I love that we're talking about setting healthy boundaries and the idea of boundaries is way more popular today. What I don't love is when controlling behaviour is disguised as boundaries. Today's episode is my own personal experience with boundaries and what I've learned about them. From being a person who couldn't recognise my own boundaries and at times, perhaps even attempted to control others due to my own insecurities, to being a person on the other side of that and saying no, I don't agree - I'm bringing my perspective and share some stories.

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Do you find yourself fulfilling the role of the rescuer or hero for others? And yes, I totally understand that you have great intentions and you're probably very empathetic too, you probably just want to help. Stepping into this role and concerning ourselves with what's going on for others more than we are concerned for ourselves doesn't lead to healthy relationships where both people thrive. Today's episode is about recognising that and becoming aware of it in yourself so that you can step out of this role and into being a supporting character in other people's stories instead.

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Today I'm sharing five valuable lessons I've learned about relationships. In a sense, these are things I wish I truly knew when I was younger but I guess sometimes we just have to learn the hard way.

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I didn't think it could happen but I had a panic attack while out at sea last week. Throughout that day I felt frustrated with myself, seeing it as a setback after all the work I've done to move through my fears in the water. But after some reflection, I realised it's not a setback at all. It's just me and another layer of myself presenting itself allowing me insight. Today's episode is about what I learned and to share some encouragement if you hit these bumps along your journey too.

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The idea of starting again can be daunting. Whether that's moving cities and countries, changing careers, ending a relationship or recognising the current path isn’t aligned with what we really want. Our Western culture doesn't prepare us to start again...and again and again. The reality is, we are unlikely to set forward on one path and stick to it forever. That's certainly been my experience. In today's episode, I share my experience with starting over in many areas of my life and what I've learned from it all.

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At the end of recording the last episode on forgiveness, I realised another aspect of forgiveness I had missed - forgiving myself when I've hurt someone. As someone who certainly doesn't like hurting people and often feels enormous guilt when I do, this has been hard to reconcile with myself. Ultimately, this has come down to understanding, compassion, learning, and letting go.

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Forgiveness requires both decision and action and can be transformative. In my experience, I’ve learned and become more self-aware through wrestling with forgiveness and ultimately it’s led to greater peace within me. Today I share a bit about my journey in learning to forgive and reflect on this based on recent revelations of resentment I was holding onto.

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While I may be someone who embraces discomfort today, that wasn't always the case. I take you ALL the way back to one of my earliest discomfort challenges as a child and how that has stuck with me since. Stepping out of our comfort zone allows us to grow - but it can be scary and unnerving. Today, I talk about leaning into discomfort and some challenges that you can try to slowly embrace it and see the positive benefits it brings.

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Inspired by a conversation I had with my partner, today's episode briefly touches on the idea of non-reactivity to both negative and positive experiences. Something I've realized is that by becoming less reactive in the face of painful or turbulent situations, I've also become less impulsive when faced with random opportunities that present themselves.

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Fear is a natural emotion that has its purpose - to keep us safe from danger. But sometimes it's irrational or excessive and holds us back from achieving goals or living our lives in a way that's true to who we are. In today's episode, I share a bit about my experience with fear and some steps to co-exist with fear so that it doesn't take over.

(0:50) What are you afraid of? 

(1:49) We all experience fear 

(3:15) Identifying fear 

(5:10) What value do we attach to a particular fear?

(8:00) Exploring the origin of particular beliefs

(9:16) Create opportunities for discomfort and fears  

(18:17) Fear of failure 

(20:30) Practicing self-compassion

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