We receive emails and questions regularly from listeners wanting to know what is normal when it comes to sex. 

Everyone wants to feel like they're normal, or at least not abnormal. 

So, what are some characteristics of normal when it comes to sex?

On the Xtended version …

Every person has some conditions that are necessary in order for them to enjoy sex. What are yours?

We go through some of the most common ones today.

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Gary Thomas joins me as we discuss his newest book, Making Marriage A Fortress.

We talk through the stories of couples who have faced or are facing different kinds of struggles in married life.

It's not a question of if your marriage experiences struggles but when.

To learn more about Gary Thomas check out his site https://garythomas.com/

And read more from him here - https://garythomas.substack.com/

On the Xtended version ...

Gary and I talk through the concept of the addiction model and how can we help God's people be more real and honest with each other.

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Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR.

Dr Stephen Snyder joins me again to talk about all things sex.

Namely, what if we're doing it all wrong?

Could it be that what we think makes sex good - isn't actually a good qualifier to use?

To learn more about Dr Snyder check out his site https://www.sexualityresource.com/

On the Xtended version ...

Stephen and I shift the conversation to the statement he's made before about how better communication can ruin sex.

But I thought we were supposed to learn how to communicate better? Nope.

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Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR. 

An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it's the husbands fault.

A husband emails wanting to know if taking a break from pursuing sex with his lower desire wife would help reset things for them both.

On the Xtended version ...

Are there delay tactics used in marriage and sex to avoid things we don't want to participate in or follow through with?

How do you do this in your life? Let us know. 

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Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me again on the show. Today we talk about the research she has found regarding the importance of touch in our lives, and relationships. 

Touch means lots of things - but both the non-sexual and the sexual touch are vitally important in our marriages. 

Learn more about Dr Leavitt here https://www.chelomleavitt.com/

On the Xtended version …

Chelom and I talk through the topic of how to talk about sex with your kids. 

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Think of today's episode as a primer for everything we talk about on SMR.

What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage?

How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage?

In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch's Four Points of Balance.

On the Xtended version …

We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage.

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Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of women's sexual health - specifically the world of menopause and perimenopause.

Let's face it, every woman will face these stages in life - what are the things you need to ask, know and do to help you through this life stage?

Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/

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Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surrounding fantasies and sex.

On the Xtended version …

Justin and I continue the conversation about fantasies and discuss more about where they come from and what to do with them.

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Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his work in this area.

Learn more about Jay and his work here - https://jay-stringer.com/

On the Xtended version …

Jay and I dive into his research on the subject of sexual brokenness and porn and trauma. How do you deal with unwanted sexual behaviors in your life when they may be coming from things in your past?

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A conversation about men and what it is we really need from men in our marriages, families and societies with author Brant Hansen.

How can a guy who plays the flute and accordion and with puppets write a book about manliness?

What is so terrible about men who are passive?

What should we as men really be doing in our lives and relationships?

Learn more about Brant here https://branthansen.com 

On the Xtended version …

We talk about how our society has become the world of the perpetually offended, and what can we do about it. 

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