healthy relationships and empower women to express themselves freely by creating an emotionally safe place.

Is there an underlying message that women convey to men? The phrase "You're not listening" is a form of shaming that may have originated from the wounds inflicted by parents, and it can impact present communication between genders. Therefore, checking our internal emotional state before speaking is essential because avoidance is not a conscious reaction. Communication stems from within and is projected onto the other, making understanding how women can effectively communicate with men crucial. In this regard, the podcast of Kenya and Steve on communication can be enlightening. Communication cannot flourish in a hierarchical relationship, and Kenya shares her experiences of improving herself and her marriage through effective communication. Click the “Learn More” link for the podcast on the topic of women communicating with men.

Steve and Kenaya's discussion on embracing who we are in communication is an essential reminder that our interactions with others are influenced by how we see ourselves. If we have a low sense of self-value, we will likely behave in ways that compromise our self-respect and self-worth. We may find ourselves in toxic relationships or constantly seeking validation from others. On the other hand, if we have a strong sense of self-value, we are more likely to respect ourselves and others, speak up for ourselves, and set healthy boundaries. We become less dependent on external validation and are more confident in our decisions and choices. Do you check out in conversations with your partner because your voice matters? They talk about how women can stop giving their power away in communication.

Steve is excited to have Kenya as the new co-host. Kenya is a musician and does music therapy to guide women to embrace their true selves, overcome past trauma, and find their unique voice. As a musician, she understands the power of tuning into your mind's voice, and she's even written a song on how to rid ourselves of "Being the Victim." In today's episode, we'll explore ways to disengage from negativity and tap into the positive frequencies that empower us to evolve. We'll also discuss methods to recognize and break free from repeating habits and trauma as Kenya shares her insights on how cultivating compassion, seeing what's needed to move beyond oneself, and honoring oneself can lead to self-growth.

This podcast, "I'm Fine" is phrase that should depend on the context and relationship. A deeper conversation can be prompted if there is genuine concern for the person. In more casual situations, an acknowledgement with care can suffice. People should also recognize moments when "I am fine" isn't honest. Addressing emotional and psychological needs can allow for constructive solutions.

In the second part of the podcast, Steve joins Kenya to discuss ways in which individuals can overcome feelings of inadequacy. Kenya emphasizes the importance of assessing whether one's needs are being met and identifies how factors from our past may influence our present state through a specific combination of "frequency, vibration and code." She then shares strategies on how to channel a healthier version of oneself by breaking free from a hypnotic state of negativity and insecurity and bravely owning one's power and voice. Ultimately, Kenya encourages listeners to consider whether it's more painful to continue living in the dark or to take ownership of their own voices.

During his interview, Steve spoke with Kenya, a co-author of My Two Cents of Self-Love, about her background of abandonment and how she overcame it. Kenya, who hails from Brazil, came to America when she was 22. Despite experiencing trauma, she could identify "magic moments" from her childhood that helped her on her path to healing. When her bio father left her at 3, Kenya internalized that as a personal failure. Her deep-seated "code" was that her power hurt other people; this led to recurring trauma that eventually prompted her to pursue a degree in music therapy. Through this experience, she reprogrammed her inner dialogue to believe that her power empowers others. Steve and Kenya discuss how she overcame her trauma and found strength within herself with a new influential power of self-love. 

On his podcast, Steve converses with Christine Jones, who serves as a school teacher, parent, and foster parent and has also penned a a chapter to be include in an international number one best-selling book about self-love. Christine shares her insights with women on how to improve their self-love and delves deeper into her personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of looking within rather than evaluating oneself based on external factors. Furthermore, Christine is designing a curriculum to encourage the discussion of self-love and building healthy circles amongst teachers and students. She strongly believes in understanding the perspective of children and their initial struggles and desires to assist them in their endeavors. Christine's passion for teaching stems from her involvement as a foster parent for autistic children.

During his podcast, Steve interviews Christine Jones, a school teacher who shares her newfound experience of publishing in an internationally bestselling book. The conversation centers around Christine's passion for becoming a teacher and the satisfaction she derives from impacting young minds positively. She emphasizes her desire to assist parents in generating ideas to help their children and highlights the importance of developing strong connections with her students to guide them towards successful outcomes in high school. Christine reflects on her book chapter named "My Sweet Struggle," in which she shares her journey of recognizing her self-love stemmed from her accomplishments instead of genuine self-acknowledgment. The chapter explores how her childhood years were impacted when she moved and how it affected her self-love.