Breathing is a basic function that we all rely on for life. Most of us spend our lives breathing unconsciously and this short episode is all about bringing it back into consciousness.

Incorporating breathing exercises into your daily routine can have huge benefits to your physical and mental health. I talk about what conscious breathing is, some of its benefits, and various exercises you can do. I also guide you through an exercise to try wherever you are.

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Welcome to part II of my chat with Jenna Switzer, a friend I connected with over sex talk. Jenna is a holistic sex coach and yoga teacher trainer. Her work empowers others to experience confidence through empowered sexuality. She is passionate about using the tools of mindfulness, breathing practices, and movement to empower her clients physically and energetically. With 10 years of experience as a yoga teacher and trainer, Jenna creates a holistic approach by combining traditional teachings with modern research. She currently creates from her home in a small surf village in Southeast Asia.

Our discussion has been divided up into two episodes. In last week's episode, we spoke about the impact of the purity movement, the importance of communication in the bedroom and reframing the meaning of pleasure. In today's episode, healing from experiences with former partners, the importance of communication and addressing sensitive sex matters with your partner, how porn affects individuals and relationships and exploring pleasure in your everyday life.

What we discuss:

(00:26) Take orgasms off the table

(01:30) How long does it take to transform? 

(03:00) A simple tool to vocalise pleasure 

(05:30) Accepting another person’s truth as more valid

(08:50) Healing from experiences with former partners

(10:42) Addressing things with current partners

(13:17) The importance of clear communication

(15:09) How porn affects relationships

(21:10) Intuition for creating polarity in sexual pleasure 

(22:50) Exploring pleasure

(25:22) 3 Tools to a healthier bedroom life

Contact Jenna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenna_switzer/

Website: www.jennaswitzer.com 

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Sex is undeniably a huge part of life for most of us and yet is quite a taboo topic. Today, I sit down with Jenna Switzer, a friend who I connected with over sex talk. Jenna is a holistic sex coach and yoga teacher trainer. Her work empowers others to experience confidence through empowered sexuality. She is passionate about using the tools of mindfulness, breathing practices, and movement to empower her clients physically and energetically. With 10 years of experience as a yoga teacher and trainer, Jenna creates a holistic approach by combining traditional teachings with modern research. She currently creates from her home in a small surf village in Southeast Asia.

Our discussion has been divided up into two episodes and this is the first part where we talk about the impact of the purity movement, the importance of communication in the bedroom and reframing the meaning of pleasure. 

Join us next week for the second half. 

What we discuss:

(1:00) Introducing Jenna Switzer

(2:15) Jenna’s approach as a sex coach

(4:04) The shame around sex talk 

(6:16) Starting as a yoga teacher trainer

(8:58) Rebuilding the meaning of pleasure 

(12:48) Women orgasm less than men 

(14:35) Communication in sex

(16:42) How do you communicate outside of the bedroom?

(17:54) Addressing something that’s been going on for a while

(19:42) Ask questions

(20:43) Purity culture and its impact 

(23:52) We’re all champagne bottles of sex questions

(25:22) What can you do to reframe the meaning of pleasure? 

(30:29) Take orgasms off the table

Contact Jenna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenna_switzer/

Website: www.jennaswitzer.com 

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We all have a need for bonding. Attachment is an emotional bond that forms in early childhood based on our primary caregivers' behaviour. These cause unconscious patterns which form attachment styles that impact how we form adult relationships.

This is the final episode of a 3-part series on Attachment Styles. In this episode, I share some tips on how to manage your attachment style and how to help support those around you when you notice certain things come up for them. A lot of it really comes down to being more self-aware first then acting with vulnerability through a lens of compassion (both towards yourself and others). I recommend you read some of the resources below and find out your attachment style if you haven't already.

Resources mentioned:

Learn more about Attachment Theory:

What's your attachment style?

Great advice on attachment styles

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We all have a need for bonding. Attachment is an emotional bond that forms in early childhood based on our primary caregivers' behaviour. These cause unconscious patterns which form attachment styles that impact how we form adult relationships.

This is the second episode of a 3-part series on Attachment Styles. In this episode, I share about my attachment styles and the breakdown of my results. I also discuss what behaviours this has brought about in relationships and the struggle I've had with really trusting people. I recommend you read some of the resources below and find out your attachment style if you haven't already. Join me next week as I share some tips on how to manage your attachment style and how to help support those around you when you notice certain things come up for them.

Resources mentioned:

Learn more about Attachment Theory:

What's your attachment style?

Great advice on attachment styles

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We all have a need for bonding. Attachment is an emotional bond that forms in early childhood based on our primary caregivers' behaviour. These cause unconscious patterns which form attachment styles that impact how we form adult relationships.

This is the first episode of a 3-part series on Attachment Styles. In this episode, I talk about what attachment theory is and the 4 different attachment styles. If you're new to this topic, I recommend you read some of the resources below and find out your attachment style then join me next week as I talk about my attachment style and how it's impacted my relationships.

Resources mentioned:

Learn more about Attachment Theory:

What's your attachment style?

Great advice on attachment styles

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In a time where we are actively told to constantly be living our best life, this is just a reminder that you’re allowed to feel shitty. You can feel whatever it is you need to feel. The reality is, we are emotional beings capable of feeling a wide range of emotions and it’s healthy to do so. Pushing and forcing yourself to think positively when you're experiencing negative emotions just doesn't work - at least not for me. This week has been pretty tough and it's allowed me to think about and share what I like to do when I'm experiencing some overwhelmingly negative emotions.

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Our relationship with our parents can be complicated. Mine sure were (and still somewhat is now). Today I talk about my relationship with my mum, the various moments of tension that have built up over time and how it all came to a head with a big fight we had a year ago. This allowed us to have a very healing conversation and our relationship is now the best it has ever been.

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To celebrate International Women's Day I am bringing you an episode reflecting on the narratives I grew up with around being a "good woman". I discuss where these narratives came from and their impact on my behaviour (particularly with men). I reflect on my gratitude for the incredible women around me and then take a moment to embrace, celebrate and love all of the qualities about myself. Happy International Women's Day to all my ladies out there!

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Michael Nguyen is a fellow first-generation-born Australian with Vietnamese parents. He’s an English teacher in Perth who I’ve known for more than half of my life and who I more recently reconnected with over our similar experiences that led us to do self-work. Michael and I talk about the impact and implications of growing up as third-culture kids and taking on the burden of responsibility for our immigrant parents. We talk about how that shaped our decision-making in life, our relationships and ultimately the various challenges and benefits this kind of childhood left us with. We talk about the lessons we've learned through our divorces and how we've challenged the narratives handed to us.

What we discuss

(00:20) Introduction to Michael

(02:27) Our familiar immigrant experiences

(05:55) Cultural implications aș a Vietnamese child

(07:23) We both started working from 12 years old

(11:17) The burden of responsibility as children

(12:27) The Hypothetical Mindset

(13:30) Third Culture Kids

(16:38) The system handed to us 

(20:00) When the narrative crumbles

(25:00) Ideology and its impact

(27:30) Antithetical thinking

(30:00) Life after separation 

(35:00) Navigating a life unravelled

(37:10) Disguises of desire

(41:10) Turning loneliness into solitude 

(45:00) Visualisation 

(50:10) Old patterns coming back 

(53:20) Relationships expose our shadows

(56:18) Recognising the root of our behaviour

(1:00:20) Reflecting on how I could have done better

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