Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it.

Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control.

Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relationship. 

Takeaways

People have different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others.

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A listener emails in about a fear he has that his girlfriends physical appearance may lead to potential performance issues if they get married. Even though she is perfect in every way!

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This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships.

We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection.

Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the need for emotional de-armoring and a slow, spacious progression in physical intimacy.

Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and collaboration in creating a better connectedness within the dynamic of a relationship.

Learn more about Irene here - https://www.irenefehr.com/

Takeaways

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to be highly responsive and sensitive to their environment, both sensorially and energetically.

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Pam and I give our take on the concept of Highly Sensitive People. 

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Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue.

And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't.

Now what do both these couples do?

Takeaways

Recognize that others are facing similar challenges in their marriages

We dive into the aspect of obligation and duty sex that happens in marriage. It's really all about power and selfhood.

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This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got.  We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships.

We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the role of playfulness in sex, suggesting that couples should approach it as a form of play rather than a task.

By cultivating a sense of awe and prioritizing pleasure, couples can create a more fulfilling and enjoyable sex life.

Learn more about Sam here - https://www.samjolman.com/

Takeaways

Sensuality and sexuality are not the same, but they overlap. Sensuality is about engaging the senses and experiencing pleasure in various aspects of life.

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We keep the conversation going and explore the impact of religious and cultural influences on sexuality and relationships. We challenge the notion of purity as the goal of sexuality and highlight the importance of pleasure and reverence in sexual experiences.

The conversation also addresses the objectification of women and the pressure on men to conform to societal expectations. It emphasizes the need for self-respect, respect for others, and the integration of sensuality in healthy ways.

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Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health.

He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function.

He also introduces the concept of using soft elastomer rings to enhance sexual performance and improve relationships. The rings can help men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse.

Learn more about Dr Justin and the technology here https://myfirmtech.com

Takeaways

Nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's sexual and cardiovascular health.

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Today we explore the importance of learning how to talk with your spouse about sex, highlighting the importance of naming your intention, remembering that you're on the same team, and using soft and tactful language.

We also cover the need to go slow, listen more than you speak, and have an honest discussion about saying no.

Our conversation concludes with a reminder to be compassionate with yourself and your spouse.

Takeaways

When discussing sensitive topics like sex with your spouse, name your intention and approach the conversation with a soft and tactful language.

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In the XTD content, is there a difference between having sex and being sexual?

We flesh out this idea as well as give some steps we can take to be more sexual in life and marriage.

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This week is a Best Of SMR!

Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage.

Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch.

The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and difficulties with penetration. There is pressure and guilt associated with these issues and we offer suggestions for relieving them.

Takeaways

Ticklishness can affect sexual encounters and set the stage for intimacy.

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In the XTD content, a husband has no attraction towards his wife, and while he kinda thought this may be an issue while they were dating, their honeymoon confirmed it.

What should he do now?

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This week is a Best Of SMR!

A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography. 

A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it. 

Takeaways

Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and honest communication.

It is important to separate one's own worth and value from a spouse's struggles or actions.

Each individual has the power to redefine their beliefs and values about sex and intimacy, regardless of their upbringing.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we explore the idea of what is normal. Is this even the right question?

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On today's episode we we revisit an old episode of SMR.

Our conversation explores the concept of intimacy anorexia and the pain of love cycle of abuse and neglect in marriage.

We discuss the experience of being in a sexless marriage and the frustration of not having one's physical needs met. We also examine the dynamics of deliberate withholding of love and intimacy and the cruelty that can arise from it.

Takeaways

Intimacy in a relationship involves both knowing and being known.

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In the XTD content, we continue the best of SMR by revisiting Kate Bowler's helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else’s grief or loss or struggle.

Words we all need to learn and use. Or stop using.

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On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex.

We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis.

What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and one's spouse.

Takeaways

Open and honest conversations are essential for a healthy marriage and sex life.

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In the XTD content, another listen into the last part of the Q&A session at 2024 SMR Getaway.

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