SHIFT Talking™

In this episode of Shift Talking, the Davina delves into the pervasive topic of New Year's resolutions and their true impact on personal growth. Debunking the myth of overnight transformation, Davina discusses the societal pressures that lead to setting unrealistic goals, and why such resolutions often result in disappointment. Highlighting research that shows only 8% of people achieve their resolutions, the episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic motivation over external pressures. Davina introduces the SHIFT framework to replace traditional resolution-setting, focusing on self-awareness, innovation through SMART goals, and fostering resilience. The episode also announces the upcoming 'Parental Shift' community for parents seeking support in managing stress and expectations. This episode serves as a guide for adopting a more sustainable and forgiving approach to personal development.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:11 The Problem with New Year's Resolutions

02:56 The Shift Framework: Self-Awareness

04:59 Innovation: Setting SMART Goals

15:30 Fortitude: Building Resilience

17:37 Transformation: Achieving Real Change

21:01 Conclusion and Community Announcement

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In episode 13 of Shift Talking, the Davina dives deep into the crucial but underrated topic of expectation management and its significant impact on personal relationships, parenting, and self-perception. The episode delineates how unrealistic expectations, when unmet, lead to conflict, disappointment, and emotional distress. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Davina illustrates practical ways to set realistic expectations, communicate needs effectively, and adjust perspectives using the SHIFT framework of self-awareness, healing, innovation, fortitude, and transformation. Listeners will also learn the importance of explicit communication in romantic relationships, parenting, and daily interactions to foster emotional regulation and satisfaction.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:22 Understanding Expectation Management

01:11 Expectations of Ourselves

05:18 Managing Expectations in Relationships

10:09 Expectations with Children

14:13 General Expectations and Daily Interactions

21:57 Applying the SHIFT Framework

32:19 Conclusion and Upcoming Topics

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Episode Summary: In this insightful episode of Shift Talking, host Davina Hehn explores the fascinating concept of emotional age and how it shapes our behaviors and responses in ways that might not align with our chronological age. Davina dives deep into why many of us feel “stuck” emotionally, the impact of trauma on emotional development, and how to recognize the signs of being emotionally out of sync.

Drawing on her expertise and personal reflections, Davina discusses:

• The critical role of emotional literacy and how it compares to learning a new skill, like reading.
• Why shame and judgment only hinder emotional growth.
• How trauma and life experiences can halt emotional development and create dissonance between emotional and physical age.
• The importance of self-awareness, introspection, and incremental progress in emotional growth.

Davina also shares practical steps to identify your emotional age, how to take inventory of your emotional responses, and why focusing on your own growth is the key to creating a healthier, more emotionally mature version of yourself.

This episode is a call to compassion—not just for others but also for yourself—as you navigate the journey of emotional healing and maturity.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How to differentiate between emotional age and chronological age.
• Ways to identify emotional "stunting" and its root causes.
• Practical exercises to assess and improve your emotional literacy.
• Why the stigma around emotional immaturity needs to end—and how to help make that shift.

Resources Mentioned:

• Previous episode: 10: Devillainizing Anger: What Your Brain is Really Doing When You're Mad (Part 2)
• Me & My Feelings Book on Amazon

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Have you ever felt like your role in relationships is naturally wired in a certain way? Maybe you find yourself stepping up as the caregiver, protector, or the one keeping things steady. Or perhaps your instincts lean toward partnership, connection, and equal collaboration. In this thought-provoking episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina Hehn introduces her "Born to Be Parent vs. Born to Be Partner" theory—an anecdotal framework that helps explain the natural inclinations we bring into our relationships.

Here’s what we’re unpacking in this episode:

• The Parent vs. Partner Theory: What it is, how it works, and why it matters in understanding relationship dynamics.
• Signs You Might Be a "Parent" or a "Partner": Key traits and behaviors that align with these roles.
• How These Dynamics Shape Relationships: Exploring the harmony—and friction—between these natural tendencies.
• Balancing the Two Roles: Practical insights to find equilibrium in your relationships and embrace your strengths.
• Why Understanding Your Role Leads to Deeper Connections: Using self-awareness as a tool to improve communication and harmony.

Whether you resonate with the parent, partner, or a bit of both, this episode offers a fresh lens to examine your relationships—and gives you the tools to navigate them with greater understanding and confidence.

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In the follow-up to our deep dive on anger, we’re taking a scientific turn to explore the neurochemistry behind this fiery emotion. What happens in your brain when you feel triggered? Why does anger sometimes feel uncontrollable, and what can we do about it? In this episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina Hehn unpacks the fascinating interplay between brain regions, hormones, and neurotransmitters that shape your experience of anger.

Here’s what we’re covering in this mind-expanding episode:

• Anger on the Brain: A breakdown of the amygdala, prefrontal cortex, and their roles in managing emotional responses.
• The Stress-Hormone Connection: How cortisol and adrenaline fuel your fight-or-flight reaction during moments of anger.
• Why Anger Feels So Powerful: The evolutionary purpose of anger and its impact on decision-making.
• Regaining Control: Practical strategies to regulate your brain’s response to anger without suppressing your emotions.
• The SHIFT Framework in Action: Applying neuroscience to shift from reaction to constructive expression.

Whether you’re curious about the science of emotions or looking for tools to better understand your own brain, this episode provides a fresh perspective on how to work with your anger instead of fighting against it.

Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that will forever change how you experience—and embrace—your anger.

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If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from some transformation. And as always, stay steady and keep your SHIFT together!

In this powerful episode of SHIFT Talking, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood human emotions: anger. Why do we villainize an emotion that's actually trying to protect us? Discover why anger isn't your enemy, but rather your internal armor - a signal that something needs your attention. Learn why your "anger management" might be missing the point entirely, and why the goal isn't to stop feeling angry, but to understand what your anger is trying to tell you. Through real-life examples, from road rage to relationship conflicts, we explore how anger serves as a secondary emotion, masking deeper, more vulnerable feelings beneath. This episode, part one of a two-part series, breaks down:

• Why anger gets unfairly villainized in society
• The crucial difference between anger and aggression
• How cultural influences shape our relationship with anger
• Understanding anger as protective armor rather than a threat
• Practical steps to transform your relationship with anger using the SHIFT framework

Whether you're someone who explodes with anger or bottles it up inside, this episode offers a fresh, nuanced perspective on embracing this natural emotion while learning to express it constructively. Join us for this perspective-shifting conversation that will forever change how you view your anger. Next week's episode will explore the fascinating neurochemistry behind anger and what happens in your brain when you get triggered.

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If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from some transformation. And as always, stay steady and keep your SHIFT together!

In this episode of Shift Talking, Davina Hehn dives deep into the powerful concept of self-transformation. She explores what it truly means to transform, not just on the surface, but in our core values, behaviors, and mindset. Transformation isn’t about becoming someone new but aligning with our most authentic selves. Davina outlines actionable steps to embrace change, set realistic goals, and navigate the challenges of personal growth with resilience and fortitude. Tune in to understand how you can harness your inner power to evolve and thrive.

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Trigger Warning: This episode includes detailed descriptions of death, the dying process, and imagery regarding a body nearing death. Listener discretion is advised.

Episode Overview: In this heartfelt episode, host Davina Hehn shares her recent experience with the passing of her grandmother. Davina opens up about how she guided her children through the process of understanding and witnessing death for the first time. This episode serves as an example of how one might approach demystifying the concept of death and funerals for children, while acknowledging that this is just one approach and not a standard to replicate.

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In Episode 5 of SHIFT 1Talking, Davina Hehn explores the “F” in SHIFT—Fortitude. This episode centers on building and maintaining mental strength, resilience, and the ability to face life’s challenges with courage and determination. Davina discusses how fortitude plays a crucial role in personal growth and behavior change, providing actionable strategies for listeners to cultivate this powerful trait in their own lives.

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In Episode 4 of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn explores the “I” in SHIFT—Innovation in Communication. This episode delves into how we can revolutionize the way we connect with others, whether in personal relationships, professional settings, or within our communities. Davina shares actionable strategies for breaking old communication patterns and embracing new, more effective ways to interact and build relationships.

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If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe to SHIFT Talking and leave a review. Share this episode with friends, family, or colleagues who could benefit from a fresh approach to communication. Let’s continue to innovate how we connect and grow together!