Share the Load

We talk about how our preferences in dating are shaped by the media and our environment and what we can do to challenge them in order to try not to perpetuate harmful systems of oppression to the best of our ability. To support the show please consider joining the Patreon at Patreon.com/sharetheload. You can find CJ on Instagram @cjkittenmiller.

In case you missed it: Judy of @hearmefinance and I talk about whether or not consent is possible within a Capitalist system on this special episode of Share the Load. We originally had this conversation on IG Live on 3/24/22.

Apologies for the garbled audio. It gets much better in the second half.

We’ll be back with our regularly scheduled programming next time!

You can watch the video version on Youtube with subtitles.

You can apply for the Share the Load Somatic Consent Educator Training until April 11.

www.sharetheloadinc.com IG: @consent.wizardry

Welcome back! This is the first episode of the show in its new structure as a call-in advice show. We talk about dating as a genderqueer person, boundaries in work, and creating that feeling of fear in a safe way in bed.

People I mention on this episode: Lina Dune of @askasub, Oumou Sylla @connectwithoumou, Meenadchi, and Rachel Flesher @rayro22.

You can see classes, the educator training, and more at sharetheloadinc.com.

If you’d like to have your call answered on the show, call (213) 290-0610 or email a voice note or written question to [email protected].

To support the show, join the Patreon which is a self-paced learning space with journal prompts, exercises, discount codes and more. You can write a review and rate it wherever you’re listening, or share it with friends.

Oumou Sylla (@connectwithoumou) and I discuss decolonizing therapy, reimagining labor, and self energy.

Their influences are:

1. bell hooks and Assata Shakur

2. James Baldwin

3. The death of Black children at police hands.

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Gutierrez. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

Cory Bush (@thecorybush) is a full spectrum doula, sex educator, and childbirth educator-in-training. They support birthing people and beyond in finding empowerment at the intersection of evidence based information and personal intuition.

Their influences:

1. Father’s traumatic brain injury

2. Lito, the musician

3. Their mother

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Gutierrez. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

CW: suicidal ideation, animal abuse

Mona Eshaiker (@monalmft) and I discuss the honeymoon phase, learned helplessness, and asking for help.

Her influences:

1. Spirituality

2. Louis Hay

3. Asking for help

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Gutierrez. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

MI Leggett (@official_rebrand) and I discuss finding his identity though fashion, greenwashing, and the importance of play.

Their Influences:

1. Reading Testo Junkie while starting Testosterone.

2. Playing dodgeball with Ariana Gil of Brujas

3. Painting penises on clothes

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $3 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

Dr. Jon P. Higgins (@doctorjonpaul) and I discuss how they cope with society by laughing, finding radical joy, and becoming their authentic self.

Their influences:

1. Bayard Rustin

2. Audre Lorde

3. Tre’vell Anderson 

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

Xenon Universe (@xenonopaluniverse) and I discuss him committing to his identity and authenticity as a performer, being a choosy bird of paradise about who he works with, and holding and nurturing the little person inside of him. 

His influences:

1. His relationships with other trans people

2. Kali Uchis, Emma Ruth Rundle, Junglepussy

3. Self care 

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

CW: sexual assault, rape, self-harm, and a mention of blood

Sydney Rae Chin (@sydneyraechin) and I discuss putting a price on sharing her healing journey, Title IX, and transformative justice. 

You can find Sydney on her website, SydneyRaeChin.com, her Patreon, on IG @sydneyraechin & @intuitivesurvivorguide, Twitter at @sraechin, and you can email her [email protected].

Her influences:

1. Audre Lorde

2. HATIWG Philly (Healing and Trauma-Informed Working Group)

3. Her ancestors and grandparents

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Photo of Sydney Rae Chin by Sheila Joy.  Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.